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T O P I C R E V I E Walanabelle86Who has more faith when it comes to the relationship? And I mean faith in the relationship ITSELF..not so much in each other or in the personality (like being a faithful person)?I ask because I have Venus in Scorpio in my 1st house...and my boyfriend has his Venus in Sagittarius in the 3rd house. And I started out with 200% faith in us, even though we started out much rockier than we are now. And now, that we're pretty much.. perfect, I feel myself losing faith and I find myself confused about what I've always known, and that's been that I love him. And I DO love him with all my heart, and I never want to leave him. But it's like..I'm pushing him away, and being so nasty to him and I have no idea why. I know i've got abandonment issues, however, it's like I literally PUSH him away and want him to leave. and its so cruel and I've gotten better but I mean it's insane. It's happening with everyone I knowIt's like this overwhelming desire to be close but NOT too close to anyone or anything at the moment. And he's so clingy. I've always thought Venus in Sag in the 3rd wasn't clingy and that I would be, but we're so opposite. I pray for days that he wont call, or that he doesn't ask me to visit cuz I want alone time...yet he constantly needs to be no more than 2 inches away from me.It's odd...i didn't know if it was a Venus (1st house) thing withthe whole independence thing..or what. I was also thinking because he's got his natal Moon conj. Jupiter in the 5th house.. that it makes him exceptionally needy esp when it comes to love etc.Here's our Composite info...----Ascendant 13 LibraSun 27 Scorpio 2nd houseMoon 7 Scorpio 1st houseMercury 29 Scorpio 2nd houseVenus 1 Sagittarius 2nd houseMars 20 Sagittarius 3rd houseJupiter 29 Aquarius 5th houseSaturn 5 Sagittarius 2nd houseUranus 19 Sagittarius 3rd houseNeptune 3 Capricorn 3rd housePluto 6 Scorpio 1st houseNN 29 Aries 7th houseChiron 16 Gemini 9th houseany ideas or Comments...I'd prefer some Scorpio/Sag Venuses esp. ...I'm very confused------------------Libra Rising, Scorpio Sun, Leo MoonwhiterabbitWhat aspects do you have to your Venus, natally? That may give us a clue to why you are feeling this way.Also, on a non-astrological note, it is fairly normal to go through a period like this, no matter what your Venus sign. Most of us go through a phase where we need to detach from everybody for a while, have some time alone.ALSO- the Venus retrograde seems to be doing funny things to everybody- would you say these feelings began around Christmas? If so, wait until the beginning of February and see if you feel any better/different (Venus goes direct on the 3rd, I believe)And finally,I have noticed that Scorpio placements (Sun,Moon,Venus especially) often bring a strange paradox into an individual- incredible intensity of feeling but also a need to detach when the other person is equally as, or more "involved" than you.Also, you metioned "having faith" when things were difficult but now that they have settled down and become comfortable you are not so sure any more.. I've noticed Scorpios often feel that the only things which are valuable to have are those that they need to struggle for- it seems like it's the only way they can trust the value of anything..even a relationship.Could it be any of those thing? wrpixelpixieWhiterabbit, I agree with that statement... The idea that when someone feels more than I do, I balk and want to push them away.. and I feel to struggle is more challenging I suppose...Hard to put into words, exactly, more a feeling and experiences I have been having of late.GemStarAlso...check to see if Saturn in Leo is squaring your natal Venus in Scorpio at the moment. This transit would also lend towards the feelings you are experiencing at this time. GemStarPS-And with both Venus and Saturn retrograde, you may be feeling a double whammy of energy at the moment if Saturn is squaring your n. Venus.astro junkiealanabelle86 -I think a Venus in Sag in the 3rd WOULD be have a little more of a detached style when it comes to romance, than a Venus in Scorpio in the 1st. But look at your Composite! Sun, Moon, Mercury & Pluto in Scorpio, some in the 1st House!It may not be HIM you are acting weird towards, but the dynamics of the relationship itself. I think those with strong Scorpio influences tend to react to the dynamics of a relationship more than with the actual person, once they decide they want to get involved. This is because Scorpio Rules sex, plus it needs to have a certain feeling of being in control. Perhaps you feel the relationship itself is taking over!And if HE is feeling more needy than he has normally felt in the past, again, it may be the Composite pulling him in with all that Scorpio.------------------ ... it's better to light a candle than curse the darknesssthenriI dated an Aqua with Venus in the 1st and he would need a lot of alone time, so I kind of left him alone for good.Maybe you have other things to think about besides the relationship and so when you are with him too much it makes you feel you are losing your identity? If you can express that to him in a sensitive way, it will help. Mention metaphors, how you need to feel you are driving that train, or king of your own castle, or alone to be lazy.Encourage him to make plans in his life too, look to his career and be supportive. Are some of his plans for both of you too much for you to handle?An easy way to fix this is to use the we word more often, in that YOU use it first before he has a chance to talk. We could go to a movie on Thursday so I can be alone to study/work on Wednesday.Does that work? (you may be doing this already)When a man feels too close to me it's usually a 3rd house influence. It's because he will talk about things that you feel uncomfortable about. Does he bring up certain subjects that you would rather not touch? some communication is necessary about the way you two talk to each other. sounds like verbal clinging rather than physical, is this right?Natashaalanabelle86Natally, I have Venus conj. Pluto and Mercury, trine Jupiter, square Moon and Mars.I was thinking maybe I'm feeling it a little bit more strongly than he is. I have 4 natal planets in Scorpio, with natal Pluto and Sun in my first house too. My progressed ASC is Scorpio as well...that could be it. A lot of times I feel like if I'm not working hard for it, or not struggling for it, then something doesn't fit. My natal Moon is in Leo, so it could very well be Saturn's conjunction to my moon, square to my Venus, and opposition to my Mars.--also he DOES tend to bring up EVERYTHING i'd rather not talk about. he loves to pry and you know how plutonians feel about thair personal business...and he will never stop until he gets an answer..all he asks is why why WHY WHY WHY!!!he's got 5 natal planets in the 3rd house.. drives me nuts sometimes...alanabelle86here are his placements if anyone is wonderingSun Sagittarius 23°11'09 03 directMoon Aquarius 06°36'14 05 directMercury Sagittarius 02°01'00 03 directVenus Sagittarius 14°42'02 03 directMars Scorpio 00°16'12 02 directJupiter Aquarius 14°51'40 05 directSaturn Sagittarius 03°18'58 03 directUranus Sagittarius 18°29'49 03 directNeptune Capricorn 02°57'12 04 directPluto Scorpio 06°27'55 02 directTrue Node Taurus 08°13'06 08 retrogradeHouse positions (Placidus)Ascendant Libra 02°01'46 thats my sadge LousianagrlOh alanabelle~ He's a keeper shop22much...Heart--Shaped Crosshi alanabelle, http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0877283982/102-5980748-6693717?v=glance&n=283155 http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0875422969/ref=pd_bxgy_img_b/102-5980748-6693717?%5Fencoding=UTF8 good luck,StephenRetrograde Venus in Scorpio (9th house)------------------"My friends, how desperately do we need to be loved and to love. When Christ said that man does not live by bread alone, he spoke of a hunger. This hunger was not the hunger of the body. It was not the hunger for bread. He spoke of a hunger that begins deep down in the very depths of our being. He spoke of a need as vital as breath. He spoke of our hunger for love. Love is something you and i must have. We must have it because our spirit feeds upon it. We must have it because without it we become weak and faint. Without love our self-esteem weakens. Without it our courage fails. Without love we can no longer look out confidently at the world. We turn inward and begin to feed upon our own personalities, and little by little we destroy ourselves. With it we are creative. With it we march tirelessly. With it, and with it alone, we are able to sacrifice for others." - Chief Dan George
I ask because I have Venus in Scorpio in my 1st house...and my boyfriend has his Venus in Sagittarius in the 3rd house. And I started out with 200% faith in us, even though we started out much rockier than we are now. And now, that we're pretty much.. perfect, I feel myself losing faith and I find myself confused about what I've always known, and that's been that I love him. And I DO love him with all my heart, and I never want to leave him. But it's like..I'm pushing him away, and being so nasty to him and I have no idea why.
I know i've got abandonment issues, however, it's like I literally PUSH him away and want him to leave. and its so cruel and I've gotten better but I mean it's insane. It's happening with everyone I know
It's like this overwhelming desire to be close but NOT too close to anyone or anything at the moment. And he's so clingy.
I've always thought Venus in Sag in the 3rd wasn't clingy and that I would be, but we're so opposite. I pray for days that he wont call, or that he doesn't ask me to visit cuz I want alone time...yet he constantly needs to be no more than 2 inches away from me.
It's odd...i didn't know if it was a Venus (1st house) thing withthe whole independence thing..or what. I was also thinking because he's got his natal Moon conj. Jupiter in the 5th house.. that it makes him exceptionally needy esp when it comes to love etc.
Here's our Composite info...----
Ascendant 13 LibraSun 27 Scorpio 2nd houseMoon 7 Scorpio 1st houseMercury 29 Scorpio 2nd houseVenus 1 Sagittarius 2nd houseMars 20 Sagittarius 3rd houseJupiter 29 Aquarius 5th houseSaturn 5 Sagittarius 2nd houseUranus 19 Sagittarius 3rd houseNeptune 3 Capricorn 3rd housePluto 6 Scorpio 1st houseNN 29 Aries 7th houseChiron 16 Gemini 9th house
any ideas or Comments...I'd prefer some Scorpio/Sag Venuses esp. ...I'm very confused
------------------Libra Rising, Scorpio Sun, Leo Moon
Also, on a non-astrological note, it is fairly normal to go through a period like this, no matter what your Venus sign. Most of us go through a phase where we need to detach from everybody for a while, have some time alone.
ALSO- the Venus retrograde seems to be doing funny things to everybody- would you say these feelings began around Christmas? If so, wait until the beginning of February and see if you feel any better/different (Venus goes direct on the 3rd, I believe)
And finally,I have noticed that Scorpio placements (Sun,Moon,Venus especially) often bring a strange paradox into an individual- incredible intensity of feeling but also a need to detach when the other person is equally as, or more "involved" than you.Also, you metioned "having faith" when things were difficult but now that they have settled down and become comfortable you are not so sure any more.. I've noticed Scorpios often feel that the only things which are valuable to have are those that they need to struggle for- it seems like it's the only way they can trust the value of anything..even a relationship.
Could it be any of those thing?
wr
GemStar
PS-And with both Venus and Saturn retrograde, you may be feeling a double whammy of energy at the moment if Saturn is squaring your n. Venus.
I think a Venus in Sag in the 3rd WOULD be have a little more of a detached style when it comes to romance, than a Venus in Scorpio in the 1st. But look at your Composite! Sun, Moon, Mercury & Pluto in Scorpio, some in the 1st House!
It may not be HIM you are acting weird towards, but the dynamics of the relationship itself. I think those with strong Scorpio influences tend to react to the dynamics of a relationship more than with the actual person, once they decide they want to get involved. This is because Scorpio Rules sex, plus it needs to have a certain feeling of being in control.
Perhaps you feel the relationship itself is taking over!
And if HE is feeling more needy than he has normally felt in the past, again, it may be the Composite pulling him in with all that Scorpio.
------------------ ... it's better to light a candle than curse the darkness
Maybe you have other things to think about besides the relationship and so when you are with him too much it makes you feel you are losing your identity? If you can express that to him in a sensitive way, it will help. Mention metaphors, how you need to feel you are driving that train, or king of your own castle, or alone to be lazy.
Encourage him to make plans in his life too, look to his career and be supportive. Are some of his plans for both of you too much for you to handle?
An easy way to fix this is to use the we word more often, in that YOU use it first before he has a chance to talk. We could go to a movie on Thursday so I can be alone to study/work on Wednesday.
Does that work? (you may be doing this already)
When a man feels too close to me it's usually a 3rd house influence. It's because he will talk about things that you feel uncomfortable about.
Does he bring up certain subjects that you would rather not touch? some communication is necessary about the way you two talk to each other. sounds like verbal clinging rather than physical, is this right?
Natasha
I was thinking maybe I'm feeling it a little bit more strongly than he is. I have 4 natal planets in Scorpio, with natal Pluto and Sun in my first house too. My progressed ASC is Scorpio as well...
that could be it. A lot of times I feel like if I'm not working hard for it, or not struggling for it, then something doesn't fit.
My natal Moon is in Leo, so it could very well be Saturn's conjunction to my moon, square to my Venus, and opposition to my Mars.
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also he DOES tend to bring up EVERYTHING i'd rather not talk about. he loves to pry and you know how plutonians feel about thair personal business...and he will never stop until he gets an answer..all he asks is why why WHY WHY WHY!!!
he's got 5 natal planets in the 3rd house.. drives me nuts sometimes...
Sun Sagittarius 23°11'09 03 directMoon Aquarius 06°36'14 05 directMercury Sagittarius 02°01'00 03 directVenus Sagittarius 14°42'02 03 directMars Scorpio 00°16'12 02 directJupiter Aquarius 14°51'40 05 directSaturn Sagittarius 03°18'58 03 directUranus Sagittarius 18°29'49 03 directNeptune Capricorn 02°57'12 04 directPluto Scorpio 06°27'55 02 directTrue Node Taurus 08°13'06 08 retrograde
House positions (Placidus)Ascendant Libra 02°01'46
thats my sadge
good luck,StephenRetrograde Venus in Scorpio (9th house)
------------------"My friends, how desperately do we need to be loved and to love. When Christ said that man does not live by bread alone, he spoke of a hunger. This hunger was not the hunger of the body. It was not the hunger for bread. He spoke of a hunger that begins deep down in the very depths of our being. He spoke of a need as vital as breath. He spoke of our hunger for love. Love is something you and i must have. We must have it because our spirit feeds upon it. We must have it because without it we become weak and faint. Without love our self-esteem weakens. Without it our courage fails. Without love we can no longer look out confidently at the world. We turn inward and begin to feed upon our own personalities, and little by little we destroy ourselves. With it we are creative. With it we march tirelessly. With it, and with it alone, we are able to sacrifice for others." - Chief Dan George
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