kattwoman,I didn't forget about you. It's just that I can only do so much typing in a day w/o needing to take pain killers. I just has surgery on my wrist last month.
I looked at your mate's chart, and he seems like a very nice person with what I see in his chart. I could see more if I had his time of birth--like if Saturn is squaring, or about to square his Moon or not. That transit will bring emotional upsets to his life, but it's not possible to know when that will happen w/o his time of birth.
When I looked at your charts together, I do see a lot of similarities, but w/o his birth time, I can't tell you what the differences are, except that you think and feel things in a different way. You have some sweet aspects that will serve you will well. Your communication is good, and your energy is similar, helping you when deciding what to do with your time together. It's kind of a new relationship, but not brand new, however you don't have to deal with any of the harsh chains that bind. You were sweet to each other when you knew each other in other lives.
As for the pain you're in, the only thing going on with the transits is Chiron conjuncting your Sun. You need to look within and figure out why you're in pain, and meet it head on, if you want to heal and go forward.
I took a quick look at your progressed chart to see what's going on there, but there's not much there, either.
Trust your instincts--they are good.
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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
--Rumi