Do you ever notice that it seems like many women have difficulty in their love lives because they are always chasing that initial "spark"? I I'm not really talking about anyone in particular. But it seems like a common theme in the media and In the younger generation.Me for example. I don't go chasing relationship after relationship. But I might be guilty of finding problems or exaggerating/obsessing over things that I don't need to be. Which makes me less happy then I should be. To quote one of my favorite movies "i feel like I'm designed to be slightly dissatisfied with everything."
Today I trapped myself Into comparing my relationship with my friend's. He mentioned the two things his most grateful for I'm his relationship is their ability to evaluate how things are going / to communicate openly and honestly. Which transfers over to their sex life and "date nights."
These two things just happen to be my biggest concerns in my relationship. And could be whats keeping me from being happy and enthusiastic. Which I feel shameful for not feeling. I want a happy and infectious attitude that I can provide for my boyfriend.
But these things have me worried that we don't have the skills to sustain a healthy long term relationship. That I See my friend has (to whom I'm very happy for) and I know its not fair to my boyfriend to be making these kind of comparisons.
Anyone deal with this before. Any ideas how to change my self destructive thought patterns?
I have moon in 12 house scorp conj Pluto btw
Ascendant square mercury in 3rd house