Hi Okay, that makes sense with the 10 of wands here. So I wouldn't advise you to pop the question. Not until you moved the relationship into calmer waters. Is this what you think a solution can be between you/troubles you are having?
I think the cards are asking you to critically review the relationship first.
My "problem" here is with the 10 wands of course, but also the 8 of cups. It normally shows up leaving behind in what you invested here.
I can still see the love you feel for each other though. And I don't think it advises you to walk away now.
Basically: "It is too difficult/heavy (10 wands) to combine your energies and bond in marriage (2 cups) at this point, first work on getting the relationship on a higher level/same page (8 cups)"
That's my impression. The only thing is that with the 8 cups, while it's normally read as "leaving behind"/going on alone, that there is also a search for a higher bonding and thus this marriage.
Bottom line: don't do it now. Review your relationship, see if you can both start working on improving it. You will find out soon enough if this will really suit you or that you are signing on for more and repeating drama & thus perhaps part ways.
Good luck!