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Topic: Aries who like to test your will power
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LeylaLeFay
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posted October 11, 2004 03:59 AM
 
This Englishman I'm dealing with is NOT worth the trouble.I find that dealing with Aries men requires a LOT of putting your foot down and sticking to your guns.  Many of us in here are "fatally attracted" to them. Does anyone have a clue how to get around the favorite Aries games: "Battle of wills" "How far can I push her" "Who's on top" and "Will she put up wih this" I'm not interested in him enough to put up with with his games. I didn't want him that bad in the first place. It's like, you just can't show any sign of weakness. I've become submissive before, because it seemed like he desperatly wanted control, but then I found myself walked upon. Astro claims to have a few tricks- maybe she'll tell us how she handles them. IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted October 11, 2004 09:56 AM
OH YES! I've got a Scorpio one-two punch which actually comes out of no where, from either my Mars (which also rules Aries), or my Mercury which gives me the cojones to give them a verbal biatch slap which makes their anus pucker up.  So it's sort of a fluke because I can't leave it up to my Cancer Moon or Venus in Virgo. It comes out of no where. I don't take ANY credit here whatsoever. Not at all. My advice is to learn how to speak like a drill sergeant - "DO YOU UNDERSTAND PRIVATE!!!" 
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LibraSparkle
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posted October 11, 2004 11:30 AM
I don't know about Aries men... but I have a very good friend that is an Aries. You really can't back down with her. You have to be very firm about your presonal boundaries. I find that she respects me more so than some others because I don't put up with her crap. When she starts in with the "Woe is me, it's so hard to be me" BS, I tell her like it is... straight from the hip. No sugar coating, no "Aw, you poor baby". I'm not an hugely sympathetic person. I am empathetic, but rarely sympathetic.I think with Libra being opposite Aries, I can calmly blow in and simmer down her fire. We work well together. IP: Logged |
Gemini Nymph
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posted October 11, 2004 12:44 PM
LOL, LSparkle, I'm the same way, empathetic (deeply, thanks to my moon), but sympathetic? LOLOLOL. I am afterall a Gemini. Hence one of my Geminian catchpharses; "I feel your pain, and yet I still don't seem to care."  Granted I'm probably a bit a product of my childhood - I suppose had I been shown more sympathy as a child drowning in all her Lunar-Piscean feelings and insecurities, I would've grown up to be a more sympathetic adult. Oh well. Like my family would ever admit to that.  I often get along with Aries, but it has to be more well-rounded Arians with some eduction and life experience under their belts, and not the devolved, feces-throwing ones. I get tired quickly of "me, me, MEEEE!!!" types, who are frequently Aries Suns or moons (but not always), since my Geminian self really would like to be the center of attention at least *once* in a while in the course of the friendship. But if they can keep their "I am therefore I rule" Arian egos in check, we can get along quite well. It helps that I have a Gem Sun and an Aqua Mars which is like proverbially holding a gun to each of the Aries' temples. Guns, proverbially or otherwise, is the language Aries understands best. Aries tend to behave around me (at least the smarter ones) because they know that if they **** me off they'll either get my Geminian side mocking them mercilessly, or my Aquarian side rationally and authoritatively dissecting their every fault.  I get along better with Aries women than Aries men, unless they are excessively emotive and whiny. Otherwise, we make a good pair, especially as coworkers conspiring together against our boss and other coworkers. I tend to too easily threaten Aries men, but once we get over that intitial hump, we get along well and often a little too dangerously for any innocent bystanders. 
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LibraSparkle
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posted October 11, 2004 01:59 PM
GN, I'm a Gem Rising  IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted October 11, 2004 03:10 PM
Oh! If you're talking about Aries women? That's a whole 'nother story. HUGE. I'm solidly attracted like a magnet to whoever has a strong Aries influence.I think it has to do with the Empty Space in my T-Square being Aries in my 12th House, so they are like that missing 4th leg on the table for me.  IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 11, 2004 07:22 PM
If you want to keep an Aries interested, don't be an open book or constantly accesible. Have a life that is equally as important as theirs. A detatched or aloof attitude will pict thier interest. They'll wonder why your not falling all over yourself just being with them. They're smart and learn fast how to read your body language so they'll cleverly bait you for a response. As long as they don't know they're interested. Keep it that way. Jealousy and possessiveness are big turn offs and they'll be gone before you can say Jack Rabbit Slim.
Keep it light and simple, don't expect too much and just enjoy getting to know your Aries. After you've established a FRIENDSHIP (they can be loyal) based on mutual give and take, then you can relax a little and start building the relationship.
But make sure they understand (in a nonconfrontational way) that "whats good for the goose is good for the gander" (thats how you keep them in line, or where ever you want to keep them)
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lalalinda
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posted October 11, 2004 07:37 PM
Gemini Nymph,
Whiny is not an Aries trait, thats more Moon in Pisces. Aries are more confrontational and in your face. They hit first and ask questions later. IP: Logged |
LeylaLeFay
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posted October 12, 2004 12:14 AM
Hmm. Yes, I handle them in my own way. I don't scream, yell or blow up. I pull an Aquarius and detatch, cutting them off cold. Aloof is more my style, as in "You know what? Lose my number." *click* 
"Either you treat me by this standard, or go and don't come back."
And the trick is you have to really mean it.
I'm seriously getting tired of him. I hate going through this because it's exausting. Do they *ever* get to a point where they're done testing you? IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 12, 2004 02:22 AM
Leyla, Aquarians and Geminis handle Aries very well maybe because they don't let them rile their feathers. And Geminis, well have you ever tried to stay mad at one?? As an Aries I can tell you it doesn't last very long, because they make you laugh. Being detatched and aloof doesn't have to be rude in any way, if it is then your playing into their hands and they're getting a negative reaction from you. More like a take it or leave it attitude, just go with the flow and be happy. If you're going to get peeved don't let them see it(yet) If he spends time away with friends or whatever let him, the more rope you give him the more you can trust him. (believe it or not) They respect this. But don't stay home get together with some friends and see those Chippendales or that Astrology lecture. No big deal, you know who you are and who you want and if you can be cool with it then so can he.
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LeylaLeFay
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posted October 12, 2004 04:09 AM
As an Aquarius, you don't have to remind me not to be clingy. I'm the last to be accused. But I have heard the opposite complaint quite often.As for the chippendales comment- I have a feeling he'd hit the roof if he thought I was out chasing male strippers! (Though I enjoyed it when I was a college girl. Shhhh.) They get a mite territorial, those Aries. Secretly, I think it's cute. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted October 12, 2004 04:53 AM
hahahaha well Leyla why didn't you say so. I've never met an Aquarian that couldn't handle an Aries.
As for Chippendales tell him your not looking at the strippers, your reading the articles, I mean napkins.  IP: Logged |
thirteen
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posted October 12, 2004 10:00 AM
OH man.... my husb is an Aries and boy are you all correct. He is all of this post. Anyway Im getting some great insight here. Thanks. Its coming to me just when I need it. Thanks again.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 12, 2004 11:27 AM
lalalinda..  Napkins..........My hubby is an Aries, and I have always kinda' kept my own life, and want him to have his. We meet,lament it has been awhile since we have cuddled or talked, and go on with our lives again... I am not talking 'relations' We do that whether we talk or not...  It's funny though, that it is usually Scorpios who are possessive. I will tell him I find a certain celebrity hot, and he'll say "Yeah, too bad he's gay..." Or I'll tell him about a bad pick up line I received, and he's like "That man is dead.. If I ever see him, he is dead.."
It is really funny. I love it. So possessive, but it works. I am in the "I love my husband" stage right now. Next week, I will be snarly.. but you know.. it's all good. IP: Logged |
thirteen
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posted October 12, 2004 12:52 PM
Yes,Aries never tire of "relations" do they?
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pidaua
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From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 12, 2004 02:20 PM
I fear that the "relations" thing may also apply to Aries moons---especially if combined with a fire sun. At least that is MY case. LOL..I can completely identify with the Aries that can have relations at any times. It takes alot for me not to want to have "relations" with the man I am with- because it is not only bonding, but it is a great physical activity..hee hee.... My guy is a Taurus and he will not be in the mood after we make up after a fight. Personally, I can go with even if I am mad Leo's on the other hand, like an Aries, can be just fine in the "relations" department before, during or after an argument. I wouldn't trade in my Taurus for anything though. IP: Logged |
hooked
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posted October 12, 2004 10:06 PM
Piduau,My bf has taurus rising, and he's the same way after we've made up. How stubborn. I guess he just likes staying mad with that fixed rising and sun sign. IP: Logged | |
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