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SavageScorpio
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posted August 26, 2006 02:22 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do you get suffocated easily? As far as people go? Me, I'm like claustrophobic. I can't stand people trying to get close to me too soon. I can be SO VERY SHY!!!! If I know people for a while however, and feel comfortable with them, I'm not so shy. People who try to get close to ME, makes me uncomfortable though. It's said that Mars in Aquarius people are most turned on when the other person isn't, and this is so very true! People trying to get close to me... unless you know them VERY well, ... makes me want to jump out of my skinnn! Whether it be a sexual situation or even friendships.

It can be a little difficult to understand exactly what makes a Mars in Aquarius native tick. And that's absolutely fine with them—they enjoy surprising people. The tried-and-true methods of getting things done are far too boring for those born with Mars in this unique and original sign. Mars in Aquarius natives often have a rather original view of the world as well.

These natives are generally quite proud of their independence. They are not easily pushed around with Mars in this fixed sign. Because Aquarius is progressive and open-minded when it comes to the world at large, it can be surprising that on a personal level, Mars in Aquarius natives can be quite obstinate. If they feel boxed in, they are quite likely to rebel. If you've discovered a pattern to their ways, they'll make sure they aren't so predictable the next time around. (we are selective about who we let get that close to us, know us well). Being seen as "normal" simply won't do!

With Mars, the planet of energy and drive, in an Air sign, these individuals get off on mental and intellectual pursuits. Aquarius is a somewhat scattered sign, even though it's persevering in the long haul. If there's a method to their madness, it isn't always easy to see. Projects are taken on with a shotgun-style approach with this position of Mars.

Mars in Air signs are generally quite clever at getting what they want; in Aquarius, they are particularly adept at getting their way. While this is not an overtly aggressive position of Mars (Aquarius has a manner that is far too detached to come across too forcefully), it is very willful. Combine willfulness with the cleverness of an Air sign, and you have a person who is quite creative about getting what they want—which generally is getting their way! Unlike with Mars in Aries or Leo natives, for example, you won't always know you're being dominated by a Mars in Aquarius native!

One of the most pleasant characteristics of Mars in Aquarius natives is their willingness to let others be. They place a lot of value in freedom and individuality—theirs and yours. They need space to be themselves and plenty of room to breathe. Generally not the touchy-feely types, these natives often laugh at sentimentality and tradition. In personal relationships, their approach to intimacy is definitely on the detached side, which can be baffling and frustrating to more personal and affectionate personalities.

Of all the personal planets in the sign of Aquarius, Mars placed here can show the strongest "reformer" streak. The Aquarian ideal of equality works big time with this position, and the desire to push their agenda on others (usually in creative, rather than aggressive, ways) runs high. Obstinacy and a superiority complex are this position's least desirable traits; openness to new ways of doing things (as long as they're not forced upon them) is where they shine.

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Glaucus
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posted August 26, 2006 02:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Glaucus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Mars in Aquarius

There is no way that I can be detached in relationships with my Sun,Mercury,and Venus in Scorpio along with Moon in Pisces square Neptune,quincunx Pluto. I would hate it. I can be oldfashioned,a gentleman,and very sentimental. I am easily moved to tears. I am a prudish and very reserved person. I think that's indicated by my Virgo Rising and my bucket handle Saturn in Gemini in 9th that conjuncts my Midheaven,quincunxes my Sun,t-square with my Moon and Jupiter-Neptune conjunction,trine Pluto,and contraparallels my Mercury-Venus-Neptune parallel.

As for the the suffocation stuff. I don't like being around a lot of people. I am INFP which is Introverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiver. That's according to Myers Briggs. I have scored INFJ too,and that's Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judge.I can be too receptive to other's energies(the Sun,Mercury,Venus in Scorpio along with Pisces Moon square Neptune)


I am very shy too....but it has more to do with my Dyslexia,Dyspraxia(especially my speech and auditory processing problems as well as physical awkwardness and clumsiness)and insecurity,self esteem issues.
I was diagnosed as having Generalized Anxiety Disorder,Dysthymic Disorder.

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SavageScorpio
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posted August 26, 2006 03:14 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can't be detatched in a relationship either, the whole Venus in Scorpio thing (Venus, mercury, sun sign, and pluto in scorp)... it's all or nothing, Venus in Scorp is that whole "merging of the souls" Venus sign, where when your w/ that person, it's like you and that person are the only people that exist in the world.

I'm pretty reserved too, shy, it takes time for me to feel comfortable with people usually. I have Gem ascendent though, so it varies depending if I feel comfortable w/who I'm around.

I have General Anxiety Disorder also. I'm INTJ.

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SavageScorpio
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posted August 26, 2006 03:17 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That doesn't happen overnight though, to get that close to someone. Like most w/ Mars in Aquarius, being friends first is so very important.

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posted August 26, 2006 06:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 23     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Savage - I know what you mean about people suffocating you, but I am an Aquarian. It comforts me to know that others feel the same.

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aquaspryt69
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posted August 26, 2006 10:11 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am in total agreement with Glaucus, except on the gentleman part as I am all female
But my venus, mercury, sun and neptune in scorpio along with that loopy pisces moon make me too sentimental and feels the need for a good cry now and then. I think it's my mars in aqua that says "I hate this!".

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aquaspryt69
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posted August 26, 2006 10:13 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Glaucus~I scored an INFJ at Myers-Briggs as well.

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Gemini Nymph
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posted August 26, 2006 11:49 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a INTP, but I have many INFP trsits. I have Aspereger's :P

I have Aqua Mars. I also have Gem Sun, Virgo ASC, a heavily afflicted Gem Venus conjunct Saturn and opposed by Jupiter and Neptune, and a 7H Pisces moon. If that makes me sound likea nutjob, you wouldn't be wrong there. In a word, I am not very "dateable". LOLOLOL.

In true Aquaness, I love having friends, and I need to be friends with anyone I get into an intimate relationship *first.* There absolutely has to be a mental connection. I need tons, and tons, and TONS of mental stimulation. I'm an intensely inquistive, curious and investigative person. Mentally, I'm very restless and always need something to focus my mental energies on. If I get bored, I feel trapped and drained. A lot of that in My Gemminess, but my Aquaness really helps to emphasized that in my nature.

Because of my Pisces moon, I have deep emotional needs I want fulfilled. I don't really get overly attached emotionally to the other person very often, but I can be too giving, too forgiving, too turn-a-blind-eye in long term realtionships. Between my Aquaness and Pisceanness, I tend to over-idealize the relationship: it becomes an a surreal abstraction, a logical yet fluffy puzzle, and I will do almost anything to "figure it out." I can even come to see a relationship like an act of charity or humanitarism - I've dated out of pity before....oooh, bad, bad choice. LOL.

I do need a lot of space in a relationship, and I give a lot of space in return. I'm definitely good at accepting other people for who they are, even in an close relationship. I don't like to burden the other person with expectations, and I don't expect the other person to change for me. But the flipside I can be hard to get close too, like the other person never gets to really know me. I always seemt o throw them for a loop, always revealing some side of myself they hadn't seen before (being a Gem helps there too). I also don't like to make compromises - it's like "Hey I don't ask you to change, so don't ask ME to change, bud!"

I need space to pursue various avenues to fulfill my Piscean needs so I don't become emotionally addicted to just one person, as Pisces moons can do. If that happens....things get rather ugly and my Aqua Mars' "dark side" comes out. I become very rebellious, combative and argumentive. I'll start doing things to set myself apart from the other person. I'll hyperrationalize everything and become hopelessly stubborn and head-strong, and the other person stands no chance. I'm just impossible to dealwith at that point. When that happens, I do feel suffocated in the relationship, as too the other person!

I'm not really shy. I was when I was a kid - very shy, very serious, very Virgo ASC. LOL. But now I'm more of "Damn, leave me alone!" It's nto about being shy - it more about needing a LOT of ME-time. I am rather ego-centric, but also, more significantly, I'm hypersenstive to the presence of others and am easily drained. They tax my reserves very quickly, and I need to withdraw to recharge. My ego-centrism, which is typical of someone with AS, genreally means my social skills suck, I live in my own world and it's hard for me to connect or be aware of others. I have to make an effort to connect with them, which can be draining in itself.

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alanabelle86
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posted August 26, 2006 12:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for alanabelle86     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
YES. I do, and it stinks sometimes

Because I have tons of water placements that are just dying to be close and relate, while Mars in Aqua (since it's so strong in my chart) basically tells people... "I like you, but I don't like you that much..."


A never ending stuggle..

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hippichick
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posted August 26, 2006 03:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am so happy to find that there are other people out there with my dilemma! While I believe that water and air in the natal chart make for quite the interesting individual, it is very hard to live sometimes!

I too have Mars in Aqua, in close conjunct with Jupiter and Mercury with this stellium closely opposing Uranus in Leo and everything Savage Scorpio said as well as others is SO true for me.

I have a Pisces sun and Venus and while I crave and enjoy intimate encounters, I can only take them in small doses. And talk about needing to be alone?! I take that to the extream!

At my age and with several failed relationships and one horribly failed marriage in the past, I have made a concious decision to be single. It would take a person with similar water/air influences in the chart to tolerate my need for time alone while understanding my need for intimacy as well.

Am just thankful there are others out there who understand and appreciate us for who we are!

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Jools
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posted August 27, 2006 01:03 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I also have Mars in Aqu. (8th house) directly opposing my Moon in Leo (2nd house). I am a complete disaster at relationships as have difficulty both lusting and loving the same person. I often find myself constantly liking two people at once, one I will have feelings of lust for and the other I will have more friendship/love feelings for. I wish I could just feel both for the one, single, person.

I also have extreme difficulty expressing my emotions as everything seems to first go through an 'intellectualisation' process and everything also gets analysed to the bare bones, making things more complex than they need to be. Strangely, while I also feel I have difficulty expressing my emotions, I am often told I am primarily an emotional person. Go figure.

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DayDreamer
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posted August 27, 2006 01:36 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi another Mars in Aqua (conjunct Sun/Mercury, and opposite Jupiter) in the 9th house.

Do I get suffocated easily as far as people go? Yes - I get this way when I dont have the freedom to think and learn (and daydream )

I dont know if it's true for me, that Mars in Aquarius people are most turned on when the other person isn't.

Maybe it's like that because i don't feel like Im suffocating at the times when the other person may so happen to be turned off?

I most definitely have to be friends first, and have a mental compatibility. Otherwise I have no interest. You could be a complete hunk-o-rama but if I dont have the mental compatibility I will get bored really quick.

LOL Gemini Nympth I am so not "dateable" either!!..You sound alot like me!

I can be mental/intellectual to the extreme, that I don't know what Im doing or where I am in the physical world. Working on balancing this.

Yes Im about equality big time...and reforms The idea of superiority complex scares the heck out of me. Im not like that at all...though some people have said something along those lines.

I guess Im shy...(I dont know if thats the right word?)..with a Pisces Moon and Gemini Ascendant...but people tell me they don't perceive me that way. Im an INTJ as well, but Im not aware of any of the disorders that I could possibly have.

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GeminiLover75
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posted August 27, 2006 04:00 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"Most turned on when the other person is not..." Ok, this now solves one of the mysteries about someone I know... it's the Mars in Aqua! The question is, how does the person in the relationship who ISN'T the Mars in Aquarius deal with this??

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cat71
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posted August 27, 2006 06:31 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*puts hand up* Mars in Aqua over here

I do get claustrophobic wth people, I want my friends to be as loyal as I am ( a friend in need and all that) but I resent people who feel they have to know EVERYTHING about me to be friends...what is that about??

I don't think I've ever been shy really, I do withdraw into myself when I have personal issues and don't want to discuss things in detail - this could be seen as shy I guess. If I feel uncomfortable in a certain group I will shut down, so that could be seen as shy as well I guess.

"...enjoy surprising people..." - I liked that, when I was younger if I found there was a rumour going around about me I just had to exaggerate it and make it bigger, I thought to myself if they're gonna talk about me - let's make it GOOD!!!

"...you won't always know you're being dominated by a Mars in Aquarius native!"
Cool, yep, guilty - I like the term 'plant the seed and let them think it's their idea!'

Independence and others space - I am very independent and respect other people's freedom, I'm emotionally possesive in love, but not physically posessive - if you want to go out on ur own, go ahead, I'm sure I'll find something to amuse myself in ur absence!

Forcing my ideas on others - I don't think so, very obstinate about getting my own point across but the whole world doesn't have to agree, however they won't change my mind...! I often use the phrase "let's agree to disagree" - but maybe that's my Libra Sun

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...to have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us is gone, will give us some protection forever...

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Gemini Nymph
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posted August 27, 2006 05:22 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
- "can be mental/intellectual to the extreme, that I don't know what Im doing or where I am in the physical world. Working on balancing this."

Yeah Daydreamer, i have this problem too. I'm always being criticized for living in my head. What goes on in my head is a combination of Gem/Aqua "hard" thinking vs nebulous, daydreaming Pisces undercurrents. If I'm that confused in my head, no longer I'm often confused outside of it.

One thing I realized around 25 year of age was I had a very poor body awareness - I was so cut off from the concrete world, my sense of my own phsyical sense was barely there. That's soemthing I've had to work on.

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solar_third
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posted August 28, 2006 05:02 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can empathise with most of the replies here. I have mine conj. Mercury in the 3rd, opposing Saturn (returning) and T-squaring Uranus in the 12th. The reformer streak is a mile wide on me, and I usually find myself in relationships that transform my sense of Pisces self - and secondarily, my partner. This is compounded by a scorpio ascendant.

As for suffocation, I guess I'm the one you'd see walking in the gutter to avoid the pedestrian pace elsewhere. I have little patience with crowds (christmas shopping? moi!?) and I can regress into arrogance when I believe I'm right (which is quite often), but as a 29th deg. scorpio asc. i'm not usually forthcoming in groups I am unfamiliar with, so my friends usually bear the brunt of it, if it arises.

I don't think of myself as 'undateable', however; I have Venus in Aries, and therefore I think I'm irresistable.

S_T

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 29, 2006 12:49 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wowww !! Now i know where my daydreaming streak comes from
I have Mars and Merc in Aquarius, Moon in Gemini. And people can sometimes bore me to death !! But at the same time i need to be surrounded by friends. they are my backup for when i am bored, which is often :P
And yes, I am turned on most whn the other person is not...if the person begins to show the faintest interest, i'm like 'may be i am going too fast...i should give it some time'
I love to express myself, however i take my time to know people first. (you could call me almost shy...but its mostly bcoz i'm afraid i might become friends with someone who'd kill me with boredom ). I also hate shallow/artificial people.

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 29, 2006 12:58 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And yes i have this obsessive need to be friends first. i hate it when somebody begins to get too close too soon ! And even when i am pretty close to a person, i hate to take them for granted. don't knw whether it wud be called detachment tho, coz inside i am dying for them to tell me that's its ok, they r my property!
Another compulsion is to follow up my posts...there is always something more to say...and i remember it as soon as i hv posted!

Sun, Venus-Capri
Moon-Gemini
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astro junkie
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posted August 29, 2006 01:35 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome InLoveWithLife

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nove731
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posted August 29, 2006 06:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for nove731     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Mars in Aquarius, too. I never thought of calling myself "claustrophobic", but now that I think of it, I guess I kind of am. haha, I really hate it when people get too close to me. You know, the type of person that just comes right up to you and links arms when you barely know them? Yeah. Them. Hah, I hate it when a person requires my undivided attention for too long, or expects me to focus only on them for an extended period.

To be honest, I like to drift and talk to a lot of different people, so stuff like the latter irks me more than anything else.

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 30, 2006 12:17 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks AstroJunkie !

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