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Xena
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posted February 09, 2007 12:36 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a Taurus g/f whose conversation is exclusively about guys and relationships. Now, we all like to have a laugh or sound off about guys once in a while...but her conversation and lifestyle solely focuses on that, the WHOLE time. I won't go into the details of it here other than to say that I don't actually think she knows what she wants; for example, she claims to want a committed relationship, but her behaviour would seem to dictate otherwise, and is sometimes downright stupid - usually after we've had a long and protracted conversation to try and prop her up and get her on the right track. I mean, I've made mistakes in the past year, but I'm assuming I've LEARNED from them (I have no current interest in relationships at all) - but she seems to go and do the opposite of whatever would be, shall we say, an appropriate course of action, which I, with my Virgo ascendant, find very hard to understand. It's like she doesn't apply any thought at all, or the content of our *talk* simply hasn't sunk in.

Generally, however, it's the moaning I can't stand, which is absolutely relentless and exhausting, if the truth be known, and has been making me avoid her recently. It's as if problems don't necessarily exist for her, so she has to create them. I personally don't want to deal with other people's dramas, I can't take them on board since I have had my fill of it previously, with certain individuals, and I just want anything for a quiet life.

I did actually email her today and tell her straight how I felt. Needless to say, I don't expect to hear from her again, but I think that quite possibly other people might have been put through the same motions.

A lot of Taurus women I've come across do seem a bit needy and depressing, rather "wet-blankets" as it were, they seem to desire marriage and tradition even though their behaviour might seem to dictate otherwise - they desperately need a man. Now I find as an Aries, I don't need anyone by my side for an ego boost - I occupy too much space as it is - but Taurus women really seem to NEED a partner, although I'm not always sure what for (status, perhaps?). How true does anyone find this?

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katipo
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posted February 09, 2007 12:58 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I suppose all scenarios are subjective, however most of my girlfriends/women I feel a real connection to, are either Taurus/Sun & or Venus in Taurus, yep we all adore food, lol, to say the truth none of us (yep Sun taurus me ) appear needy when it comes to men, in fact they're 100% all either in secure relationships or secure within themselves enough to be single, including my mother.

The neediest women I know just now are both sagittarians, it's true they're quite young adults, however one cannot be without a man, the other who has all her planets in Sagi is so devoted to her sag/sun, venus in taurus man, she smothers him, and worries constantly when he's not around.

I never hear my taurus sun friends wanting or needing when it comes to men, maybe it's our age, we're mostly mid 30's, and have come to a better place, I can't remember what I was like when I was younger, I could say I was quite needy for male affection, but I put it down to losing my dad at 15 (we were really close, I miss him still very much 23 years later)

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Happy Dragon
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posted February 09, 2007 01:09 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
mmmm .. for any taurean sun ..
transiting .. Saturn / Neptune / Chiron ..
could be giving them a bit of a hard time ..
those three are squaring the taurus sector ..

~ xena ~
is her birth year similar to yours ??

re the post in general .. er .. an LL smiley shall suffice
.. do i hear the rustle of large hooves .. ??
.. a distant 'mmooooo' by chance .. ?? .. ;-) ..

yesterday .. today and tomorrow .. moon is in scorpio ..
opposite the cow fields ..
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~ transiting Saturn summary ~
Dec. 6th 2006 .. saturn went retrograde at 25.Leo ..
saturn is now at 21.Leo and still retrograde
by18th April 2007 .. it will be at 18.Leo .. and about to go direct once more ..
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Green Fairy
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posted February 09, 2007 01:42 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have yet to meet a needy Taurean woman, but i have known a fair share of needy Libra/Pisces chicks.

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Gemini Nymph
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posted February 09, 2007 01:58 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm goign to get blasted for this but hey.

Yes, I've noticed Taureans being needy, and yes, their moaning can be a real downer. I can handle someone having a bad day and needing to vent - my Pisces moon makes me a ready ear for any sob story. But when it's an ongoing, neverending litany of woes, or the person's apparently making the same mistake over and over (something Taureans can do), it makes me a bit impatient.

I have an aunt who's a Taurus, and that how she has always been. She b*tches, whines, criticizes and complains. She's never positive about anything (her moon's in Cap too). I refuse to talk to her anymore, because I can't handle that. She doesn't talk to "let go" of her crap - she talks to drag other people down with her.

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teaologist
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posted February 09, 2007 03:09 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Dulce Luna
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posted February 09, 2007 04:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have never met a needy Taurus woman.

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libraschoice7
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posted February 09, 2007 04:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for libraschoice7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Teaologist you strike me as being a very strong woman

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Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer

I "FEEL" therefor I am

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teaologist
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posted February 09, 2007 05:19 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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jenfullmoon
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posted February 09, 2007 07:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jenfullmoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have to say it's true of the Tauruses I know, including myself and my mother. I really, really hate that I would probably sell my soul to the devil to find and keep a man...but, yeah. That's what I've wanted since I was like, five years old. I don't even rationally WANT to be married, I associate marriage with the end of the romance, but every nerve in me screams to nail down a man into marriage.

I have been trying to evolve the **** out of it. I hate being that person. I don't want to be a needy limpet (yes, one of my exes called me this and I STILL didn't get the hint) clinging on. These days, I don't even allow myself a little taste of warmer affections, because I will immediately go whole hog and hope for marriage. It really sucks.

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Node
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posted February 09, 2007 07:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Node     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Taurus stelium here. Sun, Venus, Mercury, Eros, Aphroditie, Ceres, Hekate, Sn, MH and more...Someone mentioned that Taurus peeps always put '....' in posts so I thought I'd add it I never THOUGHT I was needy for years. Always been the nose/grindstone pull yourself up by the bootstraps kind of gal. And, I am. Here comes the 'but', Taurus peeps more than any other sign; I don't care about Pisces in the 7th or Libra 7th, which without a doubt- are the biggest contenders for focus on relationships.Taurus Totally focuses on love. Are they getting it? Are they getting enough of it. Have they achieved theyre 'love' potential. Taurus is all about love period. To their loved ones dismay. It takes years to stop making the same mistakes that other signs would have shed ..long....ago

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Happy Dragon
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posted February 09, 2007 08:00 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
on perusing the header post .. root of issue could be .. maybe ..
~ taurus' mountain like fixed nature and dislike of change .. even when change might be needed ~ ..
.. i'm guessing a saturn transit for the taur in question ..

the only ranting taurean sob stories i've witnessed .. have been from males ..
and drunken ones at that .. and it's always been over a woman .. or the lack thereof ..
one or the other ..
i guess a complaining .. er .. cow .. would have maybe a good reason for it ..
taureans rarely complain .. maybe when it does finaly come out .. it's been under pressure for a while ..
so the result is .. ((( *** ))) .. potentialy speaking ..

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Xena
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posted February 10, 2007 10:34 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We had a talk.

And guess what - it's okay. She realises I can only take so much, but wishes I'd spoken up earlier (she being European and not a buttoned-up Brit like me).

My Moon's in Pisces too, GN. But this friend's is too, which is why I thought we'd get on.

HD, she's a few years older than I am, we're both third-week-in-April birthdays. Got your point about the Scorpio moon - myself, I was feeling like a nuclear reactor.

(And I also got your point about Saturn. I feel like a nun.)

But we talked it over and she's fine - thank God!!

Xena

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Pluto's Muse
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posted February 10, 2007 03:03 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not a Taurus Sun but I do have a Taurus Moon and Venus in Taurus and yes I am needy and could care less what people think.


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Seduce my mind and you can have my body,
Find my soul and I'm yours forever.

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Sun - Gemini/Cancer Cusp
Asc - Cancer
Moon - Taurus *29
Venus - Taurus
Mars - Libra

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misterhank
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posted February 10, 2007 03:08 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Leo...but I never heard of a Taurus who's needs are too strong...Just too scary.

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Hank Campbell
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*Sun: 8th House/Leo, Moon: 3rd House/Pisces, Venus: 8th House/Leo, Mars: 6th House/Cancer, Jupiter: 8th House/Leo, Saturn: 8th House/Virgo, ASC: Capricorn
"I wish I wasn't invisible."

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SilverFairy
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posted February 10, 2007 03:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SilverFairy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Xena, OMG!! I know what you are going through. I have had a Taurus sun and moon friend who is exactly like the friend you are talking about. I have known her for 12yrs and at times... i want to RUN!!!! I love her dearly.. but she depresses me, does things regarding relationships that drive me up the wall, and is very hard to listen to... her relationship drama's are constant. she's met this guy, sleeping with that guy, is commited to this guy.. it goes on and on.

I have tried talking to her, and it doesn't sink in.. and trying to detach myself is almost impossible... she holds on like she super glued herself to me.. sometimes I just don't pick up the phone. and other times I feel the friendship is mostly because I've known her for so long and she just doesn't go away. Sad to say but feels like it most of the time.

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Pluto's Muse
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posted February 10, 2007 03:36 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's why it's better for us people with this influence to only stick to someone who understands our intensity. Not everyone can handle it.

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Seduce my mind and you can have my body,
Find my soul and I'm yours forever.

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Sun - Gemini/Cancer Cusp
Asc - Cancer
Moon - Taurus *29
Venus - Taurus
Mars - Libra

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Almost An Angel
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posted February 10, 2007 03:41 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'll take attention, but I won't give back... I'm a little selfish.

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Jan_A
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posted February 11, 2007 05:53 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What's more interesting , the bashing of some signs happens here, when this sign has currently bad aspects from some planets
After Jupiter went in Saggitarius, I don't see a single bad word about Aries. Leos aren't so hard bashed anymore too

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Xena
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posted February 11, 2007 08:38 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ummm...SilverFairy...you are so RIGHT about the superglue, she needs s/o around her the whole time...doesn't matter who...guy, best friend, whatever.

Maybe it's a Taurus Sun/Pisces Moon question?

Ummm.

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Happy Dragon
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posted February 11, 2007 12:19 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
re the *header post ..
~ her moon is in pisces as well ??

possibilities ..
.. t.Uranus could very well be conjoining her moon ..
or near enough to be behind an 'outburst' of emotion ..
.. t Jupiter is in Sag .. that squares the Pisces sector ..
so added poss. that t Jupiter could be squaring her moon ..

.. and Saturn .. if her sun is between 18 and 25 deg taur ..
then she will be dealing with tSaturn squaring her sun ..
she has either gone thru that one last year sometime ..
or .. if not at the moment .. then prob between april/sept this year ..

with Saturn about .. she may just cling to friends at bit for reassurance ..
in that Saturn transits can bring an element of fear with them ..
e.g. fear of loss .. loneliness .. aging .. and such ..
t.Saturn to the Sun can hit one physically as well .. through overwork of some nature ..
if there are flaws in the structure .. then t.Saturn will expose those flaws ..
in any case .. taurs are normally a possesive lot .. to one degree or another ..
that includes valuables .. such a friends ..

** she being European ** ..
~ ~ .. well sort of explains it then .. excitable lot over there .. ~ ~

I tried to find the original text .. but a no-go ..
however linda goodman .. in one of her books ..
explains the zodiac wheel in soul-age terms ..
and associated a key phrase with every sign ..

from memory ...
Aries .. be .. "I am" .. i.e. the newborn of the zodiac ..
Taurus .. next in line .. is still a baby of the zodiac ..
the keywords were .. "I want" ..
and given that taur is generally known to be interested in the opposite sex ..
then .. 'want' .. could easily be percieved as a 'need' at times ..
maybe when uranus hits on one's moon .. or jupiter squares it ..
or .. both at the same time ~ ~

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Dulce Luna
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posted February 11, 2007 12:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Alright, scratch that...I made a mistake. There are two taurus women I know like this but I completely forgot about. One I am no longer friends with the other me and my sister still talk to from time to time. Everytime we go out with the latter Taurus chick to the club or something, our night is always ends up being based around some guy....it sucks.

Her moon is in cappy and there's this Capricorn guy she has NEVER gotten over even though he's a complete a$$ to her. Yeah, I'm guessing her moon conjuncts his sun...I just need a birthtime for her. And if I'm right, then her moon also conjuncts my ASC explaining her fondness for my looks (sorry If I sound vain, but I still her, she's cool otherwise).

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sthenri
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posted February 12, 2007 09:00 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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EarthyEthereal
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posted February 12, 2007 10:50 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi, All: I have been smoked out of lurkdom, because I feel compelled to add my two pennies here.

I have to admit, until this thread, I had never heard us Taureans described as "needy." Perhaps some of us can be needy in that it's sometimes difficult for us to cast out individuals once we've embraced them within our hearts. Having said that, I honestly don't see myself as being the needy type. I've spent more of my time on earth as a single gal than as half of a pair, and I've never been one to chase.

I realize that the opinions expressed here have been informed by personal experiences; in that case, they aren't wrong or right. Still, to make a blanket statement about one group of people based upon their having been born under the same sun sign is kind of hasty.

Speaking for myself, I value my independence, and crave regular periods of solitude. Maybe that's my empty 7th house; I dunno. All I know is that the Taureans with whom I've been acquainted have yet to exhibit neediness. I'm sure they're out there, but to paint all of us with the same broad brush? Each generalization sets a tricky precedent.

A woman who looks to a guy for something that only a force greater than herself can provide... well, that type of woman comes in every size, age, colour, and sun sign.

Not trying to be contentious here--just defending the rep of Da Bull

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