posted June 09, 2004 01:13 PM         

Just let it happen and it will, I promise you Your soul mate or twin flame may be in a time in his life where he cannot contact you. I know it sounds weird, but with Mr. Taurus and I, we found our paths crossed so many times and in so many states over our lifetimes, but we didn't meet until I was 34 and he was 29. He said "I am sorry it took so long for me to find you in this lifetime" LOL..but see, it happens when it is suppose to happen.

posted June 09, 2004 02:25 PM         

I've quickly weaved in and out of a few online personals thingy's just to see what would happen. It stands that whoever you tend to attract in person is the same type you'll attract on there, so it doesn't really "fix" anything in terms of your interpersonal skills.

There's this compulsion to describe the person you are looking for as someone who has everything in common with you. You don't smoke, they do, so you hit the delete button. But that person could be the one who would love and adore you, see what I mean?

I've not made any real relationships through them, and I get frustrated with those personals quickly.

Start a new hobby, or keep up on an existing one, and get your head into something really important and pleasing to you. Keep that sense of abundance around you at all times. No one, not even you, is attracted to someone who quickly comes across as having "deficiency needs". We all want to be around people with personal abundance.

This is a hard lesson for me personally, which I'm still working on. I've had a lot of trouble being grateful for many things in life other people would be more grateful for. That's not to say I'm NEVER grateful, because indeed I give thanks for certain things every single day.

But don't remove yourself, your feelings, your SELF out of your life. I believe this is key. At first it may feel ultra strange, but ease into it, and give yourself a lot of time.

.gloria
(sexy Libra who is Demi Moore years old & never married)

posted June 09, 2004 03:38 PM         

Yeah, if you want to full service or the ability to e-mail people. Then again, most of the men will find you and send you e-mails. I have met some cool friends ( I am in a relationship, but had signed up for it a long time ago). I talk to people from time to time, mostly because I strike up a friendship with people I have things in common with - astrology, metaphysics, science.

If someone sends me an e-mail, I always respond, icebreakers..only if the same person sends them multiple times. You can still have access to everything, just not the e-mail unless you pay for it. People find ways to list that information, either when they e-mail you or in their profile.

But like AJ said, you have to keep an open mind. Don't just delete an e-mail because the profile isn't 100% what you want.

posted June 10, 2004 10:02 AM         

Sometimes men leak out these kinds of questions to show they are making baby steps towards asking you out. It seem strange that they would bring up marriage, but not really. Men are very careful about commitment and so they want your views on it. It's easy not to listen and men's egos are fragile. They have to do the asking, in their minds, so they go slow.

It's really hard to hear what somebody is telling you when they are asking you out. Listen to questions and consider that every man talking to you, whether he looks married, or inappropriate for you or not, is trying to ask you out.

Everyone has their own way, that's all.
If you are surrounded by men for one day, chances are half are trying to ask you out, or find out if you are single. Make sure every man you meet knows you are single and looking, in a carefree sort of way. That you are light hearted and want to have fun, but that you are not into heavy emotional stuff right now.

You will attract a lot of interested men who want to take you out and talk. That's necessary to get to know them, then you can pick and choose. Keep it light and breezy for at least a month.

Good Luck, I had no idea how many men were single until I got divorced, then everyone including the furnace cleaner bragged to me how he was single or knew someone who was. At first I was insulted and then I reconsidered. It's good that everyone knows you are single but unless you have a public breakup no one knows. If you are reasonably attractive and even 1% of the male population knew you were single, you would be swamped.

So get the word out, don't be shy because chances are, your soul mate is really, really shy, men are a lot shyer than women, honestly. They get to the point where rejection is really painful.

posted June 10, 2004 08:57 PM         

It will happen when the time is right. Trite but true

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