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Topic: How to Deal With a Smitten Sagittarian?
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Everlong
Knowflake Posts: 246
From: Southeast Florida
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted July 27, 2004 02:17 AM
 
Argh, I hate this. And it always happens to me. See, I like having guy pals. They're the best. But I've already had two cases where they actually had a crush on me, and it just ended up to be awkward for me, even though I didn't tell them I knew. And I think it's happened again.See, I have a Sagittarian guy friend that's like, my bestest guy friend. I have loads of fun with him at school, he's hysterical. Yesterday he IMed me, and he was like, "I've been trying to contact you for such a long time. I was about to try to get your phone number." Which kind of made me go, whaa? Why? I didn't say that, but yeah. Then he kept asking me stuff like "what are you doing?". Then today he IMs me and says: Him: I want you to have my babies. *Pause* Him: lol Him: lol Him: jk ... and I have the feeling he might not have been completely "jk"? I dunno what to do now, really. I guess maybe I should just pretend I don't know any better and just ignore it when he makes jokes like that? Arr, what should I do? I'm really not into him romantically, and I hate it when this happens. Why can't a girl just have a strong platonic relationship with a guy? Stupid Venus in Aquarius *kicks her Venus*. ------------------
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sthenri
Moderator Posts: 1897
From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted July 27, 2004 10:14 AM
Just be honest, say you are not interested in him romantically but you are close to him as a friend. Tell him to give it time and he may meet someone else, that you only want him to be happy but this is the best way.Meanwhile see if you can fix him up with someone, and be optimistic towards him about dating others. We can't hold on to guy pals forever, without this happening, you know:> Natasha
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pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 2495
From: Annapolis, Maryland USA
Registered: May 2002
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posted July 27, 2004 12:54 PM
You are a fun target, a quest. The more you get uncomfortable the more it eggs him on. That is our Sag nature. Like Natasha said, just tell him you value him as a friend and that you are not interested in anything more. He will get the picture. I had a fellow Sag dude from Texas pursue me for 2 years. Not in a stalking way, but flowers, cards, etc...he just liked the "idea" of me. I let him know that I wasn't into him that way from the beginning..but...sometimes the quest is so much more entertaining than the capture.  Especially, if he has his Venus in Sag like me! He stopped and so will your Sag if you are straight with him. IP: Logged |
Everlong
Knowflake Posts: 246
From: Southeast Florida
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted July 28, 2004 02:09 PM
Heh, thanks guys, I am being pretty silly about this- I'll just leave it alone for now, but if he keeps at it I'll just do what you guys advised =).------------------
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amisha121877
Knowflake Posts: 22
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted July 30, 2004 04:27 PM
A Sagittarian guy? Hmmmmmm - don't know that one but I'm a Sagittarias female and all you have to do is show consistent interest in me and insult me by telling me you are interested in me that way when the thought never crossed my mind though the thought may cross my mind once I've already told the person I wasn't interested - wishy washy. I think if you show intense interest in him, maybe he will decide that that's not exactly what he was expecting from you and he'll never think of you that way again though how important you are to him may dwindle / him avoiding seeing you and the likes moreso out of not knowing what you two can possibly talk about anymore than actually thinking you are a nobody. I mean - we do seem to be attracted to "aloof/seemingly uninterested" individuals. brushing him off only has him plotting how he can win you over which if you are not interested, is a waste of his time. I don't know - best of luck though. Then again, maybe he was just joking with you...........sometimes our jokes are totally unappreciated. oh well.
btw pidaua - you are sooo right about the venus in sagittarius thing.
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BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 28
From: Pacific Northwest
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted July 30, 2004 07:23 PM
Being a Sag myself...I always prefer the direct approach. But, that's just me. It's over with quicker and even though he will be disappointed at first, a Sag will always appreciate and respect in the long run, someone who respects them enough to be truthful off the bat.IP: Logged |
JustAmanda
Knowflake Posts: 304
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Registered: Jan 2003
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posted August 13, 2004 07:09 PM
I'm a Sag as well..and I have to say that what he said to you sounds like just the type of practical joking that I would make! In a flirty kinda way, but joking...I find that with myself, I am a flirt....it's part of my personality..however, I don't mean to hurt anyone with it, or anything. I just like to laugh and joke and sometimes alittle flirtiness falls into the mix...and when someone can joke and flirt back with me, that makes it twice the fun! It doesn't always mean I'm interested in that person in a romantic way...I guess that it why I'm a very confusing Sag to most people!IP: Logged | |
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