Posts: 607
From: Sacto, CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2003

posted December 21, 2004 10:09 PM         

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i just recently told this cancer dude i wanted to be friends because i was goin thru a lot of personal probs (which i was) and it just wasn't the time. truth is he was kind of a jerk and i used him. he's very sensitive and extremely possessive. he's 24 and lives with his mom (kind of a mama's boy.) however i'm really attracted to his brother (a cappy) who is just the opposite of him - very laid-back and fun loving. is it wrong to pursue him if i am still talking to his brother? i just got invited to their party, but i'm probably gonna be out of town then

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From: the desert, usa
Registered: Nov 2004

posted December 22, 2004 12:20 AM         

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sure it's "wrong" by most standards. but you have to make the choice based on what you feel is right.

just imagine how you would feel in the same situation. if you think it would hurt you, maybe it would be better not to pursue the brother.

p.s. did you try and find a copy of the book "revolution from within" yet? I think it could be a really good read for you and it also has a section called "bibliotherapy" that lists other helpful title's. Good luck though.

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From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003

posted December 22, 2004 01:27 PM         

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I tried to respond to this last night, but some how I lost it.
Sometimes we are led to people through others.. in fact, a lot of the time this is the case. Karma is karma after all.. Good and bad. I believe this isn't a bad thing, but an in between.. this man might have hurt feelings, but he'll get over it... in the end, all would lose out if it would lead you to an amazing connection that would inspire others...... and you didn't pursue because of a possible case of wounded pride. How many times in life do you crush on another's love? We don't choose who we like or are and aren't connected to. Follow where it leads.. don't push, don't crowd, be respectful, and it will all unfold.
Good luck

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From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003

posted December 27, 2004 11:17 AM         

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Just want to make sure you know we did see this and respond!

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