posted February 25, 2005 06:31 AM
Enter your natal chart into astro.com and see where astro.com places your Venus. One of the shortfalls of Relationship Signs, in my opinion, is that it's synastry by sign only, not by degree. It's a great intro to synastry, but true synastry is going to take into account the exact degrees. But the book is fun for someone who will read it once or twice and never give it another thought, you know? Plus I love the interpretations, I still use those
Having said that, assuming you do indeed have Venus in Virgo, a way that you can check whether your Venus and Pluto are indeed conjunct is to look at the degree Venus is in on your natal chart and the degree Pluto is in on his natal chart (You can find this info if you look at your respective birth/natal charts on astro.com).
If for example you have Venus at 15 Virgo and he has Pluto at 15 Virgo, then that is an exact conjunction, very powerful aspect to have in synastry. If say, your Venus is at 12 Virgo and his Pluto is at 15 Virgo, it's still conjunct, just not exact and still powerful. If say, you have Venus at 3 Virgo and he has Pluto at 28 Virgo, then you actually don't have a conjunction at all.
Does that make sense? Most people use an orb of 5 degrees for conjunctions, so if your Venus and his Pluto are futher apart than that, then they aren't considered conjunct.