posted March 07, 2005 10:58 AM         

I would give him at least a week with no contact, and then an email or two on the weekends, I am a Taurus and the only way I can commit is to someone I could live with, who is not that emotionally upset, so if you keep calm you are projecting your long term potential.

But nothing makes a Taurus happier than domestication.

posted March 07, 2005 05:13 PM         

Yes..a part of being a fire girl (I also have an Aries moon) is to try to just jump in and fix things..but you can't with a Taurus when they are in this state. All you can do is offer quiet strength. I sent Mr. Taurus an e-mail saying that I know this time is tough, that I love him more than anything and for him to just know that I am here if he wants to talk and I will be here if he just wants to be alone.

It is really hard for me because when I talked to him yesterday I could hear the sadness and heavy grief in his voice. He said he was just plain tired...I didn't push him..I let it at that and ended the conversation early..with a I love you...

You have to monitor the hyper jumping in emotionally thing with these Bulls. They DO have a major serious side to them and that is the time where you need to be on that level..not depressed, but just quiet and calm. I just got busy doing other things rather than torturing myself with ..OMG..is he mad at me, does he still love me as much..blah..blah...

It has to be even harder for your Taurus man as he is depressed (which he sees as a weakness and Taurus men DO NOT like feeling weak.) and it is compounded by the fact that he needs medication.

Send him the e-mail that Natasha talked about..let him know you are here...for him to talk or even if he wants to be alone you understand..

posted March 07, 2005 11:19 PM         

Well since I really don't know how to keep myself from picking up the phone and calling him or even e-mailing him, my friend and I made a bet. She thinks that he will definately call me or e-mail me in 2 weeks to see how i'm doing if I don't talk to him and keep my distance...she believes that he will miss me once I at least give him the chance to. But I, even though I hope he will call me, I really think he won't call me or write me, not in 2 weeks anyway. I don't really know, I want him to miss me though so i'm really going to try hard to make it through these 2 weeks alone with no contact. That has to do something right?

posted March 19, 2005 04:04 PM         

What happened? The cops wont come out for no reason, did he claim domestic violence or trespassing? It sounds like he is having problems with his medication.

I would get out of that relationship until you have both had some serious counseling. The hooking up with a girl is not that serious, I know it hurts, but you were broken up and he IS a Taurus LOL...

The thing that worries me is that if he is taking this medication and starts to play with the dosages (like "Hey I feel great so maybe I will skip today") then you are going to bear the brunt of his mood swings.

One thing that many people may not know about Taurus men (and I have only seen this in the males- Taurus risings included) is that they can really blow things out of proportion and that legendary temper can be quite scary.

A word of advice, I know your Aries Sun hates to back down from conflict (My Fire Sun / Moon are the same way). But when Taurus man is angry, and you see that smoke coming from his nose and he starts to snort and pace...IF he says "Leave me alone". You NEED to do just that. Leave him alone. IF you push you will get the horns..along with the bull. I am not sure if you two had a heated battle and he called the police to remove you, or if he was being delusional -

I will say another thing, if there was a record, you better deal with it. Talk to the police and make sure they understand the issue (his issues) if you ever have to undergo a background check this could come up- if there is a record of their coming to the house and him being the victim.

posted March 21, 2005 01:44 AM         

Well the whole situation with the cops. It all started because wanted to go over to his house to take a shower because my shower wasn't working and I Had no where else to go at the time and I had to work the next day and I hadn't taken a shower at all that day. Anyway, he was out with his friends Friday night and I was also out with my friends but I told him that I Needed a shower and if I could get one there. He said that'd be fine and he'd call me when he got home. So I got home at around 2:30 in the morning and I stayed up until about 3:30 waiting for him to get home and call so i could go over, but he didn't and I ended up falling asleep. Then at around 4 am he calls and tells me I can come over now he just got home. I was so angry because I really needed sleep for work and so did he (he had to wake up at 8 for work) so I told him that was really inconsiderate of him to do because if it were him I would've made sure to be home early enough for him to come over and get a shower. And he got angry and said that it wasn't inconsiderate he just wanted to spend time with his friends. I understood taht but I was just so angry that he had gotten in that late while i was sitting there waiting and being dirty and stuff. So we got in a fight and he said you know what just don't come over anymore I don't want you to come here in this state of mind and this mood. And that just angered me so much I said I was going to come over and I did just that..I went over there and i was freaking out and crying and he wouldn't let me in. We were on the phone as i stood outside his house begging to come in and he was threatening to call the cops if i didnt leave. There was no reason for it becasue I was not threatening to harm him in any way, i was just upset and needed a shower and I felt really rejected that he told me not to come over. Anyway, next thing i know he's on the phone and I could hear him from outside saying "she's rining my doorbell and knocking on my window right now she won't go away". The he gets of the phone and comes to the window and says what do you want? and i said look just come out here and talk to me. So he comes out and says "Annesia, you should just leave, the cops are on their way I don't want anything to happen just leave before they get here". So I really started panicking and stuff I didn't know what was giong to happen and he goes "relax, look i just told them to give you a warning nothing is going to happen". And then the cops showed up...they just told me that i need to stop doing that, but they took my name down and stuff. And then they escorted me out and I went home. I called him when I got home and asked why he did that and he said "Because I knew that if you came in I wouldn't get any sleep and I am too stressed I can't deal with this and with you anymore. Things are never going to change with us. I didn't know what else to do" and i said "All you had to do was talk to me".

posted March 23, 2005 10:45 PM         

He just went on pretending everyday,
Your Taurus is avoiding conflict and is scared to talk about what's going on in his life with you,

You both need a break to talk about those bad things that happened with other people so you can be better friends again.

LIbra, Taurus and Venus driven men need to be friends first, they are not into passionate scenes, and they will break up to avoid the conflict, just when it's necessary. That can be VERY frustrating and can make you seem depressed when in fact ou are angry and frustrated. Depression is simply anger turned inwards and that's what you have become. You simply can't deal with the anger and frustration like he can, because you don't deal with conflict that way.

The best thing to do is deal with the conflict on our own, in your own way and see him as a friend until you can forgive each other. First you have to forgive him enough to know how to ask him why he is so angry at the world? And then when you ask him enough, he will tell you, and maybe let you in again.

But it won't happen for a long time, in the meantime, de-stress, work on yourself, but I do not believe you are ill, with anything but frustration at trying to get answers from this man as to why he has rejected you.

One day he will tell you, but you have every right to what you really want, and spending time with friends helps. They know what you have been through too and they care, he is not the only one, and he can take care of himself, you are not accountable or guilty for going to his house. I would have done the same thing!

posted March 25, 2005 12:40 AM         

I would love to see him as a friend, but he refuses to see me or even talk to me on the phone. It's probably best that we don't talk just because every time we e-mail or anything I get set back and it gets worse each time. I e-mailed him saying I was never going to talk to him again because I can't it makes me worse, and he said that's probably for the best. Then I wrote back and said "well one more thing, do you care at all? does this hurt you at all to not talk to me the way it hurts me?" and that was earlier today he still hasn't written back..I don't think he's going to write back either. I think this is really it and I guess i will just have to face it and deal with it because there's nothing else I really can do. I just keep thinking positive though, I know that this is by far the hardest thing I've ever had to do- let someone go that I love this much, even though I've done it before it was not this extreme...But I know it will only make me stronger and I can only learn from this right? I'm just confused as to what to do about my next semester of school..i don't know if I should go back to where he is (even though we never see each other because it's a huge school) or if I should find somewhere new. I guess I can make that decision when it's closer to the time for that though. I don't even know if he's going to stay there anyway. Ahh I just feel confused...I'm sure there is nothing really really wrong with me, but I know i definately need to see a therapist to help me learn how to deal with my anger problems.