posted January 04, 2006 05:14 AM
I know this forum primarily focuses on romantic relationships, but it seemed like the best place for this post nonetheless...I think the pain that is caused by the end of a friendship is vastly under-estimated. Even when we know that parting ways is a "good" thing...still...I think it so heart-wrenching. It's like a break-up!
I've just had a falling out with a friend and I know that we'll never be friends again. Even though she has apologized for what has happened and wants to mend things, I now see her differently and know that it would be detrimental to my well-being to continue our friendship. But still, I feel so much sadness, and do miss her even though I can no longer see her as a good/trustworthy person.
I am just so tired of going through these things. Makes me feel like I am right back in junior high where girls are so catty and ruthless. This has only happened to me with female friends every couple of years or so, but -- wow -- does it hurt. I know I'm lucky to have a handful of wonderful, life long friends that I can trust, but still...I hate to go through this. I'm slow to really trust people and consider them friends, but once I do, I care about them really deeply and feel so much loyalty to them.(a capricorn thing?) Maybe it isn't this hard for most people...I admit I am extremely sensitive.
I try not to take it personally...I know that true friends are hard to come by. Yet I can agonize over these situations for months or even years, wondering if I did certain things "wrong" or if the end of the friendship was my fault, etc. etc. Yeah, once again, much like a real break-up. Maybe this sounds crazy...Can anyone relate? How do you bounce back and feel better about losing a friendship? And stop blaming yourself?
Hope I don't sound completely wacky.
Looking forward to replies...
GLLF