posted March 12, 2006 03:14 PM         

I've always been one to study people, .. and people show love in such different ways. Someone could love you, but the way they show it, could hurt you, etc. Personally, (I think it's the Mars in Aquarius) it's the most debilitating feeling.. to have your feeling so intertwined by someone else, dependent in a way, extreme vulnerability, is there anything more terrifying? It's such a subconscious thing too, I'd go out of my way, to the opposite extreme, to try and hide it even from myself. Honestly. Now with Venus in Scorp, that doesn't happen frequently (and I've only been in love twice), and no one can just bring that out in me... (Venus in Scorp is all or nothing too.. but with the Mars in Aquarius, I can only imagine how I'd appear to someone I loved.. ).

Some people.. earth venus's ... they know you love them when you do like..domestic stuff it seems, pay the bills on time..clean house, give them that kind of security, however you want to define it (I don't know!)

Fire venus's... they're so hot or cold... very very passionate, .. the ones I've known, they love the people they do because it seems.. they make them feel alive perhaps, challenging, make them feel more like men/women .. (something like that)

posted March 12, 2006 07:48 PM         

I have pluto in the 1st house conjunct the ascendant so I'm strangely enough for an air sign venus VERY passionate, emotional and intense when I'm really into someone. I think having a moon in Cancer contributes as well.

That being said, it does take time for me to open up (Virgo Asc). Guess you can't have it all. LOL

posted March 13, 2006 03:46 AM         

I show my love very passionately.....I express a lot thro touch and sexuality. I buy gifts, give, give, give a lot (too much). If I were male, I would probably be a real Romeo or Cassanova !!!

posted March 13, 2006 01:19 PM         

I think my Venus only comes out in the initial phases of the relationship, when I try to woo and impress my partner with my intellect and breadth of knowledge. After the relationship has been established the love I show comes more form my moon and sun. Cancer sun: I make my partner first in my life, I try to nurture him, I cook for them, send them little encouraging notes, take care of them when their sick, hold them when they are down, compliment them, give little gifts, listen to their concerns and help with advice. Taurus moon: I hug them, shower them with little kisses, touch them. I also try to help them solve all of their problems. I guess this could be a combination of my sun sign, moon, and Venus. I look at the hurdles in their life and try to help them conquer them with a logical approach. Relationships are everything to me - when I'm in love I pour all of my energy into them.

Everyone here should really read "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" by Gary Chapman. This book identifies five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. The author of this book explains that every partner has a different way they communicate love. We tend to give love in the way we want to receive it. It's important for each partner to know how their other half's love language so we can properly express our care. For example, if a person that primarily communicates love through little gifts is dating someone that needs expresses love through physical affection; both partners might end up feeling un-loved. Because the one partner just keeps giving the other gifts, when what he or she really needs is hugs, kisses, sex, etc. And the other keeps trying to hug and hold when their partner needs more tangible expressions of care. The solution to this is to know your partners love language and make an effort to express love in the way he or she understands. My primary love language is Acts of Service. I try to show love by helping my partner, by doing things for him. This has bit me in the past because I've dated people that didn't see my efforts as love. I had two different partners accuse me of not loving them which hurt me immensely, because I felt I had poured my heart and soul into my relationship with them. My psychologist turned me onto this book and it's really helped me. I now ask my partners to rate the love languages in order of most important to least. I then make an effort to express love in the way they need it shown.