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MsPisces
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posted March 13, 2011 12:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello Everyone..Im new here!

I just ended things a week ago w/ an Aqua man I have been seeing since July of last year. Typical Aqua from what I have been reading in almost every way. Came on strong in the beginning, then we got closer and he started pulling away, doing the disappearing thing (5 days, a week, even two weeks once w/o hearing from him!). I tried to be understanding because he is so unconventional, which I loved, but how does one discern if hes being a typical Aqua male, or is just not into you?!

As time went on I grew more and more uncomfortable w/ having a sexual relationship w/ a man who wouldnt tell me how he feels, or who I couldnt even say was really MY MAN. This was a first for me. Sometimes it felt like he was afraid of me (having wanted to date me for 10 years and finally getting the chance), and other times it felt like he didnt care at all. We got into a few heated arguments because he always said that I assumed the worst, and that if he didnt want to be w/ me anymore he would just tell mea nd he didnt understand why I kept making an issue of him not being in contact more. The lack of contact was not really my issue. If I had the trust and conidence that he cared then it would have been a non issue. But he rarely if ever gave a clue about his feelings for me.

The last straw was on my birthday last month. We had just had another talk about us and how we would try and re establish a friendship between us so that we could build something with a strong foundation, blah blah. I felt excited about this. I called him and invited him to a party my friends were throwing for me, thinking it would be a perfect opportunity to just hang out with no pressure, just have fun. He said he would come, even intimated that he was on his way and one point - and never showed up!

When I inquired via text he just said IM SO SORRY - no explanation. He called but didnt leave a voicemail. I wasnt going to chase him down for an explanation. FOUR DAY LATER he calls and leaves a msg wanting to make plans to hang out, not once saying he was sorry for not showing up, offered no explanation either. I was floored. I had enough. So I wrote to him and ended things. I just simply stated some things that had bothered me: how things always seemed to have to be on his terms, how I couldnt tell if this was a relationship or a casual thing, that I wouldnt settle on what was important to me, and most of all, how his not showing up showed me what our relationship was - and what it wasn't. He wrote me back and didnt address one thing I said! Made it all about him and how I just dont get him. While there may be some truth to that, I couldnt believe how self centered his response was. He tried to make me feel guilty or inept for not being able to get him. Even stooping low enough to say that ''like the possibility of many others I thought you would get me'', as if he were dating others and to make me feel unspecial. Then he invites me to call him 'if I want to talk' and promising to remain calm. THEN he sent a final text that saying that he was planning to take me out for my bday had we made plans for that day. All manipulation to make me feel guilty for ending things I believe.

Is this typical Aqua behavior to not take responsibility for anything? That was almost two weeks ago and I am not expecting him to call. His pride wont let him even if he wanted to. I must admit I miss him some, but I am disappointed in him and feel like I wasted my time. I was married to an Aqua for 6 years and divorced him because had serious fear of intimacy. I am new to astrology but realized most of my relationships have een w/ Aquas! I must admit I am feeling conflicted because I am rarely wrong about ppl, and felt a SPIRITUAL connection to him.

Btw, Im Pisces Sun, Moon in Gemini, Venus in Aries. Hes AQua sun, Moon in Scorpio, Venus in Sag.

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Randall
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posted March 13, 2011 02:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome!

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EverEvolvingSpirit
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posted March 15, 2011 07:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EverEvolvingSpirit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LMAO OMG I thought you were my girlfriend for a hot minute. I'm supposed to be giving her the link and I thought she found it on her own and posted it here

She is a Pisces with an Aqua man

Her guy is similar, but a bit nicer, but her Venus is in Aqua so it makes it easier. He sounds like a jerk to me, I wouldn't date him Venus is Sag doesn't help any

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MsPisces
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posted March 15, 2011 04:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hes such a dichotomy because we had some really great moments. Its really true that they run hot and cold! But he was so unreliable that I just couldnt take it anymore. I have always trusted my instincts above all else and rarely have I been wrong, so this was quite a blow. Oh well...thx for your reply.

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EverEvolvingSpirit
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posted March 15, 2011 08:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EverEvolvingSpirit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I read your post to my Pisces girlfriend. It resonated with her

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MsPisces
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posted March 15, 2011 09:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I hope she has better luck than me! LOL. I have a feeling he is going to call me and ask to talk. I hope he doesnt. But I hear they have a hard time letting go. But he is so prideful maybe he is the exception to the rule.

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MsPisces
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posted March 16, 2011 01:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
Welcome!



Thank you!

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Dee
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posted March 16, 2011 03:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
[QUOTE]Originally posted by MsPisces:
[B]Hello Everyone..Im new here!


Is this typical Aqua behavior to not take responsibility for anything?

im married to an aqua and i woud say yes to this statement. at least for mine anyway

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EverEvolvingSpirit
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posted March 16, 2011 06:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EverEvolvingSpirit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MsPisces:
Well, I hope she has better luck than me! LOL. I have a feeling he is going to call me and ask to talk. I hope he doesnt. But I hear they have a hard time letting go. But he is so prideful maybe he is the exception to the rule.

Her Venus and Mercury are Aqua too and I think that makes it a bit easier to put up with the bullsh*t. My Venus and Mercury are in Cancer so an Aqua guy would probably be a self defeating relationship, I stay far far away Even Libras and Geminis are more ideal for me than Aqua.

I think you should continue to leave him alone, you may enjoy the time you spend together, but to continuously let you down and then not even define who you are to him and in his life is just bad, especially for a Pisces. What is your moon and Venus? I need constant reassurance. Atleast once a week of my guy prefessing how much he loves me I have to hear I love you daily also. I'm kind of a puppy a lil bit, but this is about you, not me Leave his ass ALONE!

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MsPisces
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posted March 16, 2011 11:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I have no intention of calling him. And I ended it with him, so at least I have that sense of victory over him. Haha..its a small thing but his ego is so large Im sure it kills him. LOL. My Venus is in Aries, Mars in Taurus.

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MsPisces
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posted March 16, 2011 11:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EverEvolvingSpirit:

..you may enjoy the time you spend together, but to continuously let you down and then not even define who you are to him and in his life is just bad, especially for a Pisces. What is your moon and Venus? I need constant reassurance. Atleast once a week of my guy prefessing how much he loves me I have to hear I love you daily also. I'm kind of a puppy a lil bit, but this is about you, not me Leave his ass ALONE!

Funny, I used to be exactly that way. The older I get (in my 30s now) the less reassurance I need - but I still love it! I love that closeness and romance. He was sweet sometimes- but not enough. I think my emotional nature scared him. We would have a great time, then he would disapper for a few days, like he needed to regroup or get control of himself. Anyway...

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posted March 16, 2011 02:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GrlyGirl20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I think my emotional nature scared him

He's a Scorp Moon...so he is deff NOT your typical Aqua. In fact I would say the way he is reacting is more the Scorpio need to control the relationship and why he won't let go. Trust me your emotional nature DID NOT SCARE HIM as I'm willing to bet you he fed off of your emotions and emotional intensity.

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MsPisces
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posted March 16, 2011 02:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by GrlyGirl20:
He's a Scorp Moon...so he is deff NOT your typical Aqua. In fact I would say the way he is reacting is more the Scorpio need to control the relationship and why he won't let go. Trust me your emotional nature DID NOT SCARE HIM as I'm willing to bet you he fed off of your emotions and emotional intensity.

I thought so! But he was always disappearing! BUT toward the end it felt like he WAS trying to control me. Like he didn't want to care for me more than I cared for him. Like he needed to prove that I didnt have a hold on him. Why couldn't he just relax and BE? Is it that hard? Jeez.

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RMChex
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posted April 18, 2011 11:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RMChex     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi,

Sorry you're going through all this, has anything changed since you posted?

I definitely don't think he is reacting like a typical Aquarius man would. The part where he replied to your long break up letter clued me in; I think him actually writing back and wanting to have the last word is way more Scorpio than Aquarius. The Aqua's I know would have most likely not written back, and would have just waited for you to start wondering if he'd got the letter and read it. Then when you called him, he would have said that he didn't know what the big problem was and (the most annoying line in the whole entire universe) "if thats the way you feel, there's nothing I can say to change your mind so I won't bother trying."

No advice on how to solve the situation, sorry :-(

Rachel

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MsPisces
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posted April 18, 2011 11:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Rachel,
No, nothing has really changed since I posted this. You're right; I half expected him to ignore my message and thought the fact that he bothered to reply meant that he cared on some level. About 2 weeks after I posted this I went to where he works (had an appointment there) and when he saw me he looked SICK. He just stared at me and the look in his eyes was one of sadness and regret. He said hi and I said hi back. When I was leaving, he said ''you look beautiful''. I said thank you and left. He didnt call me; I didnt call him.

Funny that he told me I was beautiful; he used to compliment me like that all of the time in the beginning, but then it stopped. It seemed like he was always trying to act like he didnt care about me or even make me feel like I wasnt 'all that'. WEIRD. I guess if I would have turned to mush when he said that then he probably would have been encouraged to try and pursue me again. I saw him again about two weeks after that and we said hello to each other; this time he acted nonchalant like it was no big deal that I was there (unlike the first time, he knew I was coming so I think it was all an act). When I was leaving I saw him watching me. Then about two weeks ago I get a call. Pretty sure it was him, blocking his number. He was the only person who would call me and do that. I answered and he hung up.

Im okay now. I was so so hurt just a few weeks ago, but realized that he wasnt exactly meeting my needs with his disappearing and refusal to really be in my life, so why was I crying over him? And just like that I let it go. I regret that we never had real closure, but I bet one day when I least expect it he will call and we will finally have an adult conversation. It will be too late though.

I realized recently that I have only ever dated Aquas and Virgos. Was even married to an Aqua. I keep attracting these air signs!

Thanks for replying.

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RMChex
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posted April 18, 2011 11:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RMChex     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MsPisces:
And just like that I let it go. I regret that we never had real closure, but I bet one day when I least expect it he will call and we will finally have an adult conversation.

Hiya

That is brilliant news! I have great respect that you were able to do that, woo hooo! I bet you're right, some day you'll be in contact again - and that closure will come no matter how long it has been.

Good for you!

Rachel x

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MsPisces
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posted April 18, 2011 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EverEvolvingSpirit:
What is your moon and Venus?
I never answered this..my moon is in Gemini and my Venus is in Aries.

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MsPisces
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posted April 18, 2011 12:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you Rachel! Im actually proud of myself too. I usually obsess way too much and hold on too long. Not this time. Woo hoo!

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MsPisces
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posted April 24, 2011 12:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MsPisces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I had a feeling I would hear from him soon. And it was today. I was sleeping and the phone rang and it was him. Funny I deleted his # from my phone and it took a second to register whose number it was.

I didnt answer, but he left a long voicemail. Essentially apologizing. He said that he woke up this morning thinking about me and he wanted to call and let me know that he cares, that he always has. He made some analogy about us standing side by side with the option of 3 different roads to take that all led to the same destination, and how I took one and he took another, but we would have probably ended up in that same place (meaning together).

He said everything was his fault. He kind of contradicted himself by saying that he wasnt ready to go where I wanted him to go and how he had to take a step back because he was finding it hard to focus mentally. (Not sure what that means exactly). He said that he wanted to make peace with me and with himself regarding what happened and that he hoped that I would call him back, if nothing else, he would like to stay in touch with me. He said that he really cares for me and that before TODAY wasn't able to say that.

He said that if I didn't want to speak to him he understood and he would see me around or when I come into where he works. That I always look so beautiful. It was sort of romantic. I would have loved to hear that a month ago.

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