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Topic: A double ARIES is making me very sad
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ScorpioRising
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posted July 02, 2006 01:56 PM
 
So I have been with my particular man for three years-and yes-we are MADLY in love.One problem-he is very commitment shy and a huge mama's boy (i guess that's two.) It wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't so awful (capricorn-dont know her moon or rising.) We love each other and I would love to spend my life with him. Everyone tells him how great we are together-and YET_he wants to wait. I have tried VERY hard to understand him-but I fail to. He is a double aries-moon and sun in Aries and Aqua rising with Pisces in the 1st house. I fail to see where his super cautious, analytical nature arises. He has NO sense of impulse and is SUPER logical. Also, like I mentioned huge Mama's boy. Color me CONFUSED. He has aqua rising-but he is not a stand out in any sense. He likes to blend in-if I had to guess I would have pinned him a Virgo with a cap rising. His bday is 26th march 1982-4 am, Miami Florida. Any advice you guys have-I would love! IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted July 02, 2006 04:27 PM
I dated a man like this who had an Aqua rising, Leo moon, Venus in Pisces/1st house conjunct Neptune. Very romantic guy super attached to women in his family and commitment phobic. Very analytical and had to win every argument. We had a lot of fun together but ultimately he would never stand up for me in front of his family and his sisters tore me apart.Let the attachment fade away the same way he has done with you, and try other hobbies or work to take your mind off of it for now. Don't make any big decisions but do not put anymore energy physically into it. If he's not for you just start detaching. I know an Aries guy I dated recently with a Cap moon and he is exactly the same, huge momma's boy, took three months to ask me out, only wants a sure thing, no commitment to who I am, but afraid of every step. Always makes me call him. Absolutely rigid in all things. I don't call him anymore. If a guy REALLY wants you and you are meant to be he will chase you. and Aries isn't exactly good at long term chasing, my former b/f had an aries moon too and nothing there either. Natasha
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ScorpioRising
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posted July 02, 2006 04:36 PM
thanks sthenri-he is very committed to our relationship-just not to the idea of making it "official"-engagement, marriage etc. He does call me a lot-we have a good relationship-give and take. We just have a problem with his ability to stand up to his mom (VERY dominating) and the commitment thing. His saturn enters 7th in the fall-will that change anything? (its in the 6th now!) thank you guys!! IP: Logged |
LILYGIRL
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posted July 02, 2006 07:25 PM
"Significant relationships with others are the focus when Saturn transits the seventh house. Saturn motivates us to do "spring cleaning" in the areas of life he touches, and one-to-one relationships will need to be considered and understood during this transit. Initially, as is usually the case with Saturn transits, we might feel frustrated and we might seem withdrawn. This is a time when we need to define, understand, and crystallize our significant relationships with others. If you already have a partner, this is a time when any issues surrounding compromise, flexibility, and the ability to give your heart to your partner will surface. Initial frustration can take the form of feeling criticized and "examined" in this area of life. By the end of the transit, however, you will have learned much about commitment and compromise. Single natives will feel the initial pressures of Saturn transiting the seventh house as well. A feeling of loneliness is possible in either situation (whether you have a significant partnership or not), but instead of an issue of re-committing, the single native will think about commitment in general. If involved in a casual love relationship, when Saturn transits the seventh, a pressure emerges concerning the need for evaluating one's commitments. Often this transit corresponds with an urge (or pressure) to make a commitment or a re-commitment. Healthy partnerships can be the outcome of this partnership, whether they are new ones or strengthened existing partnerships. Saturn always brings with him a fair measure of reality and objectivity, so that whatever relationships the native has or wants will be defined and re-defined. Relationships are seen now as serious. Partners are no longer simply fun or mirrors of our ego. Responsibilities to partners, the need to compromise, and the realities of the needs of others, become clear. We are forced to begin seeing others as individuals, and to improve the manner in which we relate to and with others. Depending on the person's age and life circumstances, "significant partnerships" can mean partnerships with loved ones, business partnerships, and even deep friendships. "
PS-- Aqua rising does not necessarily mean a "stand out"; it can mean a quiet lover of freedom and a penchant to not want formal commitment until later in life. I don't know any Aqua Sun or Aqua Rising people who married early.... Also Pisces in house one can be quite passive and loathe to ruffle anyone's feathers directly that includes dear ole mom.
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posted July 02, 2006 07:41 PM
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sthenri
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posted July 02, 2006 11:22 PM
I know it was the same with my guy, who was very sweet and pampered me so I was sorry to let him go. But I needed more support as his sisters were very nasty, once he bought me an expensive necklace and one told me he bought every woman he knew the same piece. She went out of her way to make sure she was the victim in every interaction so I looked bad.Nothing I said made a difference, she would insist I help her in the kitchen and serve roast and gravy on a 90 degree day, she was a martyr and he seemed to love that. I felt the good in me was neglected so I wanted to be more of a domestic goddess, I got the strong sense that his Aqua rising wanted a sexy woman, not a domestic one. That could be it, just a guess because I've dated air rising men before, they didn't love domestic women the same way. maybe if you two did get married he would treat you like his Mother, and that's not good. I'm sorry but I still feel some detachment is good, his feelings will get stronger. In my case I couldn't stay in the same city so had to leave, but if I could have stayed I would have been careful to stay detached and keep him as a boyfriend, away from his sisters, and making sure he had to be alone with me if he wanted to see me. Of course he may have said no to that. You should never share a man with another woman, especially his mother because he has to treat you as Number 1! Good luck,
Natasha
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ScorpioRising
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posted July 03, 2006 10:38 AM
Hey Natasha! Thank you so much. You are also a Taurus/Cancer moon like I am! I am sorry you had such a tough time with him. I have deattached myself some-but not a lot. My aries man likes his woman domestic AND sexy. haha. he has a STRONG conservative streak in clothes, etc-think Virgo! = ) IP: Logged | |
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