posted November 29, 2006 11:28 AM         

I was hoping that I might try and put this on the forum, and ask for some help. Yesterday morning my 16 year old sister left home. She had been dating a guy last summer, and when he dumped her she took up with a girl. Obviously a lesbian relationship is something different for me, my brother, and my mother to deal with, but we have tried to be as accepting as possible. The problem is that this girl she's been seeing is mentally unstable. She's been arrested several times, she has sold her body for money, she has attempted suicide, been physically abusive to her own mother, etc...the list goes on and on. We've tried desperately to steer my sister away from her, but nothing helped and my sister just became more and more defiant and mean and spiteful towards me and my mother.

This comes at a very difficult time for us since my father just passed away on August 4th. My mom took that so very, very hard. She couldn't work for 2 months and went on disability. She's tried to pull herself back together and has been going to a support group and seeing a therapist. She was doing so much better and I was so proud of her - but the problems with my sister have just been escalating. My mom had been giving in to her a lot because she just didn't have the strength to fight, and all she has wanted is peace. Now this...

Monday night my mother and I had a huge blow up with my sister. I have NEVER spoken to my mother the way that my sister was. I couldn't believe it. When I tried to step in, she screamed "shut up bit*h," and "fu*k you" to me. She was saying the same to my mother. I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe that she could be SOOOO selfish - even for a teenager. To put my mother through this now is pure EVIL.

My sister has a car, and on Monday night my mom tried to get the keys from her, but she had hidden them and wouldn't give them up. Tuesday morning my sister got up as usual and got ready for school. She left the house and that was the last we've seen of her. Apparently she went to school, picked up her girlfriend, and they took off. My mom filed a missing person's report, and then realized that my sister had stolen my mother's wedding ring...probably to pawn. My mom burst into tears when she called me at work and told me this. My mom was JUST starting to get back on her feet and had just gone back to work two weeks ago. I left work early yesterday, and my mom didn't go in today. My mom's job is at stake over this, and if she loses her job, she'll lose her house!

At this point, if/when we find my sister, my mom has decided to sell the car and send my sister to reform school. But that's IF we find her...

I just lost my father, and my mom is all I have left. She has a history of blood clots and high blood pressure...if something happens to her because of this I don't know WHAT I'll do. As far as I'm concerned I no longer HAVE a sister. All I can think is, "God help us, God help us..."

My mom is doing this all on her own now. My sister feels NO guilt over what she does, no remourse, no empathy for others...she's purely selfish.

posted November 29, 2006 01:31 PM         

i'll pray for your mother and you. and also for your sister. God will see you through this.