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posted December 03, 2006 04:49 AM         

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Ok. I'm wondering if there's a good side to being in long-term relationship with a Gemini man. Could be the whole "Saturn on the DC" crap that is going on with our composite right now, plus I see on this forum that others are having relationship challenges at the moment, but to be honest it seems like a lot of the troubles I'm having with him are basically Gemini troubles! Seriously! Are these men only good for a little while and then they crap out?? I don't mean to start astro-bashing, I'll say that right now, but it's just that I know three other girls who've had the exact same (or at least similar) problems with Gemini boyfriends. :-/ And yeah yeah I know the problems I'm having with him are exacerbated by his Aries ASC and Aries moon, but still...

I don't want this to be a "bash Gemini men" thread, but I would like to know if there is an upside to being with one of them long-term... more to the point, can they do it? Can they do long-term?? I'm asking myself if after a year and a half he can pull himself and that Gemini stellium of his together and really do this??? I know he loves me but agh! He aggravates me sometimes! (Yeah ok, Linda Goodman was right - he confuses and infuriates me! But I still love him! Aghh!)

Oh and it's not just me! People get alienated by him... people comment about his communication or lack of being able communicate "normally"... he's very very eccentric and that's what I love about him, but others are alienated by it, but the strange communication/mental activity can be out of control sometimes... and I mean really seriously out of control... that no one else can get a word in and he's just on a completely different level to everyone else... that's fine with me, but when he can't hold a proper conversation with me and it's all mixed up and irritable (usually about feelings actually - he can say what he thinks but he can't say how he feels! Even if it's something as simple as why he's annoyed or why he did something, he can't do it!) well it's driving me insane!

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posted December 03, 2006 10:05 AM         

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I was in a long term with a Gemini (I did not want long term at the time and he did), it sounds more as if he is moody because of his Aries Moon and Ascendant, if they are conjunct then his Moon is on the Ascendant. Either way I dated two Aries moons and they like their freedom emotionally and can't talk about emotions easily.

They are doers not talkers anyway and they do distance themselves from others. They want to be exceptional, are competitive and need activities all the time, they drop in from time to time but do not want clingy hand holders and prefer projects, such as traveling.

Could you two go on a spa trip, or get away somewhere for the holidays? No amount of romance lasts forever you know, when dating everyone puts their best foot forward and then it's basically dinner and tv. YOu've got to be happy with the package beforehand.

I have a 8th house Cancer moon so I understand the frustation, I like to talk about the future and emotions too. Plus I am concerned about a lack of follow through.

But male friends help me more in this way, talk about my life and help out in little ways. That limits my romances however, I can't live any other way than to know my romance is safe from my emotional ups and downs. Female friends help too if they are strong-especially Pisces/water moons/water venus, or Capricorn/water moon women.

Do you have friends with this kind of emotional intelligence? It's best to appreciate the watery people in your life, and then the air sun signs don't seem so aggravating.

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posted December 03, 2006 02:03 PM         

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I have the same problems with a Gemini man but i think its the DC specifically because my uncle is a Gemini man and he has been married for 18 years without any trouble and is very commited. I think its just our Gemini guys...;(

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posted December 03, 2006 03:08 PM         

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Cancer is the cusp of my 8th house, sthenri! So I can relate. And yeah I know what you are saying... we're going to try to get away soon, probably over Christmas when I get two weeks off. Things have been up and down on almost a daily basis lately, which is hard for me! And I agree, appreciating the watery people is good... my bf's best friend is an Aries but we suspect he has a Pisces ascendant and/or moon. Very sensitive, very watery and in fact he has been very supportive to me lately! Two other guy friends have been good too, both of them I suspect with strong water in their charts. The more I think about it, it seems less a Gemini problem than it is an Aries problem like you said... it's been said to me by a female friend that I can't expect one person to be everything to me, so maybe I am a little bit too demanding??

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posted December 03, 2006 07:07 PM         

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Meh i expect one person to be everything for me too and everyone tells me to stop...its hard because how can my other half not be my everything? But apparantly it shouldnt be so

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posted December 03, 2006 08:06 PM         

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Yeah I guess I was spoiled by my last boyfriend, who actually WAS everything - best friend, lover, fashion/shopping friend, person I could be honest with about absolutely everything. Apparently you don't get that type of relationship every day and I shouldn't expect it... (To be honest, ok the passion was 'missing' and I'd rather be good friends with him now but you know what I mean about looking back and appreciating how good the relationship was overall). I'm told I should expect different things from different people - like person A is the person I live/sleep with, person B is my friend for shopping, person C is who I can talk to when I have problems with person A, etc... it's an alien concept to me!

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posted December 03, 2006 10:45 PM         

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Came here my ex also spoiled me to bits...but there was no passion and thats what i needed, no exhitement nothing. He was security but nothing else

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posted December 04, 2006 02:03 AM         

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I TOTALLY KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!

I'm friends with him forever though. He would still to this day do anything for me... that's real love. And I would be there for him if he ever needs me and vice versa, that's a fact. But yet I don't think I would ever go back to being a couple with him. Weird.

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posted December 04, 2006 09:31 AM         

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Yup we are still friends...sorta...i mean when im in trouble or sad or w/e hes always the first one to come but until then he ignores me and acts like a total ass to me...and hes soooo mood-swingy Cancer Scorpio Cancer...go figure...he wasnt outgoing at all just sat in a corner and sulked and then told me he hates gatherings of people and social situations. My Gemini ASC LIbra hated it.

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posted December 04, 2006 02:01 PM         

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Yeah I didn't like it that mine was always on Playstation and wouldn't come out for a walk with me or go out to things that I wanted to go to... I wanted someone who would *do* things with me apart from going to the shops, and who would go out to see bands with me, etc...

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posted December 04, 2006 06:00 PM         

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Yea exactly! OF course while Gemini boy and I have similar tastes and things he still prefers his stupid video games any day. UGH

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posted December 04, 2006 08:33 PM         

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Luckily for me, my Gemini thinks video games are dumb... but instead he goes on the MySpace religion and philosophy chatroom! Oh well I don't care too much, I know he has to get his social interactions.

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posted December 04, 2006 08:41 PM         

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LOL if mine did something that interesting but noooo its card games this card games that.

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posted December 05, 2006 10:27 AM         

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Coming from another Gemini magnet...they can be out there sometimes but I totally get it someitmes for some reason. (Gem venus in the 5th) Hell, people think I'm a little eccentric maybe thats why we've stuck together in the past. They're fast at everything though...whether its walking or typing. I have this one gem friend who could type a sentence on AIM in less than a second.

Yeah, but I do get that air can be infuriating sometimes without any water. The hard, cold, detached-ness can be too much for a waterperson like me. But I've never experienced that with geminis oddly enough...just Libras.

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posted December 05, 2006 03:14 PM         

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My boyfriend is a Gemini and I am more of the 'gemini' in the relationship that he is. (I have gemini on the seventh house cusp with mercury and jupiter conjuct in geminit in the seventh). I never have to call him or initiate if I don't want to.. he is totally steady and very thoughtful. We have only been together for a month though so some surprises could be down the road. We have great mental affinity, which may have something to do with the solidarity of our relationship. I find his calmness and assuredness surprising since he has an venus in aries and mars in gemini...very little earth in his chart at all. Good luck geminilover! I hope that you are able to find peace no matter what happens

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posted December 05, 2006 08:20 PM         

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Thanks... and yeah I'm a 7th house cusp Gemini with Venus in Gemini myself so I can't help it but be attracted to them. This one though, I absolutely love him but living in veeeeeeery close quarters with him for almost a year (God I just realised it's been that long that we've been living together!) is starting to drive me bonkers... well, that and a Venus square Uranus transit that is due to end this month (thank GOD!).

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posted December 06, 2006 09:52 AM         

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Oh, that transit's supposed to hit me in March (venus square uranus). What's it like? Just outta curiousity....

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posted December 06, 2006 04:46 PM         

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It's infuriating! I find it unsettling and stressful... then again it doesn't necessarily affect everyone that way. It makes me want to make impulsive decisions. This transit ends for our composite on 31 December (along with a few Mars oppositions happening this month) so I look forward to the New Year!

Oh wait, I just found out we have Mars opp. Saturn until 6 January. Please God get me through this!

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