posted January 10, 2007 11:34 PM         

I really can't stop thinking about his man.... for a while I got over him.... but now I'm thinking about him over and over and over again..... what is wrong with me....
We broke up and just became friends in early 2004 (we have been off and on) the last time I saw him was december 05.... and in 2006 I FINALLY got over him (and didn't think of him) I don't understand why all of a sudden(starting from late december 06) I can't get him off of my mind

Its so wierd because I REALLY can't get him off of my mind... I keep having thoughts of him and I together... I feel like him and I still have a future together.... I don't know what to do I really need help.... I haven't spoken to him on the phone in over a year and I want to call him... but I'm afraid of his reaction....

I don't know what I should do...

Should I just call him?....

Or should I just try to forget about him
I'm a leo moon I like fairness and I don't like it that I always call him first and he hardly calls me first....

I wish he would just call me....

Maybe he moved on....

And that would really break my heart if he tells me he is with someone...

What should I do...

And how can I move on when I always have him on my mind.... I even think of him when I'm dating another guy... I'm just obssessed...

It's killing me not to call him...

But even though we are friends I don't think he wants to call me.... because he dosen't call.....

I feel so bad I really want to call him but I don't want him to pick up the phone and say something like "oh hi " I want him to say "hey baby I missed you sooo much I've been hopeing to hear from you"

In other words I don't want to get my feelings (cancer asc.) hurt

What should I do please help!

What do you think he wants me to do......

Please help

Thank you!!!!!!!!!

Katie

posted January 11, 2007 07:38 AM         

Good luck!

posted January 11, 2007 03:05 PM         

I guess I should call but it has been so long ago since him and I spoke last!

And I always gave him mix signals and he accussed me of confusing him.....

And for the most part I'm always the one who calls first..... and it seems like I like him more than he likes me....

So if I call him it's like I'm saying to him "I like you more than you like me" And I want him and I to like each other in the same way!

But I hear what your saying......

Thank you sooo much for the reply I appreciate it soooo much!!!!!!!!!

posted January 15, 2007 06:07 AM         

take care.. and its good to remember that we only pass this way once... so live your life as a cherished journey.

posted January 15, 2007 03:34 PM         

I am a leo moon too - i totally understand what you mean about fairness. I like a relationship to be two ways and for both parties to put the effort in. Im getting over a scorpio guy....i think i was a bit too "open book" for him. Being a saggie, i was very honest and i dont like to play games.

posted January 21, 2007 05:26 AM         

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So..what happened? Did u call? What did he say? Did you get the closure you were looking for?
take care.. and its good to remember that we only pass this way once... so live your life as a cherished journey.

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HEY ALEX!
I didn't call I'm a bit chicken!!!!!

It always seems like I call him first!!!

It dosent seem fair....

maybe I'm more interested in him than he is of me

I probably never even cross his mind

So I'm afraid to call

I told him I loved him before and he never told me he loved me..... so he probably dosent care for me as much as I care for him

posted January 21, 2007 05:37 AM         

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Hey!
I am a leo moon too - i totally understand what you mean about fairness. I like a relationship to be two ways and for both parties to put the effort in. Im getting over a scorpio guy....i think i was a bit too "open book" for him. Being a saggie, i was very honest and i dont like to play games.

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I'm such a firm believer of reciprocity!!!!

Me and my ex played a lot of mind games..... he started I followed...... and now we are both damaged because of it....

I know he's still damaged and all I can do is think of is.... wanting to help him heal.....

I feel bad because there are so many things I need to tell him if he would give me a chance..... but sometimes he acts so uninterested and that turns me offf....

then when i act like im not interested he wants me its sooo ludacris... but he still dosent call me first

How are you getting over your ex.....

posted January 21, 2007 07:52 AM         

Beautiful....

posted January 21, 2007 09:12 PM         

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There is an old adage that one must say goodbye before one says hello. Letting go is an act of strength and courage. It helps healing begin, frees you of the weight of the past, and opens doors to a new future. That new future can't come thru your door until your heart and focus are freed from longing for what will probably never be.....

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Thank you Zala!!! That was a beautiful image too!!!!!!!!!

But what must one do when you forget about the person (after a long time trying) and after a year (or longer) thoughts (and feelings) of them just pop back into your head!

It's beyond my control... I really have it bad for this guy I can't get him off of my mind(lately), no matter how hard I try!!!

Katie

posted January 21, 2007 09:44 PM         

Just because thoughts and feelings and longings pop back into your head after a space of time doesn’t mean you need to act on them or that they mean you are destined to be together. Distracting yourself from obsessing about the Cancer who is GONE is crucial right now. Studying astro is one way to do that – but making the Cancerian the topic of your studies and threads is probably not very productive and only makes it harder for you to discontinue your obsession. Do you remember the “vision” I had of you standing at a crossroads watching Cancer-guy walking away?? Perhaps you should meditate on that image daily. He hasn’t called you for a year. Men consistently contact women that they want to spend time with romantically, or want as a good friend. All the wishing that he would love you as you love him, and all the hoping in the world for reconciliation is not going to bring him back. And do you want him back – “damaged” as you wrote?? Why?? Because only You can heal him and then he will love you??

Perhaps you should consider holding higher expectations for a prospective partner. If this is the only attention from him that you get (once-a-year contact) then why do you still want him?? Katie, please move on with YOUR life, and leave Cancer-guy to follow his own path. There will be someone down the road for you – but not if you obsess about it to the exclusion of all other topics. What are you doing right now, Katie?? Are you in school, or working at a job you love, or doing something creative to express your unique self?? What do YOU want to do with your life?? I’m not asking about a partnership for you – I’m asking what you want out of life for *yourself* (besides a man to call your own). Remember that not every relationship is destined to last for a lifetime. And even if you marry someone eventually, that doesn’t guarantee they will love you forever. The only person who can love you forever is YOU.

You CAN get Cancer-guy off your mind. It’s YOUR mind!! He has no right to occupy space rent-free with no return on your investment Don’t fool yourself into thinking it’s beyond your power – you have more control over your life and your thoughts and your heart than that!!

posted January 22, 2007 01:34 AM         

I'm astounded! Those were very powerful words! Thank you so much for those words of encouragement! They really helped me! And your right I really do feel like I'm the only one who can heal him. I really do feel like he needs me.

And I feel like it was a sign or something when all of a sudden (after 1 year of not thinking about him) out of the blue i start thinking of him obsessively staring from last month(December 2006 to be exact)! Maybe he was yearning for me, maybe he wants to call but he lost my number, I think him and I were vibing or something!

He must have sent out some strong energy, for me to start having thoughts of him again! It was very shocking to me..... because I completely forgot about the guy!

I do focus on my life, and ambitions and I was doing fine until I started obsessing over him a month ago

And then what makes it soo bad is that I even saw someone that reminded me of him a few weeks ago.... it's torture lol

BUT YOUR RIGHT!

I do have control over my mind!

And I must control it.... I need to.....

It's just so easy to say and hard to do!

But I got over him before (and believe me it was hard), however, I'll get over him again!!!!!

And thank you soooooo much for taking the time to write me I appreciate you a whole lot!!!!!!!!