posted January 12, 2007 10:41 AM         

There is this women who I am kinda friendly with, our sons are friends. She doesnt have a man...they split up. She winks at my husband in the playground. He finds her unattractive...she likes him....he thinks its funny!!

There is this other woman....she also split from her man. She likes my man too. We were all in the pub one night and she wouldnt leave him alone....in the end he walked away from her and told her not to ask him to fight her battles for her (some guy was chatting her up and she was acting like a damsel in distress).

She also wanted to be friends with me, but I find her and I have nothing in common.

Why these women cannot find a single man to go after, I do not know.

I met a lovely Scorpio man who I wrote of here. We could have become friends, but I "put it out there" for him not to come near me, my fear was we would pull each other too far....he is with another and has a child. We were very attracted to each other...

Why do women do this.....how would they feel if it was their man and a woman was coming on to them?

Whey cant they put themselves in the "other woman"s shoes"

I suppose the only consolation is that karma will catch up with all of us in time....do unto others etc

Why are they so selfish and at times deadly?

Hmmmmm....

posted January 12, 2007 10:57 AM         

Thanks....

No its not so much a worry for me but more of an observation.... I just see women doing this a lot all over and it is something I wanted to raise...

I have been told by many psychics that he is my true blue (inc Lotus)...I believe that for sure.

Its just that I wish women would cop on to themselves a bit more...

And I begin to understand my own motives now for trusting men as I do???

posted January 12, 2007 12:12 PM         

I see this too, but from the other side.
I wait on men and women and sometimes friendly can be misconstrued.
I try to be careful that nice and helpful doesn't turn into any kind of flirting or worse. But because there is alcohol involved I can't always help what a woman might think. There is a fine line to follow. I try to cater to the woman to avoid potential misunderstandings.

You're happy and secure with your husband so just laugh it off and consider yourself above it all.

But yeah some women are tacky.

posted January 12, 2007 12:54 PM         

You know, I am not the kind of person to get upset by this because it actually turns me on. Seriously, I find nothing sexier than a man who loves a woman and women who love men. They're not blind...let them look and get a visual feast and thats it.
I would find it very dishonest if an attractive woman did walk past and my boyfriend didnt check them out. I would. I love beauty in all its guises. I cant stand dishonesty (Yup Sue: I have a heck of a lot of Libra in me).

posted January 12, 2007 01:00 PM         

Yeah I hear ye, but it astounds me when its women who are friends!!!!

I know a couple of guys who are attractive but they are with women I know well....so would be careful about how friendly I was coming across to em.

That is a bit different to women checking yer man out in the street....yeah that can be a turn on Dew, I understand that.

I think with me being a Scorpio woman, it is about integrity....thine shall not covert my friends man...etc

posted January 12, 2007 01:25 PM         

Embrace all peoples I suppose is a great way to be....

I am learning with some caution...been burned before...it makes one wary doenst it?

posted January 12, 2007 02:29 PM         

Also, I agree with Dew about the mothering thing, but its' more than that. Sometimes it's because we want to mother them, sometimes we want them to be a father figure to us - basically we want their approval and acceptence the most. We are more willing to bend and forgive to get that approval from them, hence why we seem to think we get along better with men than women. But that's not always the case - sometimes we're just fooling ourselves. And since we're in this to-the-death struggle with other women for "mating rights" we can't even admit to ourselves that this is about winning the man's approval - it'd make us look weak, and then it's only a matter of time some other woman sinks a knife into our back.

I adore men. I really, really do. I admit to not have strong male role models in my life as a child, and this does fuels my passionate love for men. But I've healed enough to strike a balance. Now I adore them more for being able to be father figures and good complimentary companion for our feminine selves, instead feeling I needed find a man who had those qualities in him to fill up a void insided me.

posted January 12, 2007 03:04 PM         

Its still wrong to entice another woman's man...

For me, no amount of psychology or analysis can make that right...

Marriage wrecking is wrong...and the person doing it is in my eyes wrong

Of course if they are aware of thier faults and are prepared to heal it....then I applaud them

posted January 12, 2007 04:43 PM         

I saw who she walked in with... did it back... she went off I just winked at her They left... poor baby...

Sorry... that was my immature vindictive side that came rushing out..

My rationalization was: If she could dish it out, she should be able to take it.

Guess not

posted January 12, 2007 07:56 PM         

Once at a party this girl shamelessly pursued the guy I was with. The thing is she was looking at me more than him. She was only 18! And I was like 35? I think. Serious self esteem issues, I imagine. I find that sort of behaviour moreso in younger girls though because they haven't come into who they are yet, and are always looking for the better model. You know, if I can get her man's affections then that means I'm prettier or better. Stupid stuff like that. I think that's why any woman does it. To make themselves feel better than the other woman. My ex boyfriend used to see it. He'd say, baby, they're just giving me this attention because I'm with you. And the guy I went to the party with admitted it to. Except he was trying to affect my emotions so he put on a show for me. The scorpio. That's another story.

posted January 13, 2007 12:18 AM         

This is just as inappropriate. Ladies, if it's ok for a man to flirt you up, then it's ok for a lady to flirt up your man.

Why do people flirt with people who are clearly taken? I dunno. I suppose because they're looking for a trump, or some kind of affirmation that their last mate shouldn't have left them on the loose. They should have tried harder. Women need to feel desirable, because we tend to be defined by how wanted we are by men. Maybe if you were cheated on, you may spill that karma forward by trying to get someone else to cheat with you on their spouse. That would confirm that it wasn't your fault. It could happen to anyone. If you've been caught in a love triangle, you could easily change roles in another love triangle...if you're not wise enough to ensure that the insanity stops with you. Really, it does no good to pass that insanity on.

posted January 13, 2007 12:39 AM         

For whatever reason the are seeking attention to fulfill a void deep within themselves that male "attention" can not fulfill~~

posted January 13, 2007 02:43 AM         

So thus, I call this generation, the cosmetic generation. And it's so bad that young men are also defined by their outward appearance with no connecting thought or belief. The new Metrosexual. I live in the land of metrosexuals, and it's hard to find one my age, and unless he's super immature. And for the cosmetic generation, I don't see it getting better anytime soon unless they wise up to what's manipulating them. Because corporate capitalism has a huge hold on young people today. And they're selling them, Brittany Spears, and who's the other one, um, Jessica Simpson and the rest of the plastic images. So, competition amongst women is big business. It sells a lot of beauty products. It sells tons of clothing. It sells body parts. It sells magazines as we aspire to be an image. And for men, it sells a fantasy. And it makes them want a fantasy. And makes them tell us we're "hot" because hot is the fantasy. So we aspire to be the fantasy. And we think, I have to be hotter than her because the man wants hot and we want male attention. So, when you're older you realize, that male attention isn't all it's cracked up to be. The attention of the one man that you want to be with is all that matters. You can touch, feel it, experience it. The rest, well, who cares if I turn him on. Heck, I don't want him! But, then as a woman, you do want to look good but as an adult you know it doesn't validate you. So, you find less bitchiness, in MATURE adult circles of women. And there are plenty of those!

So please, look forward to growing up. It gets much better! All I have to contend with in the jealousy department these days are with young girls because they think I'm younger than what I am. And I have to go to a lot of these industry gatherings. So, I make it a point to call them, honey, or thank you sweetheart, in that, um, sweetie I'm old enough to be your teenage mother sort of way. Sometimes that makes it even worse though! Really, they need help. This cosmetic generation needs a REVOLUTION!

And that's my rant for the night. LOL.

Sigh....

posted January 13, 2007 05:49 AM         

Thanks for your replies.....awesome.....all of em!!!!

Lioneye...your story made me smile, well the moral behind it anyway. As if yer man would want that woman....really!!!! What are some women thinking about?

The two I speak of are quite sad both socially inept and I cannot even be bothered to befriend them to be honest.

Of course, if they were to step over the line, I could always stare at them from a distance...

That should do the trick....or turn em into frogs...

And no I aint joking

Thanks...you guys are a wonderful family

posted January 13, 2007 12:06 PM         

Well, I'm hitting 24 this yr... but I've always looked at my own generation (Gen-Y??) from the outside. Apart from due love of clothes, my friends are quite nerdy with quite nerdy interests...

Was disillusioned by drama that happened in high school (not *to* me, but *around* me)... and even so in college. My [Catholic] HS was full of the girls you're talking about. I wonder if they are part of the 'competition' hittin it up at the clubs. :X