posted November 11, 2007 05:48 PM         

Here are the emails in question:

"Sorry me old China! Have been quite busy. Have still to hear (tomorrow) from my travel agent. It is getting close to Xmas time, so the chances are that I won't get (any!) ticket at all. Will let you know tomorrow morning the outcome. (I am bracing myself for the worst - i.e. having to spend money that I don't have for a new ticket). I should hate that. Hope you are fine and well and not to cross with me. You called me a couple of times when I was on the run, standing on the threshold and being late already to my work. Hope you'll understand I could not answer then and there. There is a time difference, you kow. Have to run again back to my books now. Keep it up."

"Hello dear, bad luck: no Old Blighty this time, I am afraid. Just got a ticket to the only available date 8 Dec straight home. Tis a pity indeed - I rather looked forward to meeting with you and for a joint trip to Scotland. Pity. Next time then. Cheer up, love. We'll meet soon anyway, when you come down to NYC. Sorry for raising false expectations, but it proved beyond my means, as Oscar Wilde used to say. Hope you are fine and well and did not take offence to my last remarks upon your dog. Keep it up, hugs."

posted November 11, 2007 06:52 PM         

I have to admit that I haven't read any of your other posts that I can remember, but he sounds like an OK guy to me...

Rather witty, as a matter of fact, and very apologetic that he couldn't get together and mentions you coming soon to NY. How does this make him arrogant and pompous?

posted November 12, 2007 07:06 AM         

They do not live in the watery realm of emotion not the groundedness of earth or the firey passions of fire---they live in the mental realm, the place of thinking and LOGIC! Spok was surely an Aqua, if not he should be the poster man for this sun sign!!!

They do not while their days away wondering what YOU are doing and if YOU need to hear from them etc. They go about their days doing THEIR business, slaying their mental dragons.

If a woman is to be in relation with Aqua, then a woman must have a life of her own and love him for who he is, not who she thinks he should be!!!

They are FIXED and do not change easy. Change for them and only happens after a long time, when the percieved "change" that you think he needs to make has become natural to him, fixed.

posted November 12, 2007 10:44 AM         

Is he heavily air ridden in the rest of his chart? I'm sorry that I don't know this whole story, I've been away from LL for a while, but I felt compelled to write something to you. It is a subject very close to the surface of my life right now.

I wish for you that it could be different, but you have to know what you would be getting yourself into. I think he is very sincere in wishing he could meet up with you. Aquas don't really lie about things, our minds just wander so damn much sometimes, we forget what it is we want. We're like the ADD sign of the horoscope.

I hope this isn't coming off harsh, or that you are upset by me putting my two cents in.

posted November 12, 2007 06:35 PM         

I hope this isn't coming off harsh, or that you are upset by me putting my two cents in."

I do not think you are being harsh. I just don't see him as being a mere typical Aqua anymore. I see him as evasive and shifty and unreliable and that's never a good look in a relationship.... I feel like an idiot for ever having been interested in him....

posted November 12, 2007 06:44 PM         

Oh, I most certainly have a life of my own and a very fulfilling career and social life. However, for me, being in a relationship means that I have somebody out there who thinks of me and isn't totally wrapped up in himself: someone who even tries to put me first. If he doesn't do that, then I might as well be single. Or he might as well just be a platonic pal.

I'm not the clingiest of people and I'm very free-spirited and career oriented - I have loads and loads of Air in my chart - loads of Gemini and some Aqua and Libra too.

posted November 12, 2007 08:24 PM         

I agree with what Hippichick/AnnaF said:

"that's just their style and doesnt say much about how much they care for you. It's just them, if that 'style' doesnt suit you, you are probably really better off without him"

I think it's easy to misinterpret an Aqua's style. That easy going thing suits lots of people, but not others. I'm with ya...I need more than that too. (And I'm a Gem moon/Libra rising, so I am also very laid back...not clingy.)

I've had an Aqua friend (male) for years and spent SOOOO much time explaining his actions to his girlfriends. I just knew what made him tick, whereas they were emotionally involved and couldn't look at his actions without thinking it was something against them.

As for the one I dated...he would freak at emotional displays. They just aren't programmed that way. It doesn't make them jerks...it can feel like you're getting jerked around though, if you're used to a more sentimental/nurturting type of beau!

Probably better for you to go for a more "partnery" partner!

posted November 12, 2007 09:54 PM         

We all are individuals, afterall.

And we all act in individual ways and if an individual is not acting to your liking, then why keep them around? Why keep the energy exchange going, why continue anything???

As much as I do NOT like Dr. Phil he said something quite profound once...something about what we do not like in other people is what we do not like in ourselves.

posted November 14, 2007 06:06 PM         

Sun: Aqua
Moon: Gemini
Mercury: Pisces
Venus: Aquarius
Mars: Saggitarius
Jupiter: Capric
Ascendant: Capric

Here's mine IIRC:

posted November 15, 2007 12:25 AM         

Otherwise, you seem similar astrologically.
I thought the way he put things was rude.. but I don't know.. maybe it's just the way he expresses himself - which makes it sound aloof.

posted November 15, 2007 03:04 PM         

As I said I had really a deja vue feeling reading these two emails, they just sounded a lot like the aqua i know. Also, I think I mentioned this in one of your other posts where you talked about his farewell party...where he ignored you most of the evening, only became very attentive when you were about to leave..EXPERIENCED EXACTLY the same scenario at the last party...ignored me all evening, even though he had specificially asked me to come as he wanted to see me again. Only when I was about to leave he showered me with attention

I guess the big question is, does he only come across like a complete jerk in email, but face to face he is just wonderful and a completely different person? If so they really do seem to have a lot in common. Maybe, if you can, just cringe at these awful emails and consider these few months apart a bumpy road you have to ride out. But when you have him back you will have the real person back. However if you also have trouble with communication face to face then I would really stress as in my other post that your style of communicating is just way too different.

posted November 16, 2007 10:42 AM         

Well he's lovely in person. His emails are awful though - although some of you seem to disagree!

When we talk on the phone it's better but he can never seem to talk for long and is always having to run back to the library (he's doing a PhD at an Ivy school). He's actually better on Instant Messenger.