posted September 10, 2007 10:24 AM         

the lady was the real initiator (infact she proposed first )
the realtion works despite the lady being a typical arian and hyperactive cos of the silence and self containedness of the virgo .
so i think , this might work .

posted September 10, 2007 11:33 AM         

Aries/Virgo can be good match if the guy has also some fire placement since Aries is very much like to be a leader in a relationship, which can casue problems to a Virgo man. But from what you said, it seems he has fire Asc (Aries, Leo or Sag) and so it would make a compatible match.

In this link you will find a long thread dedicated to Virgo Man http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/013362.html

Good luck to you!

posted September 10, 2007 11:14 PM         

We have a pretty balanced composite chart, not all good not all bad. It's mixed up. Our moons are squared but we have the same signs in our big 3. We pretty much get each other and you'll appreciate his honesty (even though it can be too blunt, trust me!) and his loyalty.
If he seems a little chatty like he'd have a fire sign prominent in his big 3, just ask for a birth time! I thought my Virgo had a Sag. ascendant for the longest time but that wasn't the case...that's way different than a Cancer ascendant!

I think the reason why Aries woman have a thing especially earth men (most likely Virgos) is that they are the exact opposite than us and possess qualities that we don't have and vice versa. Plus, may I say the Virgo man is the most beautiful specimen I have ever seen in my whole life. So delicate and not brash...something I wish I could be!

posted September 14, 2007 04:17 AM         

So far the way our relationship is panning out is great;-
awesomely passionate,
increasing verbal affirmation from him (I need to KNOW how he feels)
some jealousy from both sides but nothing ott,
a fair bit of vulnerability showing from both of us now which explains some of the stuff from early on where I thought he was either just a player or he was not so into me...

just for background, we met online, spoke for a week online, met and kpowww! We since have a very long distance thing, he's a driver all over europe so not often nearby... we talk every night, for the whole evening till the early hours (so that satisfies my jealous streak that he's not playing away lol)
Also he has, the last four times we have met, finished a days driving (at about 10pm) and then done a 4 hour round trip to see me, so that shows me his commitment a bit (which I need to see)

For me this is a truly transformational experience, even if it doesnt end up long term, the whole obsession thing I have going on with him has made me spend a long time evaluating myself and my inner aspects, and in itself that processing is transforming me also...

Does any of this sound familiar to you other girls with Virgo men??

posted September 14, 2007 10:31 PM         

woah coincidence again, no I am not French I have been here just 2 and half years, just a petite anglaise getting her first taste of a Frenchman
So on top of the astro confusion I also have the language subtleties to contend with, donc pas facile.

Yes you must go for it, lifes too damn short to hang around too long, of course we must temper our delightful "I want it and I want it NOW" tendancies a little lol, but hell it's Friday already!! whats the man thinking??

My virgo used to hide for a few days at the beginning which kicked off all my hidden insecurities and jealousies and made me feel like absolut s**t, but as its going on (2 months) now, I guess he's feeling more secure in things and tends to not do it so often.

Don't forget to keep us updated.. come on, have u rung yet???

etoile

posted September 15, 2007 09:39 PM         

Thanks for your advise.

Etoile, I knew you were not French, your English is too good ! But we never know.. Yes, me too I have to deal with the language. My English is pretty fluent but with him, I am feeling stupid with my accent and I make huge mistakes I never do usually. I kinda said to him he was making me nervous.

ScorpioChick, what do you mean No, no, no ? I shouldn't call ?

Well, I did. Because last week (my first wonderful date with him) he offered me to join him and his best friend for a last trip to the beach (Virginia Beach) before it gets chilly. It is out of state..a few hours away. I thought that was awesome. That drove me crazy about him. You imagine? Me, Aries. That's my dream to meet a guy who would take me everywhere to share improvised and exciting adventures. And I never met a guy like that! What a shame. I am 34 ! Wow, I went crazy but didn't show it of course.

The problem was that he invited me for this saturday (today) and I was supposed to work all day. So I spent my whole week looking for somebody to replace me on set, but couldn't find anybody. So I used that as an excuse to call him and tell him yesterday (friday) that I was very sorry but couldn't find anybody to replace me. The surprise is that he offered me to call a few people he knew to see if they could replace me in order for me to come to the beach. (He is in the same business as me, except that he is an art director and I am a script supervisor). It was pretty late at night and I didn't really believe that he could find a last minute replacement so late but I found that so nice of him. I was amazed, but maybe he is just a nice person and that doesn't mean anything...

Anyway long story short, he hung up and said he will call me back. And here I am, one hour after, still waiting for his call. It was Friday night. He could have invited me over to party or something !! Everybody goes out on Fridays in New York. Anyway, he didn't call me back and I thought that he was probably waiting for somebody to call him back.

So I call again and get his answering machine and leave a message saying that it's okay, I will go to work the day after and won't come with them, and I wished him to have fun with his friend. I also asked him to email me the beautiful picture his friend took of us on our first date and text him my email adress. (The picture looks splendid. We look like a gorgeous couple! And I could see he loved the picture)

Well, I just got a text back saying he will email the picture and that he hasn't heard from the people he called. That's all. Nothing else. Nothing. I went to work today and no phone call.

I am thinking, is it possible that everything I felt is only going one way ? In a way, I can't believe it because the chemistry was huge. But maybe that was all in my mind ?Maybe he is scared because I am older than him. Maybe he is scared because I showed him a little too much that I really enjoyed that first date. It kind of showed that it's been a long time I haven't been treated nice like that. (To describe the date would take 2 pages so i won't.) I complimenting him twice calling him a Prince and a real man. He was really touched and said "wow you keep complimenting me!". Maybe I shouldn't have compliemented him ...

Maybe he's just not that much into me. After all, I am a foreigner with an accent. I am too different. I am too tall. I don't know.. To me, if he doesn't call, doesn't invite me to go out, it means that he doesn't feel like seeing me again that much. I don't get it!

Help ! How am I supposed to get his rising sign if I don't see him again !?

posted September 21, 2007 05:34 PM         

I've also seen a few other Virgo/Aries matches and it seems like in almost all of them there is always the element of things seeming one-sided. Between me and the Aries guy - it felt like **I** was the one wanting things with him, and while he said he loved me, always wanted me in his life, etc. I never felt that we were loving each other the same way. Then there were times when I was "off" of him and he was the one pursuing me and feeling that I was neglecting him!

It's funny that in all the couples there was/is some element of a kind of "worship" of each other. Where they all put the other up on a pedestal and feel insecure in themselves(this goes for both the Virgos and Aries). I'm guilty of this as well.

I've read all the astrology hoohah and most say that Aries & Virgo are a bad match. I think they come to that conclusion through very narrow stereotypes of each Sun sign alone. Not accounting for personality(or other planet placements). I have moon in Aries, I'm on the Leo cusp, and I have Scorpio Asc. I am NOT your stereotypical "Virgo." So an Aries guy is perrrrrrrrrfect for me!(if we could make it work )

So, this long ramble was just to say - if you guys can work it out, it's THE MOST AMAZING CONNECTION EVER!!!! It's not just sexual, or mental, or emotional, it seems to be spiritual or beyond that! Like a higher power type of connection where we're sent to compliment each other perfectly. But since that is a really scary prospect for 2 independant signs like Virgo & Aries, I guess some get a little freaked out.

posted September 21, 2007 08:42 PM         

Thank you so much for your answer ! You gave me goose bumps all over. And here I am dreaming of this very special and powerful connection ... I already feel it deeply in my heart and soul. He still hasn't called me except a text 2 days ago asking for my email adress. Still didn't get anything via email and I am not calling. I feel like we're both holding back like idiots. I can't believe he is not thinking of me after the beautiful date he organised for me. I think of him constantly and feel connected to him in some strange kind of ways. I send love whispers to the Universe and hope they will be carried over to him.

Thank you cancerrrg for the hope you give me.

posted October 08, 2007 11:03 PM         

I said that I was feeling that he was intentionnaly maintaining a distance between us and that I didn't know what he thought of me but anyway I had no intention to rush him into anything and that I just wanted to get to know him and be friend and have fun with him like the great time that we had the first time. I said that I felt awkward calling him or texting him all the time and the reason why I was holding back was only to respect his space but didn't mean in anyway that I didn't want to see him. And that he was welcome to call me etc..

So I had this very honest immediate answer that totally threw me off balance because I thought he would ignore my email or come up with some stupid excuse. But this is how he answered :

"well, i've been keeping my distance from you because your a really cool girl, and i don't want you to get caught up in this promiscuous stage of mine right now.
i think your awesome and intelligent and creative and that we would have a good time hanging out and being artists but we've got that sexual attraction between us, and something was bound to happen, and if it did happen and i just vanished for weeks like i always do with all of my friends... i just didn't want you to get hurt ya know. i'm a very strange person, i'll hang out with someone for a week solid then not call them for a month, and my
good friends know me for this , but new friends always find this very odd. its just how i Roll..."

For the first time of my life, a man tells me he is keeping his distance because we are too attracted by each other ! For somebody who is promiscuous, he should want me right ?

So what am I supposed to understand ? We just had one date ! It's not like I asked him to marry me or something !

Does it mean that he likes me so much that he doesn't want to lose control over his emotions and he feels that it could be a little more serious than just ******* around ?

Or if he just wants to **** aroundm, why not with me ? Am I so special that he wouldn't like to treat me that way like he said, he doesn't want me to get hurt. So does that mean that I am special to him and not like the one he f...!

Or is this just a polite way to turn me down, meaning just that he is not into me and trying to say that nicely with compliments...?

I am so lost !

I sent him back an email of 2 pages, that I wrote saying that he didn't owe me anything and that if that was the way he was feeling I accept it. I can't describe this email, but it was beautiful, deep, intelligent expressing my personnality and with a hint of humour at the end, suggesting that we just had to be friends. I can't really explain why it was a special, but I put a lot of my soul in this email .. He answered during the night a simple word "You're awesome"

That simple word made me feel that he's been touched by everything I said to him. That was showing that I understood him and respected the way he was etc..but still wanted to be friend on a casual basis.

I feelt through this word that we were really connected.

But on the other hand it could really be an ordinary word that doesn't really mean anything.

So my mind is going back and forth between "he likes me a lot, I can feel it deep in my soul like if the universe was sending me all his thoughts" and "he doesn't like me at all, I am just thinking that to reassure me because I am lost"

posted October 09, 2007 07:14 AM         

Sorry to say this but I don't think he's ready for a committment... and he's trying to let you down slowly.

posted October 09, 2007 10:35 AM         

I would tell you my opinion about his answer. If i would have to translate his words i would say it means sth like " I like you, but im sorry, im not ready yet"

About the "i like you" part, i think he was absolutely honest with you, i dont think all those nice comments were just empty words. But on the other hand, he is not ready for you yet, not ready for being in a serious relationship.

quote:

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we've got that sexual attraction between us, and something was bound to happen, and if it did happen and i just vanished for weeks like i always do with all of my friends... i just didn't want you to get hurt ya know

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So he said that to show you that he does care about you BUT he also wants to cover his feelings about not being ready for you.

If you feel you trust him and can wait for him, then give him his time, and then when he would feel he is ready, he would come back to you.
As a Virgo, he surely appriciates little things, so sometimes you can write short mails to show him you are there, you are ok and things like that.
Its better if you avoid long and too sentimental writings, because he would not be able to handle it.
This is why he was that short after that.
(At least this is my view)
Be his friend first.

posted October 10, 2007 12:00 AM         

I agree with you. He is not ready.

For the email : it was not a sentimental one, read my answer to Unmoved in the topic above this one to have more details about my long reply. It was more kind of a written conversation about honesty, freedom and friendship. That's all and he replied "Your awesome"....

Green Fairy, can you be more explicit !

posted October 12, 2007 03:19 PM         

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