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Topic: Can you have feelings for more than one person at once?
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ListensToTrees
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From: the capricious clouds, in the land formerly known as Albion
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posted January 08, 2008 11:39 AM
 
What do you think?IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted January 08, 2008 04:35 PM
Hell, yes.I'm a very monogamous, faithful, loyal person, but with a Moon-Saturn-Venus stellium in my 7th house, I STILL love the boy I loved at 15, and everyone I loved after. So I've had to love them all at once. I have immediate, strong feelings for two people right now. People are all so different. IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
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posted January 08, 2008 06:33 PM
Thank God. IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
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posted January 08, 2008 06:41 PM
Because I've been going through some complicated emotions lately.It's all so painful. It's a painful life when you strive for understanding and long for belonging. And Oneness. "Infinite love is the only truth, everything else is illusion". IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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posted January 08, 2008 06:42 PM
Absolutely!IP: Logged |
Green Fairy
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posted January 08, 2008 06:50 PM
What kind of feelings? IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted January 08, 2008 07:29 PM
ABSOLUTELY!!!!And....one should!!! IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
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posted January 08, 2008 07:51 PM
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What kind of feelings?
Can you be "in love" with more than one person? IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted January 08, 2008 08:20 PM
LTT~~~"In love" is a state of be-ing, in the moment...at present I am so very IN love.... Tomorrow I will not be so "in love" as I have learned (from a particular Aqua male) to detach and let go of earthly attachments.... I think "romantic love" has it's time and place, but chronic romantic love is co-dependence... Ewwww... Blessings t~~~ IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
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posted January 08, 2008 08:43 PM
I agree.
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fayte.m
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posted January 08, 2008 09:38 PM
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I think "romantic love" has it's time and place, but chronic romantic love is co-dependence...Ewwww...
I agree! The true relationship killer! IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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posted January 08, 2008 09:43 PM
If a true soulmate who loved me and my beloved and we loved them, came into our lives...it would be wonderful!
Of course we can love more than one!
But it is not a practical application to lifestyle for most. Too much jealousy, insecurities and stereotypical social conditions of one man one woman silliness.
Just my opinion and outlook on loving.IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
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posted January 09, 2008 09:27 AM
I don't think anyone really needs more than one partner. It's just my perception on things have changed a bit. I now realize that there must be many souls out there who I am potentially compatible with, and who I could share a life-time with- though it would have to be someone special, on a similar frequency- so not easy to find.I use to think that if anything happened to a certain someone, I could never love again and could barely live. Now I know that pure love is infinite, and that chances are I could love again....infinitely.  We must never take someone for granted though. Everybody deserves to be loved and treated with loyalty and respect. Too many people suffer from low self-esteem. IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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posted January 09, 2008 04:26 PM
As I said on the other thread...
and have boded here in my reposting of it....
the points that make the bond too important too serious to just be friends. quote:
I do very much believe in polyamoury. However only in the committed sense. And the sex is a secondary factor. That sense of love and safety and comfort with each other comes first. Its when living in separate households just does not cut it. You all want to be together under one roof. As for the sexual aspect; all must not be hung up on gender roles, like what it means to be straight, gay, lesbian, trans gendered, young, old, etcetera. The labels disappear if love is real and soul deep. And absolute honesty and trust is required!
I am not taking about open marriage here nor open relationships, but in essence a 3 way committed "marriage".
Again the deep soul love must be equal for all involved with each other. And sex may or may not be a factor. It is the joy of waking up to loved ones' presences, the desire to not be separated by living under different roofs.
I am not talking orgy/swinging here but soul deep comitted love.IP: Logged |
Sunny Mavericks
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posted January 09, 2008 06:34 PM
Yes, I have been in love with two different people for the last two years. It's totally possible, and totally frustrating. ------------------
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ErickaF
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posted January 09, 2008 06:44 PM
I don't know who said this but one of my friends quoted 'if you love two people at the same time it means you don't love one of them enough'...i think its so true.IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
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From: the capricious clouds, in the land formerly known as Albion
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posted January 10, 2008 05:31 AM
I think we are drawn to the light that we can recognize in each other, shining in its own unique way.Every person is unique, therefore every relationship is unique. We are magnetically drawn to others who we sense are on a similar frequency to ourselves. We feel a kinship with them, and I think somewhere deep down, being able to relate to someone awakens the memory of Oneness,
and we long to return to this Oneness again.
In this life, where all of us seem so separate and where we have forgotten how to use our gifts of empathic communication, it can be difficult to find others to relate to, especially if you are somebody who is brave enough to just think for yourself, and never follow the crowd.
However, in reality, we are all One. Learning to try to place ourselves in the shoes of others will help this realization more and more. We all have our own perspective on life, but that is not who we really are. We are infinite consciousness. And I do think it is right-
that infinite love is the only truth.
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hippichick
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posted January 10, 2008 08:44 AM
There is, I believe, a difference between romantic love and infinate/unconditional love...If one is speaking of romantic love, then surely one should probably not be directing and participating in romantice love with more than one individual at one time, I say this because this is the expectations and general beliefs of societies. There are exceptions, however, but for the most part, people expect one to one romantic relations. Now, I defer myself to the romantic kind of love as I have been in a few bad relationships in my lifetime and now at my age, past the half-way point in my life, I choose to re-main basiaclly alone and contemplate what I have learned. Sure, I get caught up in the romanticism of it all, how could one not, it feels so good!!! But I know with this kind of love I am only filling the void with another and I should be filling it with...me. I have come to love the last man in my life quite unconditionally, like I love my cats, my puppies, my house, the stars and moon and sunsets.... Love is the same for all things, when it is pure love. This is why I say one can and should love many, one should love all that one embraces in her/his life unconditionally. But these are things learned with time and experience. I would not go back to my younger years for anything.....nothing. IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat. fayte1954@hotmail.com
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posted January 10, 2008 06:16 PM
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I would not go back to my younger years for anything.....nothing.
Same here!
Sure I'd like my young athletic body back, and am working on regaining the athletic part.....
but I happen to be very secure in my self identity and where I have been and where I am at and optimistic about where I am going and what I shall be doing next. I love me at last! As far as polyamoury in a committed relationship...
If two people are soulmates and both come to love for example, a third soulmate, who also loves them both back equally, why should they deny that sacred God given love just because society says it is wrong? But it requires emotionally mature, non jealous, truly in love, totally honest people to be in such a blessed union. They must be each complete individuals emotionally and know who they are and not need anyone to complete them, but choose to be together. When the love is deeper than mere friendship, what matters if it is two, three, whatever? LTT said: quote:
I now realize that there must be many souls out there who I am potentially compatible with, and who I could share a life-time with- though it would have to be someone special, on a similar frequency- so not easy to find.
Yes...exactly, and this especially: quote:
though it would have to be someone special, on a similar frequency- so not easy to find.
It would be near astronomically rare to such a degree it would have to be meant to be. So if such an event happened, one should reject it because of society's dictates? What if all are indeed soulmates, not simply somewhat compatible, but so perfect with each other it just flows like magic with no resistance? It would be a sin and a waste of an incarnation to deny such a union based upon society's invented stereotypical ideas of committed relationships.
Just my 2+cents.
Secondly to add...folks need to get over the idea that it is about non stop rampant sex!
If sex is the foundation of any relationship, even one man, one woman, and mooning unrealistic romatic "love".....the relationship is doomed sooner or later.
Just my 2 more cents!  IP: Logged |
Nephthys
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From: California
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posted January 10, 2008 10:08 PM
I didn't read all replies, but I can only be in love with one person at a time. That's just me. When I am in love with someone, he's the Only One. IP: Logged |
augentier
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From: KS
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posted January 11, 2008 09:32 PM
I can have strong, romantic, caring, trusting feeling for more than one man at a time..every person is his own being, a true individual, how could I *not* find something to love in more than one person? ------------------
Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon No man is free who is not master of himself. IP: Logged |
LibraChickety
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Registered: Jul 2007
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posted January 12, 2008 03:06 AM
When using the term "in love", I can only think of one person at a time.But, as far as "feelings", I can have feelings for more than one person at a time. However, there is usually only ONE that I really favor over another. ------------------
Sun in Libra
Asc. in Sagittarius
Moon in Virgo
Mercury in Libra
Venus in Scorpio
Mars in Leo
Jupiter in Libra
Saturn in Libra
Uranus in Scorpio
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fayte.m
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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat. fayte1954@hotmail.com
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posted January 12, 2008 08:10 AM
augentier  quote:
I can have strong, romantic, caring, trusting feeling for more than one man at a time..every person is his own being, a true individual, how could I *not* find something to love in more than one person?
EXACTLY!
The love for each does not defray the love for either. Why should it? One would love them both as distinct individuals. Both bring a different slant to the relationship. The only real trouble is if they can not accept or embrace the concept of both being your beloveds. It takes maturity and self esteem to make such a trine work. It is rare but it does happen. And it can complicate living arrangements. Do you all live together or is the third an addition only seen at their place or dated? Or a friend with benefits who does not threaten the primary relationship?
Yeah, it can be quite complex and dynamic, or quietly and gently flowing and comfortably content and serene. Maybe my astro aspects give a clue to my outlook.Scorpio Sun
Aquarian Moon
Capricorn Ascendant
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ListensToTrees
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From: the capricious clouds, in the land formerly known as Albion
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posted January 12, 2008 01:21 PM
Exactly.Who are we to tell another person how to live their life or what to do? (As long as they aren't inflicting their will on another, etc)......
"If it harms none, do as you will".
Infinite love is the only truth; everything else is illusion.
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fayte.m
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posted January 12, 2008 03:40 PM
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