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Topic: Love at first sight
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missem2003 Newflake Posts: 20 From: San Fernando Valley, CA USA Registered: Feb 2011
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posted April 10, 2012 01:13 AM
My grandmother recently underwent hospice comfort care. She passed away after 7 days of the procedure. During this time I met one of her hospice nurses. From the moment I met him & our eyes met I sensed some familiarity. He reminded me of someone, but wasn't sure. As our eyes met I could sense "love." The more they met, the more "love" I felt. I could feel "love" growing the longer we looked into each other's eyes. I felt my heart racing & all I could do was think of him. I thought I was crazy, but every time I saw him & our eyes met I felt as if I was falling in love each time. I'd look away to break the spell, but there definitely was something there. More than a spark, if you will. I've always been a skeptic about "love at first sight." I always wondered what it felt like & now I know. I believe.Though, if I were single & he was too I could definitely view him as a partner. What exactly was I feeling with this person? Do you believe in love at first sight? IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 19243 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 13, 2012 12:24 PM
I'm skeptical of the concept, but it sounds like an interesting experience for you.------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 1597 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted April 13, 2012 01:10 PM
I would say that what you feel at first with a person is chemistry, and chemistry comes in different "forms" and plays out in different ways. For example some people, I have a spiritual chemistry with, others sexual, others mental...all to varying degrees. Only once have I felt chemistry that was like soul to soul entirely. And yes, I recognized it immediately.
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RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 3068 From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 14, 2012 06:29 AM
First, I'm sorry about your loss.I don't mean to burst your bubble, but if he works in hospice, could you be picking up on the compassion and kindness that he has as a caregiver? Do you have any indication as to whether or not he felt the same? How do you know that he saw the same thing that you did? And if he reminded you of someone, could he have triggered feelings of that person? Does he remind you maybe of things you want in a relationship that you don't have, or of any ideals? If you're not sure that he reminds you of an exact person, could he remind you of an ideal person? Again, I don't mean to burst your bubble, but you asked "what exactly was I feeling with this person?" and those were some ideas that you came to mind. I also have to ask, and you don't have to answer if you don't wish to, but do you really love your partner? Are you in love with that person? Why would you feel love for another if you're in love with your partner? (Again, if you don't want to answer, that's OK, but I'm just putting it out there for you to think about). I will also admit my own bias: I very strongly do NOT believe in love at first sight. Infatuation, lust, obsession, idealism, yes, but real love, no. Love is rare, precious, and takes a long time to develop and unfold. Love occurs after people have been through trials together, after they've weathered storms together and have come out stronger. Love is hard to find, and it can disappear. Once it's gone, it's usually gone forever. It's something that has to be nurtured, cared for, and maintained. Some people are able to make relationships work when they don't know each other for very long, and some fall into love, but cases like that are extremely rare and are high risk. It takes a long time to see another person's true colors and to see both the good and bad in a person. People usually try to put on a good first impression, but eventually, they cannot keep that up, and then you will at some point catch at least a glimpse of the dark side. The first part of a relationship is called the "honeymoon period" for that reason. IP: Logged |
missem2003 Newflake Posts: 20 From: San Fernando Valley, CA USA Registered: Feb 2011
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posted April 16, 2012 12:14 AM
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**I don't mean to burst your bubble, but if he works in hospice, could you be picking up on the compassion and kindness that he has as a caregiver? [/B] No, though, he did seem compassionate and kind towards the end when my grandma had gotten worse. What I felt was instant. Not when we were in the room, only when our eyes locked & met.
**Do you have any indication as to whether or not he felt the same? How do you know that he saw the same thing that you did? He probably did feel the same. When it first happened I looked away & looked at my grandma, yet he kept his eyes locked on mine. He didn't flinch.
**And if he reminded you of someone, could he have triggered feelings of that person? His essence reminded me of who my supposedly, "twinflame" is. His body build, glasses, and demeanor. He reminded me of him. I felt that he could possibly be a soulmate of some kind. In another lifetime, perhaps. **Does he remind you maybe of things you want in a relationship that you don't have, or of any ideals? If you're not sure that he reminds you of an exact person, could he remind you of an ideal person?
He reminded me of the person, by his soul essence, not necessarily him. But him, overall, as a package.
**I also have to ask, and you don't have to answer if you don't wish to, but do you really love your partner? I have been with my current partner for almost 14 years. At times I wish I would've dated more & though I have feelings of love for this person, they aren't passionate, which I wish they were. I do consider him my soulmate.
**Are you in love with that person? Why would you feel love for another if you're in love with your partner? (Again, if you don't want to answer, that's OK, but I'm just putting it out there for you to think about). What I felt with this new person was instant. The minute our eyes locked I had a feeling of love inside my heart & soul. His soul was familiar to me. Perhaps, in another lifetime we had been lovers. I have always been a skeptic of "love at first sight," so I didn't understand what was happening. It wasn't lust what I was feeling because I wasn't attracted to him physically, but as soon as our eyes locked & we stared at each other I felt my heart racing & myself falling in love. It's strange, I know, but it does happen. I have been a witness to it. In the back of my mind I kept thinking, "When you meet your twinflame the feelings of love will be even more intense when your eyes meet & lock into each other." If I do get to experience the union of my twinflame & I in this lifetime I know that it will be a wonderful experience.
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Mystic Melody Moderator Posts: 371 From: IL Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 07, 2012 01:24 AM
missem, thank you for your answers to those questions. exceptionally informative.RP, thanks for asking them. IP: Logged |
Milkyshutter Knowflake Posts: 31 From: Seoul, Korea Registered: May 2012
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posted June 22, 2012 08:45 AM
That must've been something. I believe there was definately something between you guys. I recently met a girl which was similar to your experience in terms of feeling that I had for her. iQ said we were past time lovers. And, I believe that. IP: Logged | |