posted November 30, 2008 12:06 AM         

i am seeing him since this March. we met in London and were together for 6 months and then i had to come back to India. My Cancer guy is very inexpressive and communication is an issue between us. last week we had a misunderstanding which almost brought us to a halt. because love won in the end, we got back together. I love him and wish to spend life with him.. it is so heartbreaking to imagine a life without him.. i mean we were planning about how to bring up kids and one fine day it looked like the end of world, end of being 'us'..

posted November 30, 2008 11:46 AM         

i am not a traditional woman. i am very spontaneous and flies off handle often.
it always worries me how hurt he can get due to my outbursts.. i will never know cuz he doesnt show his emotions..
do cancers prefer women who are impulsive and who have a temper? he likes to hug me after a hectic day at office..
he seems to be worried about how people see us as a couple and wanted me to look thinner and younger. and he is secretive about our relationship.. how secretive do cancers get?
i am not sure if it is cuz of his scorpio rising though..

i generally read people well but my cancer is so hard to read.

posted November 30, 2008 12:41 PM         

I have dated aries,sag and libra before but no one could come near to cancer. he may not be direct like an aries or sag.. not articulate like a libra but he is a charmer without ever having to say a word!!

posted December 01, 2008 04:51 AM         

the kind of personality that you have is not actually what a cancer wants but once they get attached (as seems with your case ) your little flaws do not really ake a difference .

I think cancerians normally get along with libra woman and its a mutual attraction though they are not the ideal match for eachother in all a lot of ways .

But ofcourse , there are certain things that a cancer will always respect a libra woman for (like my libra HR manager is the most down to earth person i have ever seen )

we dont like the indecisiveness and the tendency to go into the past .

ok and about secretiveness , cancers normally are pretty secretiveness . more than secrecy , its a demand for privacy .
they will never share anything personal unless they know you better .

posted December 13, 2008 11:13 PM         

but he didnt play games like it was described in various threads. yes he is indecisive at times and changes plan at the flash of an eyelid which unsettles me big time. but when we are physically together, the harmony surrounding us is incredible. i have never known such a peace before.. i was never a big cook or something but he encouraged me a lot. the best thing i liked is not comparing mine with his mom's cooking (she is a great cook by the way).

his childhood seems to be less jovial cuz of having a mentally challenged elder sister. he never tells anyone that but told me within 3 months of meeting me.
even i think a libra is not sensitive enough for a cancer! we have differences and i am very straight forward in expressing my feelings.. i dont play games. i always tell him the truth. i dont hide even the dark aspects of my character.
he said he likes to control and fears my controlling him (because his elder brother, a leo seems to be controlled by his wife). i assured him i dont like to control cuz i dont like to being controlled
that control thing comes because of the scorpio influence i have in my chart i guess. he is a scorpio rising himself.!!
i have some apprehension about venus in Gemini men.. he doesnt seem very natural to show affection. he is more flirty and teasing. i mean i know he loves me but whats the problem in telling so? why he always have to tease me??

i am from hyderabad in india. where are you from?

posted December 14, 2008 09:03 AM         

second, his opening his family history is indeed a good sign -that confirms one thing , he has regards for you - he sees you as dependable(love or not ) .

and starightforwrdness is very very ok .dont worry !
cancer men tend to like the very caring and dowm to earth attitude of libra women ( but my experience says - libra are of two types - two bipolar personailities ,one of them being the caring one )

posted December 14, 2008 12:30 PM         

your thread has caught my eye you know why?we have some similarities

im also in a long distance relationship with a cancer ( but he is libra sun,Aqua Moon and Cancer ASc). im a libra asc with virgo sun and Turus Moon

What a combo hihihihi

i can say you this: my Cappy is very attached to his Mom,is closed to his place of birth and even if he feels emprisioned,i think all cancers must have a sort of karma in family...

cancers arent cold - they just have to have a huge intimacy and feeling secure,before opening up to someone.If he presents you to his Mom and family than you dont have nothing to worry about!you had won his heart!

itīs funny cause both our guys have aqua moon and they dont seem so detatched as the aqua would influence them isnt it?but...my guy has trouble on keeping friends and finging good ones..it makes him feel miserable..

Cancer do praise their woman and like to protect her - they might tease sometimes but is to know if they are somehow "in control" they have a huge fear of loss.

Yup - Go ito the past many times - and that is one thing it hurt me most - cause of a past experience with a girl he had a relationship.They never forget the things which hurted them most deeply.

and another thing:you will never meet anyone whose more in love with their ownings - they feel the need to hold onto what hey achieved. they have a huge sense of autopreservation and will always have their savings.

posted December 14, 2008 01:16 PM         

Hi Diandra, i will reply to your post later..

posted December 15, 2008 08:57 AM         

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i dono how to tell him its only him that i love.. and that i will not reject him no matter what happens...

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posted December 15, 2008 10:28 AM         

cancers like mushy words and sweet messages.
Mine is always asking me to say nice things hihihi

posted December 15, 2008 12:17 PM         

that was nice piece of advice.. i am writing him a love mail right after this in fact i have created a blog just for us.. no one else can read it. so i write our love mails there.. i write poems for him.. it is wonderful to see his comments (mostly one-line) there.

Diandra, your guy has Libra sun and Aqua moon.. that is much like me except for my Taurus rising.. yes i also love to hear nice things
quite strange my cancer also has problem finding good friends.. in fact i didn't find him having very close friends! he makes friends very fast but i think it is difficult for him to trust anyone. considering that he committed to me very quickly (after 3 months of meeting me). once I teased my cancer that one shouldn't believe in guys who don't have close friends.
he asked seriously: so I shouldn't be believed?
me: not exactly, i will be that close friend for you

loving a cancer is heavenly

posted December 15, 2008 01:11 PM         

really?that is sweet are you are doing - im sure he will love it!and you know what? i also did the same thing in the beginning of our ( also) long distance relationship hihihi

he loved and sometimes he goes there just to see what i wrote :P

it is a ver romantic thing fro you both to share - and it adds that special intimacy,helping with the distance thing.

i always say to him that distance makes the heart grow fonder just for him not to be overly thinking about that fact.

about the friends thing.i dont know what is exactly.maybe itīs like as it is with you cancer:trust issues?
i mean it is very important for him to have good friends but as his ideals are such strong and has high expectations,those around seems too be lacking of sth more...and then they simply disappear and leave him thinjing...2what did i di wrong"?