posted November 20, 2008 02:57 PM         

Currently I just give him his freedom and I don't question things and I don't talk about feelings or the future - I just wait for him to make the next move, so I guess he can't really know where I stand either. We started off very intense (I got to meet the emotional, loveable, cute, fun, open twin first so I was in shock when I realized that was just one side of him! Geez, I actually thought he was predictable! I have never been so wrong in my entire life haha!). Then he kind of got the gemini-aloofness I guess (plus he works a lot), and is now kind of popping in once in a while...

Question is, has he enough water and earth in him to be stable and emotional with me for a longer period of time (if we get to the next step at all), or do I just have to see this as a fun thrill ride for my own airy sides?

We do have the airy parts in common. We both love traveling, are flexible and open-minded, have fun conversations and we share a feeling of not fitting in anywhere. I would love to discover this more with him cause he is very different from other guys I've met, but then again I am also stunned by the cat-and-mouse-game going on... But I think I learn quickly.. and I have a lot of patience. What do you guys think?
Here is my chart: www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum23/HTML/000072.html

And here is his chart:

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posted November 20, 2008 03:25 PM         

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posted November 21, 2008 08:25 AM         

The key to keeping people interested is to be interesting. And that means NOT supressing asppects of yourself or presenting a phony image that you think will appeal to him but saying

" This is me.This, is who I am. Fabulous aren't I. You lucky man!

posted November 21, 2008 09:18 AM         

All this makes me bummed out because initially he was like 110% on to me, almost stalking me. And when I melted and fell in love he sort of backed off a bit. Figures huh? Feels like a trap! So when I noticed that he had changed I went cold on him too. Not cold-cold, just normal nice and polite - but hiding real emotions. And there we are now, poking each other on facebook.. My gut feeling tells me he will be back though, I just don't know when.

posted November 21, 2008 10:04 AM         

Just stay cool. Ignore two out of three Facebook pokes. Don't make your life too easy for him to read. Being enigmatic will be far more attractive than him seeing you plastered all over FB with every aspect of "What I'm doing now" on show!
I find nothing more appealing than those Pisceans who being naturally charismatic don't need to play games.

posted November 21, 2008 01:23 PM         

I don't think he will forget the magic we've had... I think also our composite reveals a special connection.. right?

For example:
• Sun in the Tenth House
• Sun Conjunct Mercury
• Sun Opposition Venus
• Sun Conjunct Mars
• Sun Opposition Pluto
• Moon in the Sixth House
• Mercury Opposition Venus
• Venus in the Fourth House
• Venus Opposition Mars
• Venus Conjunct Pluto

posted November 21, 2008 01:50 PM         

Yep had my fare share of Gemini men fans..I don't like these dudes though..They are to weird for me..Boy and when they like you they are really strange, I think they get scared of those feelings and weird out..

posted November 21, 2008 02:10 PM         

I'm usually the one who pulls the "aloofness", but I have met my match here for sure... I don't think I've met a gemini like this before so it's all new to me. Like a mirror but a thousand times worse haha! But I'm up for a challenge...
What do you usually have in common with geminis, MamaMia?

posted November 21, 2008 02:42 PM         

I change myself too often to be "likable" and "understandable" to the people I fall in love with. If they say they don't like my favorite movie I will reply "nah, I don't like it as much either actually..." what is that all about?? *sigh*

posted November 21, 2008 02:57 PM         

when you say he is aloof can you tell a bit more what you mean by that? I like you have venus in capricorn, with quite a bit of neptune and mercury in my chart and the guy who I STILL cant really get out of my system has some similarities with your gemini guy. His sun and moon placements are just the other way around. He is an aquarius sun, gemini moon and also has a gemini mars. We never even got a relationship of the ground as you two, but I did sense a strong fascination from his side. But similarly as what you mentioned I had the feeling that he is someone who NEEDS to keep things light, that's his comfort zone. Anything or anyone who seems serious threatens that and he puts distance between himself and that person. I also think that gemini-aquarius mix values indepence above all else. Maybe these guys snse that a woman with venus in capricorn will never be fluff in a relationship no matter how easygoing she is in all other aspects of her life. Dont get me wrong I'm sure you (like me) never actually did anything which signalled I want to box you in. But venus in capricorn is all about commitment and depth and I think they just know it through some invisible radar.

posted November 21, 2008 03:03 PM         

Nothing!!!!! LOL!!!

Out of the air guys Aqua and Libra men float my boat..I think that they are attracted to me bc of all the Aqua I have in my chart Nyah..I never click with these dudes. Even if the guy had Gem moon to my Aqua moon its still not a match and I have had a couple like that..Now if he has a Libra moon or something we can rock and roll its a go..

You crack me up on what he thought was passion..Girl us Pisces girls when intersted in a man can be so damn intense and passionate its crazy all most so trust me I know what you mean..I have found the love of my life I know it in my soul he knows it but bc he cannot handle the intensity he does not know what to do..(Aqua guy)

posted November 21, 2008 04:25 PM         

One of his early late night drunk text messages included the words "why do you remain in my head? it's really strange to me.."

From the start we were both amazed by how we clicked instantly... I probably showed my feelings more in body language and how I looked at him than actually saying something, but I'm sure he got the message. He texted at one point about moments of silence we've had during our first dinner when we first met (in late june), when we sort of just stared at each other haha!... "I felt good even when we didn't speak, and I have that with very few people." ...he has also mentioned how I calm him down, which he needs bc of his stressful life.

I also asked him early on what he tells his friends about me and got this text reply: "I tell them I met a beautiful girl who got stuck in my mind and thoughts.. that I hardly ever have matched with someone like you and that distance is sometimes cruel pain if it comes to let feelings flow... I'm not a person who show when I experience something.. I rather believe in following moments that means something to me.. I think you are a wonderful person from what I know.. what about you?"

woah... I get all soft again writing that.. Doesn't his VENUS in CANCER mean anything??? When we said goodbye one time in the beginning he was like "promise you won't cry now! I always cry!" ...and again, this was when I thought we had just got started so I wasn't anywhere near crying at that point in the relation... hmm did I miss my chance??! maybe I'm slow?? but come on, that was the second time we met each other!!

I asked him once (this was in august) what he liked about me (also in text).. this was before I knew he was a gemini! I'm still in shock I actually got a really detailed answer! Here goes "you're funny, spontaneous, open-minded, beautiful, warm-hearted, you've got clear and trustful eyes, you're outgoing, creative and know things I would like to know too... and you love traveling.." - and then it ended with a joke ofcourse haha, a joke between us so I won't paste it here

And about now. We have contact but not much at all. We joke a lot (keep it light!) and the subjects that seem to spark his interest is either business ideas, about work or maybe talk about sex (he wants me to learn him "things"! hah! it's all about learning new things with gemini right?).

Anyhow, I feel he is on his way back to me from his huge orbit around me, so we'll see what the possible next encounter will bring... I really really put my faith in his Venus in Cancer bc that is where he might be able to take a swim with me... don't you think..? I certainly love to fly too, but I need to calm down and just float once in a while...

posted November 21, 2008 04:57 PM         

It's funny how I'm not afraid of strong emotions and passion, I seek it even if it's love AND hate because it makes me feel alive. Everything just feels more, colors seem brighter, I notice beautiful details around me, yeah the whole thing you know, it's how I want to live my life - enjoying every moment of it to the fullest..

My most passionate love/hate-relation was actually with a Capricorn (Gemini Moon, Libra Asc, Sag Venus, Scorpio Mars)... wow that was incredibly stormy and he had so much deep issues getting in the way... it got to the point where he said he was going to hit me one time when drunk, and I was SO convinced that he would never hit me bc I thought I felt his underlying love for me that I just calmly stood there right in front of him and his raised fist in the middle of the street.. And he is like twice my size. Stupid! But I just looked him right in the eye and replied slowly "I'm ready". He took his fist down, started crying, hugging me and saying he would never hit me, that he loved me and that he couldn't understand why I was with him... And this was like 10 minutes before he actually knocked out a shop-window with his elbow in frustration...! wow, that didn't freak me out either, I must be made of ice or something? Am _I_ the one being cold???! he actually got scared and started running along the street and I was like "slow down! if you run the police will DEFINITIVELY see you, let's just walk away!" ..woah.. heh..
Hmmm well, we have gone our separated ways now.. But I wasn't afraid of the display of strong emotions, not even once.. yea he wrote me poetry when not being frustrated and edgy. Maybe a self-contained gemini is just what I need as a breather from the previous roller-coasters??

posted November 21, 2008 05:08 PM         

Well ironically he has some Gemini in him Merc and Mars..But he has that Libra moon, which I spoke about that goes so well with my Aqua moon..

posted November 21, 2008 08:03 PM         

Someone mentioned mars in gemini as being "scattered" or something. My mars is in Gemini and I can say of a truth I am not scattered in my interests. Quite the contrary, I am sssooo focused on my interests I am accused to over-thinking, over-analyzing and talking about it too much!

As far as your Gemini, I hope it works out for you both. Geminis are really cool people. Just don't be disappointed if he doesn't "get" you all the time because they are intellectual people, not so much influenced by their emotions. So while it may "appear" that he is not as interested in you, he really is. He just approaches things in a logical, common sense kind of way. And his "non-emotional" response may appear detached to you. But don't fret. Given the circumstances, (as someone wisely stated), he is making the best of it. You have the control here, maybe you don't realize it, but you do. Be the smart woman you are and I think you'll see the distance between you two becoming shorter and shorter.

posted November 22, 2008 05:10 AM         

Mama Mia, it's interesting how a Taurus man can scare a Pisces.. That makes me wonder if that could ever happen to me. The cappy I met before always thought of me as very strong and therefore he really didn't notice when I actually could have used some support. I think we need to find someone who we are balanced with, so we can give and take instead of freaking out the other or always be the one who gives support or needs support from the other.
Let'sDance, you think the cappy will be back? He just as might will, but much later on I think... We didn't have a real "ending" and that sort of thing bugs me out... I need closures!

About 2,5 years ago a woman I met for guidance told me that the love of my life will be a Scorpio. She didn't know my sign. A Scorpio could fit me quite well don't you think? I always think of them as mysterious, very magnetic and sexy, dark hair and deep dark eyes that are piercing me with fascination and interest... wow I haven't met him yet but I (unfortunately) always compare the guys I meet to what she told me about how he will be like... Would a chart with a lot of Scorpio placements in it count as well?? yea you see the problem here.. I need to forget that sort of predictions about my future, but how can I?

posted November 22, 2008 05:53 AM         

My best male friend is a cappy, and he is very much my safety blanket in many ways - always calm and stable, patiently listening to my every outburst of thoughts, crazy ideas, frustrations, angers, sudden happiness and so on. He is genuinely interested in me and how I am as a person so he asks me curious questions like no one ever before, and that is really helping me (and him) to figure out the human nature in general, plus we have fun doing it - analyzing behaviors... I always feel like I use him too much for support, but he says that he feels that he can rely on me when he needs to (which is not near as often!) and that I bring out sides in him (the softer ones) he didn't know he had in him. But still, many times he doesn't understand me so I get frustrated and switch off and sits alone thinking "in the end we're all alone anyway!". He has Aries Moon, Sag Asc, Cap Merc, Aqua Venus and Libra Mars so I think we are very different at heart, he doesn't get the depth of the waters I'm in - but he does make a huge effort trying.

I have different circle of friends that each and one of them would describe me differently. One type of friends see me as the ultimate party animal and would probably never believe me if they knew how serious I am at work. With some other friends I'm the calm boring couch-potato who never wants to do anything crazy and if I would mention any of my drunken escapades or erratical spontaneous behaviors they would probably think I've gone mad. With some friends I discuss astrology, reincarnation and philosophy and with others I discuss marketing strategies and which laptop or cell phone to buy. I have friends who I play online computer-games with and go to the cheapest pubs in town, and with other friends I pick out the nicest restaurants and cafées and drink red wine or sip lattes for hours while discussing life in general. Some people see me as a tough adrenalin junkie who you can rely on for protection in every situation, and others see me as a cute little bunny who needs to be taken care of. Some other friends thinks I'm very sophisticated and classy while others know my.. uhm secrets!
So, I don't really know who I am myself, I'm still trying to figure it out...

As for the Gemini, the parts we have in common are parts of me I'd like to explore more. I want to know what kind of loneliness in the world he feels, what kind of solitude he actually seeks out. I have that in me too and I want to understand it. For me the priority is not to explore feelings bc I know a lot about what I'm capable of. If he could take me along with him on one of his flights, maybe he could learn something about the deep oceans as well along the way. But of course in doses.. I will sprinkle some raindrops on him once in a while so he can get used to it slowly. And I will never try to drown him... I promise!

posted November 22, 2008 01:30 PM         

And trust Mama Mia - she knows what she's talking about...

Good Luck with Gemini Guy...

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February 3 1968... Sun = Aquarius... Moon = Aries... Venus = Capricorn... Mars = Pisces...

posted November 22, 2008 02:51 PM         

I realized that I did have one moment that scared me quite a bit when it comes to emotional displays... This was a few years ago when I was going to end a longterm relationship with a precious Pisces boyfriend (Sun Pisces, Moon Libra, Merc Aqua, Venus Aqua, Mars Gemini and Asc Leo). I had been feeling unhappy for ...well, for years, and deep inside I knew it wasn't right but I chose to ignore those feelings. Or let's say, we both were right but the timing was wrong from the beginning which screw a lot of things up for us (trust and so on)...I was just too young and insecure when we met. So, eventually I decided that I had to end it. I was scared to death about being alone but I knew I had to do it in order to pursue my happiness and independency.

I had been thinking about it for a very long time, so for me I was already emotionally prepared for the break-up when I actually did it. I had made up my mind already. What I wasn't prepared for was his reaction. He was totally devastated and in shock. I watched him cry his eyes out for a couple of days until I couldn't take it anymore. (I said that we could try again and so we did, but it only worked for a year until he decided to end it instead but that is another story)...

It was just horrible.. I didn't know what to do! To see him break like that was too much for me... I was frozen, I went into some sort of shell.. I became distant! wow... it was just too much, I couldn't handle it, I couldn't comfort him so I just went numb or avoided him. It's like when he showed all the weakness like that I felt like I hadn't enough in me to meet that or something... Could that be how an airsoul is feeling? Like "how the hell am I going to match this?? Do I even have it in me? I think I maybe do, but how do I express it without being weak myself?" ..duh..! this leads me to another thing...

I can't cry in front of people, not even my closest friends, family or boyfriend. Of course I do the "beautiful crying", like a few good-looking tears slowly running down my cheek to a sad movie or something, and the boyfriend can comfort me and melt when he looks into my teary puppy-eyes and I can eat ice-cream without feeling like a sweet tooth haha! All that works fine. But hello, crying for real is different. It's ugly, it includes snot, red puffy eyes and maybe some weird squeaking noises. I actually have to put on loud music so I can't hear myself because my crying sounds scare the hell out of me! So, to me crying is showing weakness, and I think I look and sound stupid when I really cry and I don't wanna feel stupid/weak in front of anyone - especially when I really am weak! which is of course when you would need comfort the most. Catch 22.

When I grew up I never saw my parents cry or be sad or even be angry by the way, so I just might be a little bit not used to people being sad in general. I have felt inadequate in those sort of situations before, like if someones relative has died I'm not sure how to act... I just freeze or make clumsy attempts to be supportive.

About my Pisces ex and the break-up. He asked me questions I couldn't answer and I just went blank.. It must have been so incredibly awful for him.. A year later he told me that the worst part (he actually called it a "trauma" for him) was that I seemed so cold and cruel. He still to this day can't understand why I acted like I did. Not really me neither, but I think I'm onto something in this text.. Wow it's really good to write down feelings, you get a better overview! hah

posted November 23, 2008 05:37 AM         

So, it turns out that I actually did a horoscope for him about 12 years ago (yes, with paper, pencil and a calculator!) and he has KEPT IT all these years!! He pulled out the worn-out paper and quoted a few lines to me, I was so stunned! He told me that it still describes him perfectly. And he also admitted that he still keeps me in his memory as the “romantic and nostalgic vision of you as the dream-girl” and that (young as we were) I became the “measure” to whom he compared every girl to thereafter... aww!!! He added that “you have a very unique perspective on things which I haven’t seen in anyone else to this day. No one.” ...I’m speechless! I had no idea he had these thoughts about me!

We chatted for a while about love and all (he has a family now), and he did confirmed my wondering about if my “watery depths” can scare some people. He also described me as “beautiful, strong and you are THINKING.”... Talk about an ego-boost, huh!!!!
I’m impressed that what we have in common is an interest for dream interpretation, lucid dreaming and such, meditation, astrology and so on. Always discussing the deeper meanings of life. This must be unusual with all the fire in his chart? Anyway, it was fun to talk to him again, I’ve missed the fascinating conversations we had...

posted November 23, 2008 06:19 AM         

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Could that be how an airsoul is feeling? Like "how the hell am I going to match this?? Do I even have it in me? I think I maybe do, but how do I express it without being weak myself?"

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Possibly - but, I still think he should be brave and embrace you anyway...

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I can't cry in front of people, not even my closest friends, family or boyfriend. Of course I do the "beautiful crying", like a few good-looking tears slowly running down my cheek to a sad movie or something, and the boyfriend can comfort me and melt when he looks into my teary puppy-eyes and I can eat ice-cream without feeling like a sweet tooth haha! All that works fine. But hello, crying for real is different. It's ugly, it includes snot, red puffy eyes and maybe some weird squeaking noises. I actually have to put on loud music so I can't hear myself because my crying sounds scare the hell out of me! So, to me crying is showing weakness, and I think I look and sound stupid when I really cry and I don't wanna feel stupid/weak in front of anyone - especially when I really am weak! which is of course when you would need comfort the most. Catch 22.

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I will never forget this paragraph as long as I live... LOL...

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Wow it's really good to write down feelings, you get a better overview! hah

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Keep it comin' - I love it...