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posted September 16, 2009 12:15 PM         

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I think we can't, based on karma, universal astrological timing, synastry aspects, etc.

What do you think?

Thanks, ~Nephthys

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posted September 16, 2009 12:27 PM         

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i think we can't

the heart doesn't answer to the mind, it answers to itself.

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posted September 16, 2009 01:26 PM         

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No.

That's why Shakespeare wrote about fairy dust and donkey's ears.

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posted September 16, 2009 02:19 PM         

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Nope, we can only control what we do about it or dont do about it.

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posted September 16, 2009 02:23 PM         

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OK, so how would we go about explaining that to non-astrology people? You know how people love to give us lectures but they don't have any knowledge or understanding about karma, synastry, etc.?

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posted September 16, 2009 02:25 PM         

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Also wanted to add, the ties that bind, such as the darned Ascendant and Venus/Pluto, Saturn, etc.?

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posted September 16, 2009 07:21 PM         

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I think we have natural feelings--hunger, lust, romantic interest--but we CAN help our behavior.

Just the way we naturally have to pee/poop, but we wait to get to a bathroom to do it.

If you feel an intense romantic attraction to a friend's partner or someone else unavailable, I think it is ABSOLUTELY A CHOICE to set boundaries with yourself right away, being less open to that person.

We don't have a choice about initial feelings, but we absolutely have a choice about how and whether to deepen and explore them.

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posted September 16, 2009 07:44 PM         

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i was gonna say 'no' till i read what lucia wrote. woman, you are the voice of reason!

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posted September 16, 2009 07:59 PM         

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OHMYGOODNESS NO! It's not someone else's partner or someone unavailable, at all! It is my ex-BF!!! He is presently single as we recently split. The ties that bind are so difficult to let go!!!

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posted September 16, 2009 08:36 PM         

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By "you", I didn't mean YOU personally, Nephthys! I was commenting generally on the issue.

But I think that in the situation you describe, it's even more challenging to manage feelings. Once you HAVE lowered all those boundaries and gotten close to someone, it's soooo hard to raise them all up again. And just because you say, "We broke up" doesn't suddenly put feelings in a different category.

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posted September 16, 2009 08:40 PM         

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And just because you say, "We broke up" doesn't suddenly put feelings in a different category.

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Exactly!!! Yes that is what I feel, that I can't just stop loving him, even if he treated me rotten, b/c of all the aspects, the ties that bind, it is hard to let go.

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posted September 16, 2009 09:46 PM         

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I seem to be in agreement with everyone else who posted. No you can't but it's how you deal with the attraction.

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posted September 17, 2009 06:04 PM         

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I have a pin somewhere that says, "People wouldn't fall in love if it were more clearly marked."

That said, um, no, no choice in the matter. Lightning strikes a bad target and yet I can't stop myself no matter what. Sigh.

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posted September 17, 2009 06:39 PM         

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jenfullmoon, that was hilarious! LOL

Thanks to everyone for your replies!

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