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hippichick
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posted July 15, 2010 01:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
So ex bf Pisces and I finally had a discussion day before yesterday, well a discussion after I ripped him a new one.

During the "discussion" he tells me he is in the beginnings of a new relationship...and I went off again...only been 4 mos and his alleged reason for leaving me was cause he was too sick for a relationship??

Eventually he said.."I never said she..."

Seems he is "talking" to somebody in a town where some of his family lives, a long way from here and the guy is a fellow musician and "bi."

I have a gay daughter and I absolutely KNOW that IF somebody comes out at 49 it is strange...especially somebody who has told me of his many, many male to female sexual encounters while in the Navy and somebody who told me gay men have hit on him, but he was confident in his "strait" sexuality.

Could he just be blowing smoke up my you know what? Or could somebody really come out at this age?

I told him, as I have lots of experience with the gay culture.."if you think our relationship was stressful...just wait till you experience a gay one..."

**** ...

dunno, but I do know that I am way, way better off without this one!

t~~~

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oneruledbymars
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posted July 15, 2010 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for oneruledbymars     Edit/Delete Message
Hippichick,
I can tell you that if he is 49 and depending on his culture...one can grow up very much in denial of there sexuality. It is one of the greatest traps TPTB have designed. The Bible lays a heavy guilt on the conscious of people in society and almost everyone condems homosexuality.
And yet the polarity of male to female Energy that exists within gay individuals affords them a powerful ability to create in the 3D.
As a straight women though you are well to be rid of someone like that. There programming runs deep...and there present alter will be one of confusion until they find a way to forgive and accept themselves. Because only then can they began to be the Creative force they were born to be....therefore all that Energy goes into creating confusion rather than harmony hence the consfusion on some of the things he said to you.

Consider if he doesn't know himself completely, beginning with knowledge of his root Chakra how can he ever love or communicate honestly. Its good that he is able to tell you now though. Please be as compassionate as you can. I'm sure these things are not easy for him to say to you and Kudos for him attempting to.

So sad to see humans in this state of turmoil. Things must change soon...that's all I can say.

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GypseeWind
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posted July 15, 2010 05:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
I feel he's telling you the truth, Hippichik.

He said before, he was too sick, and maybe what he meant was tormented by confusion, and perhaps some guilt.
I don't think there is an age limit to coming out, each person has to do it when they are emotionally and mentally ready.

He might not of said anything to you about it right now, had you guys not had it out, so, I think it's a blessing that now you know, and as hard as it is, you can move on.

BUT, if you don't, well, I had a relationship with a bi man before. It can be done. Only this person was bi all their life, so, they pretty much had it down pat, I mean their lifestyle, their actions, and so forth..

Your ex is going to have to find his place in his new world, and that will probably take some time.

I wish you healing Hippi, I love ya girl.

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hippichick
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posted July 15, 2010 05:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
thank you

it is as it should be, has to be, will be...i really trust in the divine intelligence of the universe.

maybe this is what he is feeling now, but i also feel, intuitively, this is not all of it.

but, once again, i have let it go....

i have blessed and sent him on his way, again.

he told me he lost (in me) the best thing that ever happened to him, and as we worked out in the beginnings of the relationship, he will call me when he is dying, cause i want to be there (if he can, ofcourse.)

thanks gypsee, love to you too, i am healing, but healing is a lifetime process.

was telling a dear friend today that my life is in chaos again, but then again it always is, but then again, the universe must be in chaos before order can arrive and order will arive in mylife, probably on my dying day.

blessings and love to all

t~~~

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teasel
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posted July 15, 2010 07:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message
Wow. What a lovely thing for him to tell you (that you were the best thing to ever happen to him), and the fact that he trusted you enough to tell you, I think is big, and really says something (good) about you.

That's easy for me to say, though - from the outside.

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hippichick
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posted July 17, 2010 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
well consensus has it that he is not, at heart gay...and this comes from gay people who know him.

just going thru some stuff, or trying to repel me, again.

so be it, he does not need to do anything cause i set him free a long time ago, trying to answer my own questions.

silly-ass man, i think his ejection fraction (percent of blood pumped out of the heart in a heart beat)is too low, well i know it is, he told me so, and without perfusion to the brain...well....

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