posted June 19, 2010 04:43 PM         

It got me to thinking... in the movie Kevin Costner has voices telling him things to do, which make no sense at first, and he must have faith in each step he takes before more information is revealed. ALOT of faith, he almost loses his farm!

I don't have voices talking to me, if you do, more power to you! But it just got me thinking about the whole process of creating what you want.

So, if you build it... The Perfect Relationship (k, nothings perfect, but I mean perfect in a sense that most of your needs and wants are there) IN YOUR MIND, as in visualizing it, do you believe HE/SHE WILL COME??

posted June 19, 2010 04:54 PM         

I have in the past experienced what I keep my thoughts on, I really beleive thoughts are things, this keyboard had to be though of before I was able to type on it, for example.

The problem seems to lie, with my intentions, of letting go. It seems that when I remain emotionally attached to outcome then manifestation can not occur, but when i harbour a thought in my head it does maifest.

The other key, from what I have experienced it not only letting go, but letting go of the process to the outcome, and that is the scary part.

Ask for money, be able to accept whatever way the money comes, ask for a great love, be willing to accept when that great love needs to leave, etc.

I manifested my first house, my first (and only marriage), Pisces ex used to say "you conjoured me now deal with me!!! "

Lately tho, I have not been focused enough, nor grounded enough to manifest anything cept for peace from letting go, and that is exactly what I have manifested this time!

blessings

posted June 20, 2010 03:41 AM         

Years ago I wrote down a list of the qualities I wanted in a partner and my (now) husband came along and matched them (and then some). In retrospect, I should have been a bit more specific, but you know what you know and when you know better, or different... I'd be adding "enjoys doing housework" and "helps around the house" if I were doing one now.

So, if you're going to do that, make sure you don't hold out, say EVERYTHING you want in someone. And then play the waiting game. I swear by that. I've seen it work.

posted June 20, 2010 05:41 PM         

Seriously though, my first engagement, back in high school, was to an abusive, drug dealing, controlling a**. (thank you for the lesson Universe) I don't know how, miracle...grace of God...but I met my husband in Nov. 1983, senior year and we are still together. We didn't exactly rush into marriage or having children...I'm pretty cautious, probably from the previous experience and my family background. He's slow and cautious by nature. Anyways, my husband is an honorable, highly productive, service & goal oriented, sometimes halo wearing Virgo. He's not perfect by any means. Sometimes that cold, Cap. moon and cantankerous Cancerian Jup. play out. I reflect it right back at him, water sign, what can I say?

My first relationship, I was young and looking for any kind of male attention, maybe even Daddy love (he was 4 years older)
One thing I knew was that I wasn't going to be controlled since I like my freedoms too much. I wish that I knew how I got so lucky...I did go through a very dark, depressive period as a teen prior to meeting my husband. He's my testimony that I was not forsaken for my trial. He was also incredibly supportive of me through my recent medical trials. We do have a mutual understanding in our relationship of not intentionally hurting one another. The future is all about blind faith though.
I'm constantly trying to strengthen my faith.

I think we do go through stages of adjusting our wants, needs, and desires. So yes, like Maya Angelou says "when you know better, you do better." Looking back should guide you how to move forward toward your goal. It's easy to lose ourselves and the sight of our goals.

I even started wishing on the New Moon 2 months ago to help me manifest my dreams. It basically involves handwriting a list of wishes. Anything that encourages positivity helps fuel me and propel me forward.

posted June 20, 2010 08:33 PM         

A couple of things jumped out during this, my first time reading all of your thoughts.

I read 'Write it Down, Make it Happen'. I had it so long from the library, I basically transcribed it. I wrote it down, it didn't happen... more to say on that later.

I just watched 'He's Just Not That Into You' for the first time. That was a cute movie. I haven't read the book, it's by Greg Barrenz? Or something like that? This kinda stuff reminds me of those 'The Rules' books, that make me feel like I can't be spontaneous, because I'm supposed to follow some script to ensure success. Yuck. I can't do that.

And in that movie, the girl that does everything wrong, is the one that falls in love, because she has an open heart, something I truly believe in.

I think the problem is this...

You may have an idea in your mind of your perfect person, and you may honestly believe you want/need/desire/deserve this person, but your ACTIONS might say something totally different!

Like while waiting you may see your ex. You may say, "Oh, it's nothing!" But what you are really saying is "I need to fill my time with someone I've deemed inappropriate, hence the term ex, until the right one comes."

Seems counterproductive.

Then again, are you supposed to be a nun while waiting.
(This is why a Libra Moon will drive you nutty!)

posted June 21, 2010 02:05 PM         

EXACTLY, in a nutshell, that is my problem too!!

I mean, I have the framework in mind, but the details are conflicting.
Plus, I think I haven't resolved feelings for certain people in the past. I guess you can't move forward without resolving your past, but when your past is in your face every day, it's kinda hard. *sigh*

posted June 21, 2010 04:25 PM         

Anyway... to cut a long story almost non-existent I've been trying to come up with my list for the perfect partner and I keep coming back to that film 'Practical Magic' - it's the true love spell she does when she's a little girl; because she never wants to fall in love she gathers together all the qualities in a man she thinks can't possibly exist "one green eye, one blue; he'll hear my call a mile away; he'll be marvellously kind" etc etc. She thinks if she puts all those together no man could ever embody them all and therefore she'll never have to fall in love.

It got me thinking that maybe that's why things don't work for us sometimes when we make these wish lists - maybe part of us is scared of it actually coming true? The fear allows doubt to creep in and doubting wrecks the process because you're not detached and accepting. It's no accident that the word 'doubting' contains the lexi 'no god in it'. Accepting on the other hand has 'I get it' so I suppose that's the secret???

In the film of course she created exactly what she thought she didn't want but there's the rub - you create whatever you place your focussed attention on. She was working a spell and she believed in magic so would have no doubt that her spell would work... it worked as it should and brought her what she'd ordered.

posted June 22, 2010 02:36 AM         

Seeker, I LOVE that movie, I have watched it soooo many times! The book is even better, btw.

posted June 22, 2010 05:40 AM         

And waited...

And waited...

And then she had enough...

posted June 22, 2010 07:33 PM         

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

That would be me on the bench.

Seriously though, how many times have you heard people say, "It came when I wasn't even looking, when I totally gave up!"

posted June 26, 2010 01:18 PM         

He showed up, as Mr. Aries, I thought. He was everything I listed accept for a few items. Mr. Aries wasn't as debonair as the guy I asked for. Nor was Mr. Aries as mature or as confident as the guy I asked for. The hair color was different and there were other things that didn't gel. As we all know, Mr. Aries considers me as just a friend. So, I have wondered ever since, what mistake I made in the conjuring process. And, maybe, it wasn't Mr. Aries. Maybe Mr. Aries was the intermediary before my guy shows up? I don't know.

Now I am doing a new list. It has changed a bit. More specific. More honest, but still quite similar.

posted June 26, 2010 05:57 PM         

figured the conjuring process would be strengthened by a circle of all the elements,

we will see!!!

t~~~

posted June 26, 2010 07:08 PM         

"Then we went to a gay bar."

My experience with visualization has been sparse but powerful. I did an music exercise in 1999. I wrote 90 songs in 90 days. You really have to let go of perfection in order to do that so I was prepared to write some truly awful songs and be alright with it. Well, about 30 of the songs that I wrote turned out to be prophetic to a relationship that happened a for me a year later. The songs predicted and him and described him and the man who materialized was the most attractive man I had ever seen, even though he was short and fat!!

My most recent materialization is happening in a strange way. I was having some issues with my age, 43, and the fact that I'm an entertainer so I thought it would be a good idea to purchase the "I Love Lucy" TV series box set and study Lucille Ball in depth, in her chart and her relationship. I chose her because she didn't begin the "I Love Lucy" show until she was 40. I needed to understand this deep in my soul.

As I've been watching the shows in order and studying along with a biography and her chart, I've also been learning about her husband Desi Arnaz (Ricky Ricardo). There relationship was rocky and he was quite adulterous but their dynamic was very interesting in terms of show business.

But what happened is that I kept saying to myself, "Wow, Desi was really hot (so was Lucy)!" and I loved his business sense on screen as Ricki Ricardo, musician; and as Desi Arnaz, producer. So, what has happened? I may have materialized a spanish actor from Spain without even realizing it. He looks nothing like Desi Arnaz, more like Dave Navarro.

posted June 29, 2010 02:07 AM         

I have heard that same thing many, many times.
Right before you get "The One," you get the "I think it's the one."

SIGH.