posted October 25, 2010 03:16 AM            

If he was into your co-worker from the start, then two things were probably happening. One, he was most likely flirting with you to possibly get the other girl jealous or at least get her attention. And two, I think that because he wasn't romantically interested in you, he probably didn't feel any pressure around you which in turn allowed him to be relaxed and confident and thus flirty and charming.

I say this because I have noticed that I often do that as well (never with malice tho). It seems that the more I like a guy, the more nervous I feel around them and therefore end up acting awkward or avoiding the guy altogether. On the other hand, when I am NOT interested in them romantically, I feel no pressure about it so I tend to be much more flirty, outgoing, talkative, etc... This is often perceived by people as me being interested in them (understandably) when that is usually not the case.

Perhaps that is what happened here?

posted December 04, 2010 02:38 AM            

but i know exactly what you are talking about

in saying that, last december, a few days before new years day...(this is a true story :

I was just sitting in my bedroom (which is facing the street), it was a really beautiful day outside, warm and quiet and peaceful. I was just enjoying the blue sky and sunshine when i got to thinking about love and my crush again. In an effort to put him out of my thoughts (because he is in a relationship, thus unavailable), i asked the universe where my soulmate was. then, not even two seconds afterward, i just went to do something else and as i was getting up i got a big fright after some buffoon driving slowly on the other side of the street and honking like crazy. so just as i was about to stick my head out the window and shoot obscenities at the driver i see the tooting buffoon is the guy i had steadily been falling for the past six months. he was tooting at someone who i think was a friend of his who was riding a bike and B* was just teasing him

posted December 05, 2010 10:08 PM            

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Anyway, I am very very very off in my romantic life. For example, most recently I was very into a guy and I could have sworn (I was SO SURE) that he was into me judging by his behaviour, and then I find out that he was more into someon else that I was working with. He did everything, the flirty eye contact, EVERYTHING! But apparently I was off. It sucks because this kind of thing happens to me too often: I think a guy is into me, and I get all the typical signs!

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I had this exact experience when my tNeptune opposite Sun transit started up...so the first thing I thought of was, is she having a tricky Neptune transit? But you are a Pisces Sun, so I would expect you to have an easier and more familiar relationship to Neptune than I do.

Un-astrologically, part of it for me was also an age thing. I was in a long term relationship for most of my adult life. In my early love life, before that, I would accurately intuit that guys were into me all the time, but--a) almost all straight, single guys were really into me (Leo here, lol) and b) guys who are single and under 25, at least in the circles I ran in, were REALLY single...teen boys with girlfriends, even, even if they were serious about the girlfriends and given that I was the type never to go for someone else's boyfriend, were going to eventually break up with whoever they were with.

Adult life is soo different. A) Lots of people who seem single just are not really single in their hearts--they are still drowning in love or heartbreak or mess with their exes. Because we've all had time to develop very heavy relationships, unlike in teen life. And--B) there are many more men who just do not act on their feelings. The reason some of them are single as adults is that they're messed up and damaged. (Not all, of course.)

I ended up being really grateful for my Neptune-Sun transit, because now all the heavy chemistry and signals men send out, I don't view with the same importance I used to. Instead, I rely on their clear, direct behavior. This led me to falling in love for the first time--when I thought I had been in love many times before.

Of course, THAT didn't work out. But I'm still glad it all happened. That sense of my own sexual power and beauty that I had as a teen was NOT intuition. I still have sexual power as an adult, but guys whose only interaction is on that level--staring at you, then looking away, vibing you, etc etc--are not good adult relationship prospects. The guys who are really terrific send out those sexy vibes, but ALSO make a clear, direct move toward a bigger kind of relationship...they don't play games or keep you guessing.