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posted February 04, 2012 12:55 AM            

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Thank you for your thoughtful posts. I'm moving on. Have a wonderful Year to ALL!

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posted February 04, 2012 01:33 AM            

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Of course cancer men Have casual relationships just like any other man and any other sign. I should know...my bro is a cancer. If he's in his 20's yes he'll bring girls around during family holidays. Doesn't mean he loves them.

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posted February 04, 2012 01:42 AM            

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Hey, thanks for the response and thanks for reading....this guy is in his late 20's and is ready for marriage and kids...thats where he was headed in his last relationship. I mean i would think that ( and so would any girl he brought around him) if he had them around on the holidays that he was contemplating a possible future...

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posted February 04, 2012 03:16 PM            

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^ depends on the relationship. Obv his last one was pretty serious. Doesn't mean every one after it is though.

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posted February 04, 2012 03:21 PM            

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I think what's going on is he's still recovering from the serious relationship and it's easier and much 'safer' to have a girl like that where he can sleep with but not feel any emotional attachment too. Probably will gradually get better. Most likely will dump the girl when he feels his full self again (lol seems kinda selfish if he really is doing that).

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posted February 05, 2012 06:55 PM            

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thanks for answering the questions @mintgirl. What do you guys think that that means about his feelings towards me? What do you think I should do or behave towards him? Other than sit quietly with murderous thoughts in my head or glare at him with muderous thoughts in my head whenever I do see him.

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posted February 06, 2012 10:15 AM            

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It really depends on the Cancer, but the thing you have to accept with any Cancer when it comes to emotions, is having PATIENCE. You must have a lot of it, and when the tide seems to have changed, don't count your blessings, continue to be patient. I'm sure it's just a "rebound" given your description of his treatment of her etc.

He is still wounded from the last heartbreak. He is not ready for "serious", but too nice to tell her that, and too nice to get involved with you at this time.

If it is meant to be, you truly beleive it is, then wait. Easier said than done, but that's all you really can do. He will come when he's ready..

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posted February 06, 2012 03:47 PM            

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makesthebest, wait for a while and if he doesn't initiate anything, move on.
Cancers are way too moody and changeable, and once they get what they want, they (usually) lose interest.
Please take care of yourself and don't base your happiness on him.

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posted February 07, 2012 12:50 PM            

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Wow...It's so hard to tell a scorpio to "WAIT".I feel kind of crazy not having something to DO to focus on or to have absolutely no control of something that I want so badly. Maybe I should just trick my mind into believing that "WAITING" is a real activity. Because my mind really just wants to think ( and act out ) murderous thoughts right about now. Lol! Thanks Guys

I had kind of told myself if he didnt make a solid move by the end of this month i would force myself to move on. Buuut, I dont know. I feel like Im' telling myself that because I'm afraid to leave myself open emotionally

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posted February 07, 2012 12:57 PM            

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One more thing...his best friend is my favorite cousin. And he has kind of been in the middle. I have gotten the feeling for months that he has been trying to push us together. My cuz is the "friend" that told me that she is not his lady etc. And has very recently encouraged me to talk to him about the cancer.

(I have never done so before because I didnt want to disrespect the cancer and didnt want to put my cuz in the middle)

But he may be trying to "help" things. I also get the distinct impression that they talk like two hens! lol. Should I talk to my cuz? Maybe get across the idea that I am frustrated that the cancer and I seemed to not be able to communicate the moment I told him I was becoming interested in him? ....we are grown men and women but i feel like we're passing notes in the cafeteria. *rolls eyes*

What do you guys think?

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posted February 09, 2012 11:39 AM            

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She's pregnant. The End.

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posted February 09, 2012 01:25 PM            

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makesthebest

I'm so sorry it's ending this way...Hugs

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posted February 09, 2012 06:51 PM            

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It's not the end lol. Just cos she's preggers doesn't mean they're going to get married though. Or are they?

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posted February 10, 2012 07:52 PM            

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Well, I meant considering he's a Cancer man, he's more than likely to stand by her if she is having his kid. My father is the exception to this rule, but I figure most aren't as damaged.

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