posted October 03, 2007 07:34 PM              

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My advice: do what is good and better for you, don't plan anything with him yet! Aquas tend to change their minds 1000 times, at least the one I know...wait and see first!

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posted October 03, 2007 09:22 PM              

during those times when you need reassurance that your guy loves you?

when you need someone who can talk about their emotions in a healthy way?

when you need warmth rather than detachment and logic thrown at you?

how do Aquarius men cope with becoming husbands and fathers? Are they reliable enough to pick up the kids from school and so on?

posted October 03, 2007 10:43 PM            

in answer to your first 3 questions.....look within...and get used to it!

in answer to the 4th...

posted October 04, 2007 12:38 PM              

However - I am not sure I want to deal. For example, recently I had a horrible experience including being assaulted and having my money and credit cards taken. I didn't tell Aqua-Man quite the extent of what happened but I gave him the gist of it. His response was to be very calm and logical. He asked me a lot of questions and gave practical advice about what to do. But I did not feel very comforted by him. At one point he told me I was getting too emotional about it and how it could have been worse and that I'd "calm down" soon. He also said he was angry about what had happened to me. He advised me to deal with the situation calmly and not let my emotions overwhelm me.

Meanwhile, another guy who is interested in me (don't know his sign but at a guess I'd say Taurus) leapt to the rescue and insisted on wiring me cash (which I did indeed need) until I got my cards replaced and offered me a solid tower of support and shoulder to cry on rather than ruminating on the intellectual and moral aspects of me being attacked and telling me 'it could be worse', the way Aqua-Man did. I can't help thinking that this Taurus guy's behaviour is more in keeping with what you'd want and expect from a boyfriend.

posted October 04, 2007 04:43 PM            

Go where the soul calls you, not where logic says you should go. To tell you the truth, Aqua Men are fabulous. That's just me. There is nothing devious about them, and any dodgy behaviour can be explained to one thing: they are also afraid of being burnt like the rest of us.

My Aqua acts like any other person in his shoes. He fits into me like a glove because I am also a bit detached, and basically all the things that would frustrate other women do not affect me.

Basically, with him, it is counter-productive to fight fire with fire, as in, to be as he is because that will just push him away. I am completely opn about how I feel, and I do not regard whether this will push him away or not. And it seems as if my transparency has inspired him to be the same too. By me acting the way I desire to be treated, I am getting the same treatment from him.

So, by trusting him, even if he doesn't deserve it, he became trustworthy. By being frank and open about my feelings, he has become the same. By being warm and loving, he has suddenly also become the same.

He needs to know he is safe too, so make him feel safe, and you will see wonders beyond anything you have ever imagined.

posted October 04, 2007 06:03 PM              

What a pair we are!

I have Libra Rising. Moon in Gemini. Mercury in Gemini. Venus in Gemini. Mars in Aquarius.

posted October 05, 2007 03:41 PM            

Air and water in the natal chart always make for an interesting individual, though I am probably partial...

posted October 06, 2007 03:59 AM              

I have a libra ascendant too and I read that Aqua men tend to fall for them frequently especially if they have a Gemini or Cancer sun ...do u have a gemini sun? or just a gemini moon? My sun is in cancer + libra ascendant, and i tend to attract alot of aquas..
but what i was going to tell you is that its all about what *you* are looking for..
If you're the type that likes to have a man who will be emotionally supportive *in any way* DO NOT DATE AN AQUARIUS .. they only know how to deal with situations rationally. i would suggest that if u are with an aqua to count on your girl friends when you are upset or are looking for emotional support or someone to vent to... because you will only get cold hard logical, rational "advice" from an aqua guy..i am sure you have heard it before.. ..but yes, they get uncomfortable around any type of emotional displays .. i can relate somewhat because of my aquarius moon, if a friend comes to me crying and all upset over something that happened to them, i *freeze* and feel very awkward because i never know what to say, and i never feel like i say the right thing, I am used to dealing with emotions on an intellectual level and not talking about them, just dealing with them myself or detaching from them until they arent so painful .. and then analyzing my emotions and the situation as objectively as possible..so yea..
and yes that is VERY typical of aquas to pull the "ol' switch" as i like to call it and come back all loving and interested..just when you are starting to detach!!!!! definitely get used to that..it will happen again. get used to a crazy emotional rollercoaster ride..it only gets worse the longer it lasts...but it is so addictive and exhilarating ..reminds me of the days with my aquarius .... *sigh*... NOTHING. BUT. HEARTACHE.
(still not over him)

...but since u have a lot of air in your chart, you probably could deal with aquas better than I can..(sun, venus, mercury in cancer)

The *plus* side to Aquas and why i love them so so so much is that I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE talking to them about ...anything and everything...we can talk and talk and talk and talk...good intellectual understanding and connection which is #1 priority for me in a relationship..more than anything else.. so like i said, its all what you want in a man.. but with aquarius..they won't change. They are Fixed. and Stubborn. "Take it or leave it" type of thing. Oh, but the good thing about that is once they are committed (near impossible thing) BUT once they ARE committed, they STAY committed (fixed).

posted October 06, 2007 07:05 AM            

We have a lot of similar placements! I'm a Pisces Sun/Gem moon/Libra rising and have been in an on again, off again relationship w/ my Aqua for years. He has a Virgo moon, Pisces Merc, and Sagg rising with tons of other Pisces placements.

So much of what I've read here rings true. He just flat out doesn't answer if we start to talk heavy emotional issues.He just can't fathom emotional stuff. That doesn't mean he isn't deep and can't love deeply though.

In answer to your questions...

"OK, so when you are dating an Aqua, what are you supposed to do:
during those times when you need reassurance that your guy loves you?"

Hang out with his buddies and see what they tell you! With my Aqua guy, his friends told me that they'd never seen him so attentive and ga ga over someone. (However, if you compare him with the average male, the last thing you'd think was that he was crazy about me. He did seem attentive, but nothing beyond the normal.) For HIM, however, it was realllly a stretch. BTW, his buddies (although they may change or he'll meet new ones, will always be important...if you complain about them, it will drive him away)!

"when you need someone who can talk about their emotions in a healthy way?"
This takes time for an Aqua. If you can talk about the past without him thinking he's being compared to anyone or being held accountable, then he'll talk away. You can always bring up something about a friend and he'll start to talk! My Aqua has a memory like an elephant and knows I can't remember squat. So lots of times, I'll ask him about something from the past and he'll remember every detail. He loves talking about how we met! (Then...and this is big for an Aqua...he'll say something like he can only remember details of things that were special and meaningful to him. And he'll wait a few hours and say that I'm special.)

"when you need warmth rather than detachment and logic thrown at you?"

A quote from my guy is "Sugar tames the beast." Find out what's important to him (mine is a perfectionist) and compliment him on his progress/accomplishments/ideas etc. If you want warmth, look for it in his physical actions. He basically wants you to put your head on his shoulder and think that no one is cooler, stronger, or better in your mind than he is. (He'll never let on about that though!)

"how do Aquarius men cope with becoming husbands and fathers? Are they reliable enough to pick up the kids from school and so on?"

He's a dad, and he's an excellent one. He'll never be late to pick up his little girl (but he also is more of a dad in the old fashioned sense.) He loves to play with her, but he couldn't swing being the sole parent 24/7. He couldn't hack that responsibility. He also won't want to be in the delivery room when a child is born. He'll be happy to be outside passing out cigars. He'll teach her all of the funny quips he says and how to play basketball and pass on all of the songs his Mom sang to him when he was a baby. And will spoil her a bit with clothing and such too...

I'm not sure how long you've been dating your Aqua. If something happened to me like you mentioned, mine may not go on about how I should feel about it, but it would eat him up inside with guilt that he hadn't been there to protect me. Then he would hunt the guy down for the rest of his life and I'd be afraid of what he'd do to him! (He wouldn't say this though.) It takes time to understand an Aqua, but they are very loyal to their friends and are very protective.

Being that your placements are similar to mine, I'm guessing that you'd most likely want to have an emotional person around at times, but most of the time, it would be too heavy for you.

Like Unmoved said, you have to wait til your soul knows. Hold off major decisions til you're sure what you want.

I think I just wrote the longest post in LL history!

8th

posted October 07, 2007 01:35 PM              

The problem here is that the Aqua sometimes infuriates me with his lack of communication but I'm also head over heels in love with him. Like, never felt like this about anyone before, weak at the knees when I look at him, insanely in love.

Despite all the air in my chart, I'm a romantic creature (perhaps because of the Libra Ascendent) and I'm quite good at feeling my feelings and fairly capable of TALKING about my feelings too.

I recently told Aqua that I miss him. What I said precisely in my email was:

"I must admit that I miss you"

His reply to me said this:

"Oh, that's a very sweet thing of you to admit (I must admit). Well, if you wanna know, in fact I miss you too."

posted October 14, 2007 04:43 AM              

Interestingly, almost the very minute that I posted my last message here, I heard from him. He was being normal, affectionate and trying to make plans to spend time with me.