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Topic: Mourning and Grief of Lost Relationships~
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hippichick
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posted June 24, 2013 01:16 PM
  
I think alot of time, especially women, mourn, after a break up the loss of "love" not necessairally the loss of the individual.Upon a recent breakup imposed by me, I am sad, but in retrospect, I am really sad about the loss of "love" which was false and not really there anyway, and not the individual. I know alot really grieve over the loss of the love of, for an individual, but in my Pisces case, I am always mourning "love" and not the individual. Early morning ponderings.... IP: Logged |
Gemmy
Knowflake Posts: 479
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Registered: Oct 2012
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posted June 24, 2013 02:10 PM
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Upon a recent breakup imposed by me, I am sad, but in retrospect, I am really sad about the loss of "love" which was false and not really there anyway, and not the individual.
I know the feeling.  IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 30201
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 24, 2013 02:27 PM
I feel you. I do that, too. So, even though it may be much more common with women, some men also react that way. IP: Logged |
cappy1277
Moderator Posts: 1654
From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted June 24, 2013 02:44 PM
i see the end of relationship as a sort of death. you go through the stages of grieving similar to losing a loved one except they still walk the earth. I think it is completely healthy to do this when ending a relationship because it helps to give you the opportunity to heal if need be. IP: Logged |
LionFish
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 24, 2013 03:37 PM
Love makes my world go 'round, and when it's lost or ended, I tend to do this as well. Depending on the depth of the relationship (time holds no bounds on depth) it can leave me feeling anywhere from a pinprick of pain to crying on the floor in agony of a broken heart. ------------------
Leo ASC, Pis Sun, Tau moon IP: Logged |
hippichick
Moderator Posts: 2711
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Registered: May 2009
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posted June 25, 2013 01:22 PM
Thank you all for your replies....Heartwarming and it feels good to not be alone....but at the same time it is a blessing to be all~0ne
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Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 2614
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted June 27, 2013 01:31 AM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
I think alot of time, especially women, mourn, after a break up the loss of "love" not necessairally the loss of the individual.Upon a recent breakup imposed by me, I am sad, but in retrospect, I am really sad about the loss of "love" which was false and not really there anyway, and not the individual. I know alot really grieve over the loss of the love of, for an individual, but in my Pisces case, I am always mourning "love" and not the individual. Early morning ponderings....
Moon in Pisces and I am the same way. I grieve the memories, I grieve the death of love and for what that means.. does that mean that love is always fleeting, transient? Did I choose poorly? Can I trust myself to choose better next time or can I even trust anyone else to always love me?
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Mystic Melody
Moderator Posts: 550
From: IL
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 01, 2013 08:35 PM
I just saw this... I've been enmeshed in my own stuff.  I'm sorry, dear H.C.
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SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 926
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Registered: May 2009
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posted July 04, 2013 05:14 PM
I feel this way right now, grieving for the love and touch of my ex. Sudden ending, no time to process it. Such sadness.Sparkling IP: Logged |
IntenseCappy
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Registered: May 2013
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posted July 09, 2013 08:39 PM
I totally understand where you are coming from. We broke up weeks ago, but I just moved out, and I miss being around him. We were starting to become detached even though we loved each other during our 5 year relationship, but it can be hard sometimes. I obviously am not ready to get into anything serious right away, but I still yearn for love and that connection. My Libra moon makes me in love with love sort of. Lol.IP: Logged |
genesis3310
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Registered: Jul 2013
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posted July 24, 2013 01:46 PM
I seem to go through stages of mourning. 1st it's probably the loss of the love, attention, and feelings I got from the person. This lasts a fairly long while for me, and it's pretty consuming. Then, once acceptance finally seeps in, I begin to genuinely miss the person for who they are, things we did together, the positive influence/interaction we had. And I'm not sure how long that lasts, because I'm still going through it over a couple of people. Loss is difficult no matter what you lose or miss. It can be shocking.IP: Logged |
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