Posts: 3
From: washington,dc,usa
Registered: Nov 2012

posted November 15, 2012 07:29 PM            

---

Well I'm a Gemini woman (my chart says my sun sign is Gemini, my AC (ascendant)is in Taurus, and my moon is in Aquarius). About 4 and 1/2 months ago. I was formally introduced to a Virgo (Sep. 14th bday) at a Memorial Day picnic. I had seen him before at church but didn't really pay any mind to him while all the other ladies were salivating over him. I suppose they we reacting like that because he is handsome (easy on the eyes) like 6’4’’-6’5’’ broad physique and he is in the army. Anyways I got to know him better at the picnic when he became my partner in spades card game. What intrigued me was that we were able to understand each other very well as far as our strategy for spades went and he had me laughing so hard... great sense of humor... so of course being my nature, now I wanted figure out more about him. I then began to search his hand for a ring and lo and behold, a ring on his ring finger. I sighed and murmured of course all the good ones are taken. So I left it at that. I see him at church the next day, he makes a b-line and comes directly to me and talk... we had a good convo that's that... weeks pass by see him at church again and he comes over and talks to me. I recognize he doesn't have his ring on. While he is talking to me, one of the elderly woman in the church comes over to talk to him (she kind of is like my grandparent away from home). She then asks him how his wife is doing. He then says I'm currently going through a divorce right now (I'm like Yay but Nay to much baggage already right) and then she proceeds to ask if he has any children. Another bomb drops he says he has son (think he said like 2 or 3yrs old.) So I'm thinking now totally way too much to deal with. After all that we had long talk about our aspirations for furthering our education, careers, and what not. Well an occasion arises where I had to cook for his brother and sister-in-law which was long overdue but now it included him. Because of his situation he stays with them now. I cooked an amazing 4 course meal which he devoured (and complimented me heavily on my chef expertise) and we got to talk some more about a plethora of things. After that I don't see him for weeks. I really didn't mind it, because it gives me a chance to get over my crush on him which I thought I did. Until I see him 2 Sundays ago at church. This time he comes to me and says I missed you so much (I look at him with a look of question on my face) and I said you did? And he said yes I really did. With arms out stretched he asks are your not even going to give me a hug which I did. I then began to badgering him and said if you weren't always m.i.a. maybe you wouldn't miss me as much huh lol...(which I then figured out that he was m.i.a so much because he goes to see his son.. which I thought in as much was the case)so we had some more convo and banter. Then I told him to keep in touch and we parted but of course I couldn't leave at that. I motioned towards him that we should exchange numbers and he told me He was going to send it to me via Facebook message but it is better to do it in person. So we exchanged and I never tried to make contact with him the whole week. So I see him again this past Sunday and he comes to me right after service and strikes up convo as I am trying to converse with him another lady butts into our conversation ( which I then thought about it and I recollect my memory. I realize that she always does that every time I try to have a conversation with him) so we all get to talking. So in the convo, I brought up a point about him being m.i.a. all the time that is why he misses everything... and from there on... he kept on nit picking on everything I said (In a playful banter type of way I guess I deserved it. I started it) then he would start staring in my eyes and not breaking eye contact felt like he was trying to see something in my eyes but it was weird(even though there was another person in the convo). So I had to step out to do some things and left him with the other lady. When I had come back he was still talking to her and he came over to talk to me and the lady followed. We had little bit more playful banter and then he had asked if I still stayed at my last apt and I was like no I moved. (in front of the other lady which I think she likes him as well)he was like so when I come back in town, I was wondering if you would like to hang out sometime and I was like sure that sounds cool. From there we talked a few minutes more and we departed.

Ok sorry for this long story but I had to give a background and how we interacted with each other from my viewpoint. I am trying to understand what the deal with this Virgo man is. Does he seem to like me as just a friend... or is he possibly interested in me or trying to get to know me. Then I come back to my senses and remember yeah he is going through a divorce has a child... that is a lot of baggage... He couldn't possibly want to try to take on anything else. I don't know what to expect from hanging out but I know that it can give me the answers to all my unanswered questions. Another thing there is a lot of females all over him and to be honest I am not for it. I would rather let another girl have him than to try vying for his attention. One I am old enough to know that is childish and unnecessary conflict, I do not plan on having. There is plenty other fish in the sea. (Just for extra info I am 25 and he is possibly 27 or 28… I think) so I am leaving it for you guys, to give me your unclouded and unbiased advice and thoughts.

IP: Logged

Posts: 30119
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009

posted November 16, 2012 10:47 AM            

---

Welcome! Moving to Soul Unions.

------------------
"Fall down 100 times, get up 101...this is success." --ME

IP: Logged

Posts: 30119
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009

posted November 17, 2012 09:44 AM            

---

*bump*

------------------
"Fall down 100 times, get up 101...this is success." --ME

IP: Logged

Posts: 2708
From:
Registered: May 2009

posted November 21, 2012 09:25 AM            

---

Ok, I get the vibe of a player for his own purpose.

He is going through a divorce and that is usually a big ego bust for men.

Virgos can be shy in the beginning, but, from my experience with them, and it is alot, when they do finally turn their attention to you it is all about them.

Yes, the sign of service, but service to "self."

Does that make sense?

You have already identified your red flags and dont want to go there.

I would say tred very carefully~

blessins and welcome!

terri~

IP: Logged

Posts: 5
From:
Registered: Nov 2012

posted November 25, 2012 03:07 PM            

---

I went out on a date with a Virgo a few years ago ( before meeting my Cap) and it never worked out. I felt like everything was about him and what he did. I just couldn't handle that and had to leave him alone.

IP: Logged

Posts: 30119
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009

posted November 25, 2012 06:02 PM            

---

Gems and Caps often don't quite understand one another.

------------------
"Fall down 100 times, get up 101...this is success." --ME

IP: Logged

Posts: 3
From: washington,dc,usa
Registered: Nov 2012

posted July 23, 2013 11:10 AM            

---

Ok update sorry I waited so long. I had forgotten all about this. A lot of stuff happened with this virgo. I figured out that not only while he was trying to talk to me and going through a divorce... he had a girlfriend.HE had ask me out to out with him (in front of the girl who like him at church) but then he disappears for like 2 weeks and when he comes back, he is acting weird and would not come to talk to me like he use to. Then like a month later he stops acting weird towards me and I figure out he broke up with his girlfriend. Then another 3 weeks or so starts acting weird towards me and i then not too long after I found out he is dating girl who was in his face all the time in church. So i really just stop talking to him really because he was so frustrating and then one day he text me why that I don't talk to him anymore and I was like I don't know what do you mean you usually start conversing with me. He said it seems like we are not close anymore and that it seems like i offended him in so way... I let him know. I haven't said anything to you to believe these thoughts you are having that I was perfectly fine with him. Maybe you have a guilty conscious about something. and he never responded. Now months and months later after with being with his new girlfriend, guess who is flirting in my face again. So done and over him. He is trying to look for I guess some ego boaster since he just had failed marriage and somehow trying compensate for it. No sir not I. OK moving on to another topic. As far as me now and what is going on. lol you wouldn't believe it I am dating another Virgo who asked me out at my job after coming to my store and asking several different questions on quite a few different occasions...until he final asked me out on a date. What cracks me up about this is that they both virgos born on September 14th. What are the odds of that. The new virgo guy has been good for the most part had to set him straight on a couple of things and now we are smooth sailing. We have gone out about 4-5 dates in a week period. Although got number in early June. He has been nice, challenging, and perfect gentleman. I appreciate him. The funny thing about our paring he is 14 yrs my senior. He is 40 but he like he is no more than 32. He tricked me lol (jk). I am just enjoying the moment. Thank you guys for your responses

IP: Logged