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foxxyxo
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posted January 06, 2013 06:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for foxxyxo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
okay im not going to get into too much detail here but i've noticed theres a type of running away theme with twin flames...its like the love is soooooo strong so it makes you so scared to lose it then it becomes too much and you run...or your partner runs....i also read that people who have reached their last incarnation can only reunite with their twinflames then at that point and thats the only way because when u are ready for ascension, you have totally loved your whole self so then you can finally have your ultimate love, your twinflame love.... )) hmmm sounds so dreamy!!! but seriously sucks if youve already met ur twin flame but cant be together in this lifetime....

any thoughts?

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posted January 15, 2013 09:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's an old thread on this issue somewhere in this forum describing that theory in detail. It has been years since I've seen it, but maybe someone remembers the name?

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posted January 15, 2013 10:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
well, what do you know about THAT, Jaiellelove posted a thread not too long ago called 12 Years and I still Love Him (or something close to that) and about 10 posts into the thread she re-posted the Twin Flame Runner article.


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posted January 15, 2013 10:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
But maybe you already saw it and posted a new topic to explore it further???

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posted February 13, 2013 02:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cat lover     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm currently experiencing a wierd type of situation with a runner. I'm typing this now because i find it therapeutic to express how i'm feeling about this insanity it's been going on for so long i feel i need to talk about it alittle!

I met the guy at work and known him for about 5 and half years now. Ever since i can remember he's always kinda kept his distant from me! He's fine around other women and talks/flirts with them and he's even had a couple of relationships with them that i've known of. He just does not want to engage or converse with me. It made me feel awful of course and i tried to forget him but strangely i've felt this connection to him. It's not just a physical attraction but there was an emotional and spiritual one too. I really think that he felt something too when we first used to converse, Our eyes have locked and it's literally scared him so deep that he keeps away from me.

The thing is i dont even like part of who is character is as i've realised over the years that he can be selfish, arrogant and play minds games. All the things that i dont resonate with myself. I wish i had done what he did and got on with my life and had other relationships but then again i haven't really met anyone that i acually like or gel with. So how could i have got on and had other relationships when i didn't feel an affinity to anyone. At this point we're both single he talks to me now and again but its still awkward from his side. I know he finds me physically attractive but is not prepared to connect with me on a mental level.

Sometimes when i'm talking to other male work colleagues or his friend, he's always observing me or he will cut in the conversation and start telling his friend about the football score just so he can break our conversation. He's shown little signs of jealousy like that but he's still not prepared to connect with me on a one to one level. All i ever wanted was a friendship with him but now i've realised he can't do or give me that. It's ok i've come to accept this but now from my side I want to cut ties with him. I dont feel resentful towards him i just want to be able to move on from this and have friendships that are more balanced and functional.


I've blocked him from facebook. I'm looking for other jobs so i can get some distance from him i need it! I dont dislike him, i still care about him and feel love for him but whats going on between us is not something i want to keep thinking about constantly. I've tried now to put this in motion but It is wierd because when i do try to put him behind me i often end up dreaming about him or there is some kind of sign/sychronicity where i would see or hear his name (he has a lovely name which is not common either). or there some reference made to soulmates on a random TV show. I do wonder if the universe is getting it's kicks!

Even though the guy is running away from me, now i want out. I'm not running from him but i just want to connect with a guy who is alot more balanced within himself.

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posted February 15, 2013 01:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cat lover     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just had another sign last night. I was doing some work on the laptop and the TV was on. A movie started and it was completely based on a guy whose name was the same name as the guy i know!

Like i said it's not as if it's a common name, infact its a middle eastern name and it's not every day i would hear that even on a freakin tv programme!

Hmm is it coincidence..well I'm just going to pass this one off and not look at it as something major! But yes at the same time i do think its wierd. Its not as if i was looking for a sign it just appeared.

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posted February 16, 2013 07:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaNight     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't believe in coincidences.. I feel all happens for a reason; but you can't know 'why' they happened... so to assume won't help you.. it may be biased.

But just know, wherever your feelings are leading you, there is a reason for it. It may not be that you should remove him from your life, or even take him in... but something is going on. =) Best of luck

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posted February 17, 2013 01:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ I agree.

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posted February 18, 2013 12:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cat lover     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LunaNight:
I don't believe in coincidences.. I feel all happens for a reason; but you can't know 'why' they happened... so to assume won't help you.. it may be biased.

But just know, wherever your feelings are leading you, there is a reason for it. It may not be that you should remove him from your life, or even take him in... but something is going on. =) Best of luck


I had another dream about him last night, he was saying hello to me in a luke warm kinda of way. I'm not getting excited or anything but i have noticed a shift and change of energies from him. Before i used to feel agitated when i would think of him but now i feel quite neutral in a good way. Somethings definitely changed from his side i can feel it because it never used to be like this.

But like i said i'm not getting excited about this i mean i could be wrong.I suppose i'll be able to tell more if i was i
to see him in person to know how he acts around me. For all i know he could be into some other girl and thats why his energies are cut off and less agitated from me right now lol!

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posted February 18, 2013 12:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaNight     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
it's true.. you can only know yourself in any situation- even 'enlightened' dreams can just be a deeper sense of telling you what to do about your own feelings.. not necessarily what the other person sees/feels/thinks.. you can only know by hearing/seeing it from them. Best of luck!

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posted May 07, 2013 02:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jaiellelove     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Mystic Melody:
well, what do you know about THAT, Jaiellelove posted a thread not too long ago called 12 Years and I still Love Him (or something close to that) and about 10 posts into the thread she re-posted the Twin Flame Runner article.



http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/004357.html

awww...I'mmmmm baaaaaack! lol

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posted May 15, 2013 02:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for start6030     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hmmm..i agree...

my hubby (now ex...bt i still wouldnt like to call him my ex)an i met and unlike he would otherwise do, he fell in lv and we got married in three months and were inseparable....but after a passionate time together for three months, he broke all contacts with me and the silence went on for a year and half after which we took divorce....

nothing was explained...

this period transformed my life though...instead of proving how wrong he was, i could introspect how i could have saved the relation by not overlooking the signs....

the charts are weird... my ascendant n 7th house are exactly reversed to b his ascendant n 7th house...

our vedic charts show me in his chart as wife n him in my chart as husband !!!!

its weird how i still miss him n believe more that he is the perfect person i could ever meet or be with....


i believe we r inseparable even after divorce...

the most weird thing that happened was that in my country , the Magisterate dsnt usually use such quotations... but in our case, all that she said was > u know its a heavenly union..u can not break it ever... so u r just spoiling it..not breaking it. "

Another sign !! why ???

n this hs stuck somewhere in my mind that all my life am not gonna get an answer to why we broke up n why he grew so aloof and silent just in a day....and then may be we will meet sm other life time......coz this lifetime , it was jst to learn lessons from each other...

(ps: we were the bestest of a couple together........ and after i lost him , i discovered things about me that i never knew : positive and stronger ones)

so i totally believe n agree with what u wrote dear ....
only if it was too easy to forget these twin flames !.

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posted June 03, 2013 11:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lily     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If someone runs away its because they don't like the other person enough.

This "running away bc they are afraid" is just a way for someone to hold onto an ex and believe they like them even if they don't.

People who really like someone are unable to run.

Jmo

Eta, oh and I've been "the runner" before.

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posted June 15, 2013 01:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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This "running away bc they are afraid" is just a way for someone to hold onto an ex and believe they like them even if they don't.

People who really like someone are unable to run.


Disagree!

It can go either way.

Sometimes people run because they just don't like you.

And sometimes they run because they can't deal with you even though they do like you.

It's not a clearcut science that can be applied to each and every situation and each every person.


And - I know I have said this so many times - but I really don't mind saying it again until I turn blue in the face lol:

Dating books and movies like "he's not that into you" - "why men love bi*tches" or "men are from mars - women are form venus" are completely BS from my perspective.
Waste of time and money.

They try to apply linear thinking where there is really no place for it - because every individual is a person with a soul, with a destiny... and you can't slam them in a group and say "all men this" "all women that".

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posted June 15, 2013 02:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bumblebee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I absolutely agree with Odette for all that crap "men are like this", "women like that" wich is not true. Everybody is perfectly different and relationships are way too variable. And the biggest crap from my opinion is "men wants just sex"!

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posted June 18, 2013 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lily     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
Disagree!

It can go either way.

Sometimes people run because they just don't like you.

And sometimes they run because they can't deal with you even though they do like you.

It's not a clearcut science that can be applied to each and every situation and each every person.


And - I know I have said this so many times - but I really don't mind saying it again until I turn blue in the face lol:

Dating books and movies like "he's not that into you" - "why men love bi*tches" or "men are from mars - women are form venus" are completely BS from my perspective.
Waste of time and money.

They try to apply linear thinking where there is really no place for it - because every individual is a person with a soul, with a destiny... and you can't slam them in a group and say "all men this" "all women that".


If they can't deal with you then they don't really like you. IMO, actions equal feelings. Someone saying they like someone but then not wanting to be with them means they don't like them enough. It really is that simple.

The whole twin flame theory where the person, "usually the man" (how convenient!) runs even though he really really loves her is such bs. It's actually so harmful to anyone who reads it bc it reinforces their delusion that someone loves them even if they are telling them they don't or are with someone else or whatever. I feel bad for people who believe this stuff because they'll be tied to some delusion that another loves them when they don't. Usually the person who is telling everyone that someone loves them, despite the fact the person in love left them or doesn't want to be with them, is just projecting their love onto the person. *they* love that person so the twist every action and statement as meaning the person loves them. example: The person ignores them or gets mad/annoyed at them for unwanted attention? It's because the person loves them so much but is just scared, not because the other person is annoying the hell out of them. If They're ignored or yelled at by him/her...it's because the love object can't handle the intense feelings they feel regarding the object of their "love."


When I want to be with with someone, I make an effort to have them in my life. I don't make myself scarce, avoiding anywhere they may be if possible. If there's an argument, ill try to patch it up, contact them etc. I think what happens with the deluded twin flame person is that they contact the other person and a lot of times the other person agrees just because.... Why not? But they didn't, nor would they ever, seek the other out bc they really don't care *that* much.

It seems that some people will misconstrue any and every action by the other person to fit their delusion that they're in love with them and its a shame.

The he's not into stuff is usually pretty true. Works for men and women. If someone is into someone, they'll be available and show they're into the other person.

Basically, the men-mars/women-Venus is so much like the twin flame Schtick in a way. It says men act differently when they like someone which is what the TF stuff says, I.e. He'll run bc he's scared and she needs to chase him to "make" him see he loves her or vice versa.

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posted June 22, 2013 07:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jjj     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Disagree with Lily and agree with Odette.
There arent simple rules for relationships, every relationship and person is unique. Of course applying common sense helps, but not always. Love is and remains in big part irrational.

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posted June 23, 2013 05:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lily     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well it's really not a relationship unless its a relationship.

In the early stages of things, people are infatuated and act a certain way, but if the feelings aren't deep and real, it ends. Or if the person gets to know the other more and realizes they don't have the qualities they're looking for in a long term partner.

The person can totally have a change of heart. I know, because I've had changes of heart and I've also been on the other end of it. Especially early on, things can change.


I'm betting jodi Arias thought Travis Alexander was her TF and "ran" because he was scared. She was deluded, and once she realized this wasnt so and he really didnt love her, she just snapped in a terrible way. It was an extreme outcome, yes, but I fear people who would believe the TF rationale are prone to being a bit stalkerish in relationships in general, especially the ones who feel their TF is some celebrity they've never met and doesn't know they exist, or some married guy/girl.


TF theory is a guidebook for erotamania (people who believe someone they don't know irl loves them) and also for unrequited love.

Believing in this theory is a good way for someone to get used. It's also scary for someone who would be on the receiving end of the chaser -- when all they want is to get away from the person.

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posted June 24, 2013 03:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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If they can't deal with you then they don't really like you. IMO, actions equal feelings. Someone saying they like someone but then not wanting to be with them means they don't like them enough. It really is that simple.

It's strange that you think that..

There are several people I have loved and couldn't deal with.
Has this really never happened to you?

More recently I wiped someone out of my life because he has too many issues and I can't deal with him but I do care about him.

I'm not sure why you are generalising.

Even if someone was the love of my life.. if I felt like the situation/context was not right for me.. or if they did/said things that made me feel like we were not on the same wavelength/same maturity level.. or we simply wanted different things in life - I could and I would say *goodbye*.
I could be head-over-heels in love and I would still say goodbye.

Life is not a fairytale.. where - love conquers all.
Just because two people are "in love" that does not mean things work out on a practical - day2day level... or that they don't call it quits.

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I think both things can be true

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posted June 24, 2013 11:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lily     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
It's strange that you think that..

There are several people I have loved and couldn't deal with.
Has this really never happened to you?

More recently I wiped someone out of my life because he has too many issues and I can't deal with him but I do care about him.

I'm not sure why you are generalising.

Even if someone was the love of my life.. if I felt like the situation/context was not right for me.. or if they did/said things that made me feel like we were not on the same wavelength/same maturity level.. or we simply wanted different things in life - I could and I would say *goodbye*.
I could be head-over-heels in love and I would still say goodbye.

Life is not a fairytale.. where - love conquers all.
Just because two people are "in love" that does not mean things work out on a practical - day2day level... or that they don't call it quits.



Yes, I agree, that can happen, but that's different than running bc its too intense or they love the other too much and cant deal with it. I feel like the TF spiel makes the person left hold onto someone who isn't going to be with them ever, so I think it can be harmful to them.

They aren't saying the other left bc of real situations but bc they're too scared bc the love is too strong and thats very different than somone leaving bc of the things you said.

I also mentioned People leaving for those reasons in an earlier post. It's a major concern I have with the TF stuff-- they make it sound like someone isn't leaving for a real reason, even if they stated why they actually left.

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posted June 24, 2013 11:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lily     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted June 24, 2013 12:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jjj     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I personally have not had experience when both people are available, but the intensity itself can sometimes be very scary.

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posted July 13, 2013 04:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ltownboogie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not to hijack the post, but could it be common to have heavy pluto connections in the synastry of TF's?

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posted July 14, 2013 01:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmpressMendez     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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If they can't deal with you then they don't really like you. IMO, actions equal feelings. Someone saying they like someone but then not wanting to be with them means they don't like them enough. It really is that simple.

Oh, wow. This is untrue on my part. I ran away from the man of my dreams because I was terrified of the way he made me feel. I hadn't even kissed the guy. That was one of the rarest and strongest feelings I've ever felt for a man in my whole entire life (I was 16). It was wow, 'till this day I'm still "in love" with him (or w/e you want to call it!) lol. I ran because I was very afraid of my feelings for him..I know it sounds weird, but it's true. I did this with another guy who gave me a similar feeling, but with him I'm actually trying to talk to him again and slowly trying to get to know him even though I am terrified of this "strange" feeling

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