posted December 13, 2012 06:54 AM            

And this is just from a few weeks of not seeing him. My fiance expressed the fact that he was uncomfortable with how I acted around my twin so I, in the best interest of my current relationship, have put a distance between my other half and myself. But now I'm suffering ten-fold.

I don't know what to do. My TF won't have me for fear of hurting me, but I can't NOT be around him...which in turn makes whomever I'm with (it's happened more than once) jealous to the point that they don't trust me and/or tell me I have to choose between them and my twin.. LoL as if I could choose.

I tried to stop this continuing cycle from happening by putting the distance between myself and my twin, but now I almost feel like it's catapulting me forward into the position I tried to avoid in the first place. I don't want my fiance to be jealous/hurt. I want him to understand that I need this person the way I need air...But that it doesn't mean I love him (my fiance) any less. I don't think it's in his, or anybody's, human nature to accept the level of feelings I have for my twin..

posted December 13, 2012 12:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Rina4life:
Hi,I'm not no expert or anything but if you want your twin flame badly then I suggest you let go of your fiance and be with someone you deeply care for because its wrong that your putting your fiance through this type of issue and he dosent deserve to be hurt by someone who he is soon going to be married to. How do you know this person is your Twin flame anyways? Wonder if your just infatuated and obsessed with this person. I suggest you put this little marriage on hold because the only person you is hurting is your fiance and you should be happy your going to marry someone who cares for you instead of someone you think is your Twin flame, Your being selfish with your desires and need to find jesus

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Wow..really?? Gotta love when someone throws something religious into it. Since obviously you have found jesus then you should know that we r not here to judge others and just remember for every finger u point at someone, they can point one back at u just as easy.

@lionfish...I have read on idk how many sites now that a TF relationship (of any kind including a mere friendship) can b extremely intense in feelings. I give u credit for having respect for ur fiance and distincing urself as u have already chosen who u will spend ur life with. I have no advice for u bc I have not been thru that and walked in ur shoes

posted December 13, 2012 03:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Rina4life:
Hi,I'm not no expert or anything but if you want your twin flame badly then I suggest you let go of your fiance and be with someone you deeply care for because its wrong that your putting your fiance through this type of issue and he dosent deserve to be hurt by someone who he is soon going to be married to. How do you know this person is your Twin flame anyways? Wonder if your just infatuated and obsessed with this person. I suggest you put this little marriage on hold because the only person you is hurting is your fiance and you should be happy your going to marry someone who cares for you instead of someone you think is your Twin flame, Your being selfish with your desires and need to find jesus

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Wow. Rude much?

First of all, I'm not hurting anybody but myself here. Or did you miss the part where I CHOSE to not be around him? Secondly, I have absolutely no intention/want/need to leave my fiance. I love him heart and soul and I can't imagine my life without him. Period.

I know this other man is my twin because we knew each other before we met. I feel him acutely and he does me as well. Even just thoughts and feelings and he's not exactly, in tune, with that side of life. Example: I had an AWFUL day about a month ago. Nothing was going right and no matter how many times I ran situations over in my brain I came out with the same answers. Very frustrated. My twin called me to ask what was wrong because I was giving him a headache.. lol He feels like the other half of myself. And I'm "what makes his world right" (his words). And yes, I love him. And no, nothing else will ever compare. Maybe the love I'll have for my own child might...I doubt it.

I came on here to vent a broken heart and you throw words like selfish and infatuation...obsession. And Jesus...lol fits nicely with obsession don't ya think? I didn't say "OMG I love this man so much I just gotta be with him and **** like bunnies until the end of time" No..I miss my friend. My best friend. I'm sorry you don't know what it's like to feel for more than one person. How boring and lonely your life must be.

I have NOT cheated on my fiance in mind, body or spirit, and nor will I ever. I'm disgustingly happy with him and I wouldn't change anything about our relationship. The reason he was uncomfortable with me around my twin is because I'm brighter when my twin is around. It's like somebody switched on a light switch connected to a 10,000 candle lamp.

posted December 13, 2012 03:44 PM            

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Wow..really?? Gotta love when someone throws something religious into it. Since obviously you have found jesus then you should know that we r not here to judge others and just remember for every finger u point at someone, they can point one back at u just as easy.

@lionfish...I have read on idk how many sites now that a TF relationship (of any kind including a mere friendship) can b extremely intense in feelings. I give u credit for having respect for ur fiance and distincing urself as u have already chosen who u will spend ur life with. I have no advice for u bc I have not been thru that and walked in ur shoes

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posted December 13, 2012 05:49 PM            

I've been reading as much as I can about the twin flame relationships these last few months and what u described sounds exactly like the telepathy I read about. I got a reading done back in sept and was told id b meeting my twin flame this month. Honestly id heard of the concept but I had no proof it existed. But in this psychic reading I got, he knew things that no one would know even if they searched the net. So it leaves me no choice but to believe.

posted December 14, 2012 06:40 AM            

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Ur welcome. Obviously ur being mature in the way u r dealing with the matter. I see no red flags in ur 1st post. Just my 2 cents here.

I've been reading as much as I can about the twin flame relationships these last few months and what u described sounds exactly like the telepathy I read about. I got a reading done back in sept and was told id b meeting my twin flame this month. Honestly id heard of the concept but I had no proof it existed. But in this psychic reading I got, he knew things that no one would know even if they searched the net. So it leaves me no choice but to believe.

So if ur up to it (I respect ur right to privacy) when u 1st met ur twin flame, what was it like? Or anything else u can say. From ur above post, it matches what I've read: that ur vibration/frequency raises. I've never spoke with anyone that has met their twin flame. It must b difficult for u bc the things u r experiencing, u can't really help but feel that way. The twin flame relationship doesn't sound like its for the faint hearted lol

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I'm definitely trying.

When we first met.. I was young, 13, and he was 20 at the time. A friend of my best friend's brother. I went over to her brother's to "pick her up" and he was there. I remember feeling anxious when I was walking up to the door, like something was telling me "hurry up!!!" Her brother let me in and told me she was in the basement and then I heard my twin's voice from another room, asking who was at the door. It felt like I was set on fire...I don't know a better way to describe it. I remembered his voice, but I couldn't tell you how. It was like music to my heart, singing a song only I could hear. I remember feeling "he's here" but my logical self couldn't have told you who "he" was. I followed where his voice came from, it felt almost involuntary, (my best friend was in the other direction!!!) and when I walked in the kitchen where he was... We locked eyes and just stared for what felt like forever. I didn't move, I couldn't breathe..I didn't need to. I saw everything I was, everything I knew..all that I wanted, in his eyes. No words were spoken, I don't think they could have sufficed... And then my friend's brother's voice broke through "I told you she was in the basement." Tearing myself away from him that first time was agony and I couldn't for the life of me understand why. I wrote it off to lust.

I saw him off and on for the years to come. And every time it was the same. I could FEEL his closeness to me. If he came to where I was, or I to him, I knew he was there or coming before he ever stepped foot inside. And then one day, I was in my early 20s, I met my bff at a mutual friend's house. My twin was a roommate of their's at the time so I expected to see him when I got there. He wasn't home though.. We sat, we talked, we drank a few beers and had some laughs. And then my twin came home early from work. He flew in the front door like he was being chased, asked us if everything was okay. We'd all been having a marvelous time (except me being internally devastated that my twin wasn't home) and didn't understand his fretting. He left work on a "gut feeling" that something was wrong at home and needed his attention. I couldn't have put it better myself I told him "Duh, it was me" and his response... The smile that came with it melted me..."I know it was."

Through all the relationships the both of us have had since we met, it always comes back to one of our partners being "uncomfortable" or jealous of the bond between us. If either of us has a bad day we don't run to the other, the other is already there asking what we can do to fix it before we even know what's wrong...

He finishes my sentences, I finish his thoughts. We've hurt each other...unintentionally, but it's happened. He's told me I'm "the one" and "the bane to his existence" all in one (recent) conversation lol...I asked him how he could say that when all he does (no matter how upset) is smile in my company.. He responded in kind with "You make my world right, but I can't have you. I can't hurt you the way I've hurt other women. It would kill me to know that I caused you tears and nomally I DON'T CARE (he yelled that part)"

There is so much... so many feelings, thoughts, instances I could share. I could go on forever...

posted December 15, 2012 06:05 AM            

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I think he's a soulmate, twin flames are extraordinarily rare, and people seem to mistake soul mates for it.

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posted December 15, 2012 06:57 AM            

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Possibly. I have other people who are soul mates. Feeling, charts, and experience shows it and I'm not drawn to any of them the way I am to him. I can't forgive anybody else the way I can him. I know it's rare, but I really think I found mine. I've never felt like this for anyone. Absolute love. Unconditional no matter what or where. And it goes both ways. I've never [b]known someone the way I do him...Soul mate... most definitely possible, but until I feel something that comes even close to this I can't think he's not my twin. I've never felt so strongly for anyone...its like I have no choice. Maybe it's karma... whatever it might be, it's the most powerful connection I've ever felt..[/B]

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posted December 16, 2012 03:05 AM            

As for your situation, have you ever considered having a relationship with your TF?

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posted December 16, 2012 07:37 AM            

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Well i have very, very similar. Overwhelming feelings, and not even physical. Just an urge from the heart chakra to be in touch with him. Always connected they are. Dreams, visions, synchronicities, telepathic connection, etc, etc. Never felt such things for anyone else. Constantly missing him. Yet i remember numerous lifetimes with him, in every and each of them there was this love and the fact that it's impossible to be together one way or another. That's why i don't think he's my twinflame. A very close soulmate, that's for sure. We'll never intentionally hurt each other.

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posted December 16, 2012 08:33 AM            

I've considered it, wanted it, been told he wanted it, and been told no he can't. He will tell me he loves me until he's blue in the face. And woe to the person who tries to keep him from me, but he won't "be with me."

He's terrified he'll do something to hurt me, to make me stop loving him because he's "tried" with other women before to not cheat and not lie, but he always comes back to the same habits. He's never had to lie to me, and the 1 time he did he broke down in tears and told me how much it was eating him inside.

At this point in his life, all I can be is his best friend. I don't think he can deal with more than that. He's accepted that he needs me and has admitted no one else will ever make him as happy, but he has no idea who he is or where he's going. I can't force myself into that or manipulate it, nor would I want to.

Yes, my fiance knows how I feel. It's not like I can hide it. At all. The man is the sun in my sky. I'm his moon and stars. But sometimes accepting what is, which is that my twin was damaged before I found him, and what SHOULD be, but probably won't...sometimes that's all you can do.

He knows he belongs with me. I know that my heart is forever his, but I won't be lonely because he "can't do it." And that's what I've accepted.

The problem here is that no matter what my brain says, my heart gets involved. When I made the decision to not see him as much I went to his work to tell him what I'd decided. But when I saw him it was like everything I'd intended to say to "stand my ground" to him...it was gone. How in the world could I ever think I'd survive without seeing him? << that's what I asked myself while I was looking at him. So I spent that night hanging out, talking, laughing, being the object of his affection for one more night. I haven't been back since.

posted December 31, 2012 06:55 AM            

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hm security or otherwordly love affair. i guess these things happen. i don't know enough about Twin Flames to offer any useful advice but i do know that your fiancee needs to be with someone who wants to be with him as much as you want to be with your "Twin Flame". let him go asap.

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That's just it though... I don't want to be with this person. I don't want to "be with" anybody except my fiancee. It's not just security. It's honest, deep, true love between the two of us. The thought of leaving him for this other person sickens me.

I'm also starting to think as time goes on that this person I was referring to as my TF may just be a heavily intertwined soulmate. The connection is ridiculous and intense with him, but I think he was here to teach me a lesson. To help me get back myself after a person who supposedly loved me nearly destroyed me. Being as I'm doubting that he's my TF, he probably isn't for that fact alone. I know he's an important part of my life journey, just not that he's a permanent part.

When I posted this it would have torn me up inside to say that. I've learned some things about myself, and about him, that have made me not only accept that fact, but be okay with it. This man, whatever he may be, soul mate, twin flame, intergalactic space alien... IDK... I do know I love him. Love doesn't mean you have to be with a person though. Love means the well-being of the peson matters to you, that they have a piece of your heart that nobody can touch, but not that you can't love another just as much.

My fiance is "the one" for me. He makes my heart dance when he says my name and I get butterflies when he touches me, even just to hold my hand. We've been together for 2 years and it still feels like the first time he said it every time he tells me he loves me or smiles at me over his shoulder with his perfect grin.. I'm smitten with the man I've chosen to spend the rest of my life with.

This other person...he means the world to me and I would move mountains to see him happy, unless one of those mountains was my fiance. I hope that puts it into perspective. The reason I'm missing him in the first place is because I refused to continue hurting the man I love.

I did a lot of growing up and soul-searching in the past 2 months, and this was part of it. I realized I had to let go to move forward, but it was painful when I actually did the cutting-off. It's been almost the whole 2 months since I've sought him out and he shows up randomly in places that I'm at when I'm out and about, but I've noticed that every time I see him: I miss him a little less.

posted January 17, 2013 04:01 PM            

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I know how you feel lion fish, I have my tf sm what ever you call it...And yes he says he needs me more then the very next air he breaths. All the things feelings you've experienced with him We too share that...but Imma be honest II would not marry another man if I had these strong feelings for another man. I would have to work thiis out. The man I marry will have to have all of me. Does your fiancé know that you feel this deeply about another man, and basically cant live with out him. If so then ok. If not then some thing is wrong...it's!!!

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my fiancé knows how much I care about this person. Lol EVERYONE knows, I've never been able to hide it or turn it down and I wouldn't want to. Him and my fiancé actually get along famously and genuinely like each other. both have a sun, Mercury, Venus, Jupiter stellium and they oppose each other almost exactly Leo-Aquarius...which just happens to be my ascendant/descendant axis.
In a perfectly selfish world I could have both of them and never want/need for anything again lol

posted February 07, 2013 06:30 AM            

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i met my twin flame in 09 and it took me years to overcome the serperation loss...but then i began to heal and i noticed all my fear and pain began melting away..and i have taken steps in order to grow and they have been challenging but the more i grow, the happier i become. i now dont have the need to be with my flame as i did before but i like to think that it's possible that perhaps twins come together physically in cycles if only for short periods of time. i dont know what the future holds, but i do have faith that if i just keep progressing and taking good care of myself, that things wil work out as they are suppossed to.

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How did you bare it? I felt like I was falling apart. I broke down and have been seeing him regularly again. I'm still doing my own thing and living my life, but I hardly feel like I'm living without him in my life in some way. He's my best friend and nobody understands me or knows me quite the way he does..

posted April 13, 2013 02:40 PM            

I've been where you are, and I chose to distance myself from him and devote myself entirely to my marriage.

Now over a year later, I don't know how I feel. He and I barely speak since I imposed the distance. Everything has changed. He lashes out at me when we communicate at all, otherwise, there's just this terrible divide which crushes me if I let it. Otherwise, I swear I'm just in denial about the pain.

I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I just have this sense of, 'this is wrong' or 'this isn't the way it's supposed to be'. But I feel trapped - torn between walking the path I know I have to, (for my marriage, and my stepdaughter, and my in-law family) and the one which used to make me feel unlike I know how to describe. And I'm a professional writer, so that's saying something.

I have no advice - just resonance. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I, too, know what it feels like. There are days I can only think, 'I miss my best friend', which puts it incredibly mildly. I can't describe what we were, or how I felt. There aren't words.

All I know is this is hell. I heal, I get back up, I make huge strides of progress - and then I get knocked down again, missing him terribly, and unsure of what to do.

posted April 18, 2013 06:05 AM            

I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

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There are days I can only think, 'I miss my best friend', which puts it incredibly mildly. I can't describe what we were, or how I felt. There aren't words.

All I know is this is hell. I heal, I get back up, I make huge strides of progress - and then I get knocked down again, missing him terribly, and unsure of what to do.

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Whenever I see, my face lights up. I'm at my happiest when I'm with him. I never pursued or wanted a relationship with due to us both being married. Things got so complicated between us at work, people started being vicious, destroying our friendship. Telling his wife. We don't even speak now, it's hurts because my spirit longs for him. How can you tell if someone is your twin flame, meaning what aspects do you look for in a Synastry Chart. There was telepathic connection between us, it was like we didn't even need words we could read each other mind with no problems. All I want is my friend back, I pray I hear from him soon.

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