posted April 08, 2013 09:10 PM            

2 years ago I met a cancer man (I am a cancer woman). There was an instant attraction that was clearly mutual and he pursued heavily. After a few months, he made if very clear he liked me and told me he wanted me to meet his family. I unfortunately had just gone through a really bad break up only a few months earlier and wasn’t ready to go down the serious relationship road. I told him I couldn’t talk to him anymore, did not give him a reason (again I'm a cancer it's hard for me to talk about my feelings) and cut off all contact. I did not want to do this and it made me very sad, but it was something I had to do for my own well-being.

A few months after I cut contact he found me on Facebook and we started talking through FB. I told him I missed him to which he replied that hearing me say that “put a smile on his face”. He would ask me what I was doing once every few weeks, but we never got together again. I still needed time to get over my last relationship and just seeing pictures of him stirred up too much emotion for me (again I’m a cancer). I couldn’t even look at him on FB without wanting to be around him and I knew it was not something I could do at the time, so I de-friended him from FB again giving no reason. (It hurt but I had to)

Fast forward 2 years. I moved past everything that was previously holding me back, started a new job, was spending a lot of time with friends when suddenly the cancer man popped into my head and I couldn’t stop thinking about him. So this time I went and found him on Facebook. He seemed happy and very surprised to hear from me and we decided to get together. A week later I went to his house. He was very polite and sweet and we ended up spending the night together (for the first time). But since then I feel like he’s no longer interested. He’ll do the cancer push and pull thing with me…sometimes he asks me what I’m doing and sees if I want to get together with him, but then a month will go by and he wont contact me. Then suddenly he'll reappear again. It’s definitely different from 2 years ago. I feel like I’m chasing him, even though I’m really not that much, but being a cancer woman anytime I have to text a guy first I feel like I’m chasing. He acts hypersensitive with me through texts and has said he’s scared with me…but then he will turn around and REALLY start acting like he’s not interested in me a week later (which is something he NEVER would have done 2 years ago).

posted September 04, 2013 05:47 AM            

In response to ur post i wud say u did the push n pull with him first n like u said without much explanation. N i understand the attraction is deep for both of u. So i say he is quite scared to get close to u because u did the dance when he was keen n rejected him. Cancers dont work well with rejection right?