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HeavenlyLilz
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posted August 24, 2013 01:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for HeavenlyLilz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Okay, first this might be long. During reading this you might think I'm a dummy. LOL

***Coming out of a LONG relationship (7 years) with a closed off, non-emotional, or loving Gemini who cheated and messed up my mental and self esteem.


I'm a Cancer. I met this at work (I know) I wasn't looking for him at all. I was in my own world doing what I need to do and he comes in to do some work in my area. I didn't think much of him I wasn't in that mind frame. As I was training someone he continues to interrupt and ask questions pertaining to his job and if I knew where things were. I didn't think anything of it, he every now and then would make comments on the conversation I was having with the person I was training. We were laughing and all of a sudden I was like HELLO! I loved his voice (Deep, sexy). He finishes and goes back to his floor and I relized he had a nice walk (Sexy) I debated contacting him on our office chat and my other side took over and got some guts and sent him a message. We chated for the rest of the day laughing, he began the subtle flirting and getting to know each other. By the end of the day I was a little unsure but knew he was flirting. When I came back to work I waited for him to send the 1st message he didn't so I said oh well and sent one to him. We chated again all day, this continued for a few days that week. We laughed, flirted and he made sensual comments and it wasn't overtly sexual, just subtle hints. He asks questions about my personality, how I think, what I want in a man, in a relationship (All the getting to know you I'm intrested questions) He told me what he was looking for and it's the same as me, he asks if I know someone that fits and I said I might and he asks the same and said I know a guy and you'll love him. Then he asks if the girl I have in mind can come downstairs and meet him for a 15 min break. I was scared cause I was wondering if he was expecting someone else. (Yes. SMH) I went and he was friendly and I realized I like this dude, he is intelligent, funny, sexy and oozzes some kind of...appeal, swagger, aura, confidence, something. It's been a kind of busy at work and since then. We really have not spoken on chat. He did tell me he had alot going on one day and I said "Well I don't wanna interrupt, later." I sent him a message on Thursday asking "how he felt about cooking" he never responded, then I sent a message on Friday after deciding that I would take someone else's advice and be straight forward and I said "I get off early, wanted to know if you wanna get a drink and catch up". He never responded also. By the way we've known each other about 3 weeks in total and this has been going on for 3 weeks.

So now I am stuck here trying to figure this out. Did he ever like me? Was it just flirtation? Did he loose intrest? Is he playing mind games? Or is he just not into me? Could I have said something that he took wrong and is ignoring me for?

I research Taurus men and it says they like to be chased and are SLOW movers, and hate being rushed and tend to do the push and pull thing. Was I too forward? Did I push him? Am I going too fast? What should I do? I am so confused.

I know Long, Sorry.

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Lexxigramer
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posted August 24, 2013 01:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moving to Soul Unions.

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Hera
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posted August 24, 2013 02:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome to LINDALAND, HeavenlyLilz!!! Enjoy your stay!!


I have a bit of experience with Taurus men, I will get back to you!

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Hera
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posted August 25, 2013 06:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ugh don't we all hate it when men get unresponsive..

My Taurus used to be like that too. He was a workaholic and truth be told I don't think I was ever his No. 1 priority. Work would always come first.

I think it's kind of too soon to say. From what you described, it started off really, really well. Could be that reality kicked in and he realized things are moving too fast for him or he could have other hang-ups. It's sometimes easy to be bold when in the heat of the flirting moment but then slowly get back with your feet on the ground and ask yourself what the hell was I doing, you know? Either way, not nice to leave you hanging like that.

For now given the fact that he's unresponsive, there's really not much you can do. Stop sending emails and do your own thing. If he comes back, fine, if not - plenty of fish out there! Bulls too. From my experience with men, the second they smell you're interested, they back off. I don't have an explanation for it.


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SDragon
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posted August 25, 2013 08:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SDragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The answers are yes, no, yes, and yes...

j/k

What I would say is that when we get really busy, we can be non-responsive. But you didn't elaborate too much on the actual 'meeting', you just said he was 'friendly'. Did he seem to flirt the same way as the chat? Did the conversation seem different from his side?

Ya, do your own thing and see if he initiates when he becomes unbusy. Sometimes when we get stressed, unless whatever is interrupting our routine is helping us fix the problem, we ignore it. And ya, 3 weeks is pretty fast - we might start thinking that 'oh she must flirt with all the guys and be flirty in general' and then our quest for security and stableness kicks in and we create space.

Good luck!

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Hera
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posted August 25, 2013 09:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I swear, while I was waiting for the Bull to answer back, it seemed like I was watching grass grow..

Why oh why do you people do this to us?? lol At least if you'd be straightforward and say u're not interested. But nooooo, you want to keep that possibility while still going about your lives the same way as before. Just out of curiosity, SDragon, is love ever a priority to you people??

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Single Cancer
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posted August 25, 2013 09:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Single Cancer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was in a 10 year relationship with a Taurus man...father of my child. I too am a Cancer.

My previous long term relationship before him was also a Taurus, born 9 days apart same year!

Like Hera says, I was also not his number 1 priority. Very frustrating! Was never open with me and hard to get a straight answer.

Both men were very charming when we first met and charismatic with everyone they met.
Also perfectionists.

I also left them both for the same reasons..they loved to flirt with women and I couldn't tolerate the cheating with my childs father.

My advice, do your own thing and don't chase him. They like the thrill of the chase and if you're too eager he will back down.

They're easily bored so don't make it too easy for him. Best of luck.

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SDragon
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posted August 25, 2013 09:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SDragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're asking the wrong bull ;p I never lead people on and if I think the other person isn't getting the message, I let them know that I don't see/feel it.

Intuition is the true gift of the bull. Or could just be my Venus trine Saturn ;/

Love is a priority for everyone but unfortunately as a 'builder' sign, we approach love in the same way I think. We want to see if what we're gonna build fits into our ideas of love/relationship/marriage and that's where all the issues come up - because sometimes the other person is not involved in the process, has no clue where we're coming from and ya, sometimes bulls' own ideas of love are warped and crazy!

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HeavenlyLilz
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posted August 25, 2013 11:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for HeavenlyLilz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hera,

My goodness, thank you so much for your reply. I have been driving myself insane trying to figure out what I could have done or said and I only come up with maybe he took it the wrong way when I did says "Don't wanna interrupt, later". Maybe that was a little too cold based on how we've been with each other.

If so he is even more sensitive than my Cancer self. Lol. I wish I could be so cavalier about it. Thing is with how much we've been talking and when we first spoke in person when we met I felt a connection and since then I've felt some sort of connection and it feels weird to me never felt one before.

SDragon, thank you for your reply. When we met up for our break it was different, I am naturally shy and that shines through when I am around people. So I was reserved and I think he was mirroring my attitude. We did have physical contact, we were laughing and joking and having a debate about my Note phone and his iphone and he leaned into me when we were face to face and bounced me with his hip on my hip. When I came down I did chest bump him with the side of my body.

The conversation wasn't flirty it was a normal conversation. I didn't bring anything flirty into it from shyness. I started talking about work and the conversation went back and forth cause we both asked questions. When we were going back in he was saying something but I cut him off and said "Well I guess I'll see you when I see you".


He wasn't at work the next day our schedules conflicted and we missed each other. My thing is wouldn't a Taurus tell you if they were interested or not especially if it seems you are and I think I made it clear by asking if he wanted to get drinks.

How do you know if a Taurus man is interested and how do you know if he's not? Is his ignoring his way of telling me to leave him alone?

SingleCancer, why do they want to be chased but then want to chase you. lol.

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Delilah423
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posted August 25, 2013 10:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Delilah423     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by HeavenlyLilz:

How do you know if a Taurus man is interested and how do you know if he's not? Is his ignoring his way of telling me to leave him alone?


I dunno, but I can tell you I didn't hear from my new Taurus for a week; couldn't take it anymore and texted him to specifically ask him to tell me if he wanted me to leave him alone. He called a few minutes later, we talked for nearly an hour, and one of his questions was "When are you going to invite me over for dinner?"

Since I had to light a fire under him to get him to ask me out the first time, and since work is his first priority, I'm of the opinion that with at least some of them, you either have to be able to wait forever and/or you need to take the initiative from time to time.

But what do I know? I've got Venus in Virgo, Sun opposite Moon, Uranus in the 7th house, and Saturn opposite Moon and square Venus, so I'm probably not the best person to be giving romantic advice.

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SDragon
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posted August 25, 2013 11:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SDragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I don't want to make too many assumptions since we all know people are affected by more than just their Sun sign. Not sure what his Venus/Mercury signs are but if someone replied what seemed curtly 'don't wanna interrupt, later' and vaguely 'i guess i'll see you when i see you', it would trigger my nerves slightly - though more so in my younger days when my pisces moon was overtly sensitive.

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Hera
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posted August 29, 2013 09:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by SDragon:
You're asking the wrong bull ;p I never lead people on and if I think the other person isn't getting the message, I let them know that I don't see/feel it.



Good! There's too much confusion going around, no need to add to it.

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Hera
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posted August 29, 2013 09:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How are things going, HeavenlyLilz?

Any news from him?

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HeavenlyLilz
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posted August 29, 2013 01:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for HeavenlyLilz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, since then he hasn't sent any responses. I did leave him a voicemail on his extension that was straight to the point and honest and giving him my number. Letting him know that I get he's busy and I understand and that I am intrested in getting to know him if he wasn't aware and let him know it was okay to call me or text. That was on Tuesday night. He hasn't called, or messaged me at work. Today I came into work with a message/notification that he was requesting to add me to his friend section instead of work section in office chat.

I'm not going to stress myself over it and I do plan on not contacting him again. I feel like I've let him know now there is no miscommunication. I think I've chased enough. I don't know how Taurus men like it, but I am going to sit back and do what I was doing before I met him, focus on me and what I am doing.

Nothing else I can do right?

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HeavenlyLilz
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posted August 30, 2013 03:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for HeavenlyLilz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*****UPDATE:

So I called him at work and let him know I was aout to grab lunch and wanted to know if he wanted to come with. He said that he had to skip lunch and he was pretty busy but he could talk to me.

He said that we may have felt a connection, when we were getting to know each other and things were on the way of progression and what have you. He had to take a step back and he realized he was feeling giddy and he had to step back and he realized some things.

We work together (same company, different floors, barley any contact) that the majority of office romances that start don't last or end badly. He said that from his experiences and his failures that he's dated at work before and it ended bad. Things were awkward. He's also seen horror stories at our company and he wants to try to stay away from it.

He asked me my views on it and if I have had office relationships. I as long as the two people involved are mature then there shouldn't be a problem. I said that I try not to box myself in by staying away from situations because you never know the thing you are avoiding might be what you need.

He said that's kind of like rolling dice. I said not really. You take a chance on people you have a connection with. He got busy and I said I'd let him go and he said we'd talk more later. (Don't believe that). I said yeah you have my number now. He said yeah and it ends is 56XX. (Hmm?)

So I kind of have clouser and got an outcome. I'm not confused, maybe a few questions. I didn't want to sit there and try to convince him why I am an awsome catch and am worth an office love connection, so I didn't.

My questions are:

Do you believe that's the real story or just a cop out?

Is there a way to convince him otherwise?

What do you guys think of this situation. What should I do now? (Yeah move on)

Why did he have my number kind of memorized, has he been thinking about it and me?

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hikoro
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posted August 31, 2013 06:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hikoro     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
so...you left him a voicemail message with your number...
he didnt call...
and after that, instead of waiting for him to make a move.... you called him (again) to grab lunch....?

>_<

re-read single cancer's posts, esp. "My advice, do your own thing and don't chase him."

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SDragon
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posted August 31, 2013 08:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SDragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I believe he's probably telling the truth.

Do your own thing and if it was meant to be, it'll come back to you in the end.

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Hera
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posted September 01, 2013 01:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I agree. It sounds like the Bull took a step back and pragmatically listed all the things against.

It has happened to me too, because the Bull I fancied was long distance. For my over-idealistic and epic view on love, it was not an issue because love conquers all and I truly believed he was IT. For him, though, it was the why it could never work. I still got him though, but I gave him a lot of time and space to change his mind. And I was consistent about him.

Good luck!

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Hera
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posted September 01, 2013 01:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
May I ask how old you are, SDragon? I haven't seen many young Bulls that are so self-aware, it usually comes after trial and error.

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SDragon
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posted September 01, 2013 08:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SDragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Hera, I'm still 34 years young, and 11 life cycles old

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Hera
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posted September 01, 2013 12:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It shows. In a good way, I mean.

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HeavenlyLilz
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posted September 01, 2013 03:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for HeavenlyLilz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Thank you all for the advice, I appreciate it. I know I should stop contacting him and I plan to. I also plan on giving him a lot of space. I agree if it's meant to be it will be but sometimes I think destiny or fate needs a helping hand. LOL.

Hera, how were you consistent? I don't see a way to be consistent in my situation. Our paths rarely cross we work different floors and completely different departments.

I also don't want to crowd him or make it seem as if I'm trying to change his mind.

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