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AqMoon
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posted September 30, 2013 12:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not sure whether i should write this here or not.Lately I've been very confused about a Gemini man who i'm not even interested in who is giving off some vibes and signs.While yes i'm not interested i find that his image is being constantly pushed into my head if only so that i can try and figure out exactly why he's been doing what he's doing?
I'm not great at reading signs...so it's all lost on me.

Well where to start...from the start about oh a good 2 1/2 years ago i first met him at my place of work,we don't work together he's the business professional in what looks to be his early 50's and i clean his workplace at night.So we're completely different animals at the work place where as he is the high and mighty eagle i'm the earth worm.He initiated contact first and asked for my name and so i gave him it and didn't bother asking his name back i couldn't care less.It didn't signal anything it came off as just a curious mind wanting to exchange a name.So time passes by and the greetings get more frequent...i've avoided taking his can out on days he works late so i skip him and wait till he's gone and so then he starts chasing after me and throws his own trash out.That should have been the first sign he's literally chasing after me.The next time he asked me about not seeing me early and i actually told him that it was because i get uncomfortable around a large amount of people,didn't seem to get a reaction out of him he sort of walked away didn't think of it at the time but then again why ask me if you haven't been noticing that i'm not around?

A few months pass by and one night while working late he packs up and leaves...so i go in and do my thing to turn around and have him stand right there and say "i caught you" and i ran out of there as fast as i could and as gracefully with a pretend smile and laugh in my throat.The next week after that a few co-workers and him were working late and he saw me yells my name out asks how i'm doing in front of everyone,half of them looked like they were hit with a train the other half had their jaws on the ground.After months of keeping my identity a secret most of them were surprised that he knew what it was let alone that someone in the sorted place actually knew something about me.

{very private person}

Next day i had a few people ask me if this >>>>>> was my name i said yes and half of them weren't even in hearing distance the previous day so gossip in the work place.I got asked to work mornings For a month then one day i ran into him a good 4 or 5 times each in the mens loo,which he replied what's going on your popping up everywhere today.

Moving on.

A good year passes by and were at 2012 now,didn't see him much that year but a few several isolated nights here and there and each time he's asked where i've been and why i haven't been coming in early anymore.

This year in June i started making it into his workplace earlier...he took notice and about a month ago he made his move or at least i think he did.I ran into him one night in august he was late at work so i asked oh your working late he responds that's how it is sometimes.He tells me he's about to leave then walks into the kitchen 30 minutes later and says his goodbyes..i thought he already left.He's about to leave i could feel it until he stops,asks me if i drink coffee to which i replied no considering i'm a green tea freak.Says nothing else walks out sort of disappointed now can i just ask was that meant to be an offer for a coffee date? because i took the question how he asked it and i gave him a simple response.

A week ago i ran into him again and he asked how i was and i replied...i'm fine.So i ask him and absolutely nothing which didn't bother me one iota considering i didn't think i did anything wrong.If he wasn't answering that's his issue,he was cold as ice yet i've no clue why? Then right after he asks me what my plans are for the weekend? I thought light-bulb why does he care? especially if he can't even answer if he is alright fine or not.Why would i tell him?

Haven't seen him since.

My question is despite being hot and cold and what not...why is this man so confusing? If he wanted to ask me out why not ask me out on a date i would have said no it would be done! Yet then again i don't honestly know if he was asking me out on a date!

Internally confused!!! some help and sorry for the rant.

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AngelicTaurus
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posted September 30, 2013 03:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AngelicTaurus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You are not interested in him.

So there are 2 options

1. He doesn't bother now as he knows you're not interested.

2. He's never been interested in you in the first place with

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Odette
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posted October 01, 2013 01:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He is flirting with you.
I don't think he is hot and cold *shrug*

He thinks you are sexually attractive (I am assuming this is the case since men are more visual and since he doesn't actually know much about you, other than the way you look).. so he is just flirting - because it feels good to flirt with attractive women.

I don't know if he wants to take it further.. but since you don't actually like him that way - maybe it's best that he doesn't take it further.

If you are considering this purely because you like his pay-check (and you're thinking.. well if he likes me, why not?)... Honestly... I wouldn't go there.
I don't think it's worth it.
If you don't like him - just leave well enough alone.
There are other men out there with a good job. He's not the only one.

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AqMoon
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posted October 01, 2013 10:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
odette~I'm a guy.

But thanks for the advice hence why i'm not really interested if the case is that he is and it seems like he is.

thanks to the above poster as well~put thing's in perspective.

I must say that i felt he was going hot and cold the last time i saw him...i guess maybe it was a you had to be there to understand moment.

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AqMoon
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posted October 01, 2013 10:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
odette~I'm a guy.

But thanks for the advice hence why i'm not really interested if the case is that he is and it seems like he is.

thanks to the above poster as well~put thing's in perspective.

I must say that i felt he was going hot and cold the last time i saw him...i guess maybe it was a you had to be there to understand moment.

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Odette
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posted October 04, 2013 09:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh Ok!! Well is it possible he is just hiding the fact that he is gay?
Do you know if he is definitely gay?

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AqMoon
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posted October 05, 2013 01:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
Oh Ok!! Well is it possible he is just hiding the fact that he is gay?
Do you know if he is definitely gay?

I have no clue.

He has pictures of grown up kids older than me they have his features...seems very metrosexual though most straight men are now a days.I've no clue...i've told myself the next time i see him i'm going to just flat out as him.

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sugarflapjacks
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posted October 05, 2013 06:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by AqMoon:
I have no clue.

He has pictures of grown up kids older than me they have his features...seems very metrosexual though most straight men are now a days.I've no clue...i've told myself the next time i see him i'm going to just flat out as him.


Yes, as a female, I would definitely think like Odette said that he is flirting. But since you are male, it's hard to tell without asking him. But I think you should wait to ask him that until he approaches you again because he obviously makes you uncomfortable. If he never bothers you again, then I would just let it go.

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Mystic Melody
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posted October 08, 2013 03:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You can have energy connections with someone who you are not ultimately attracted to in a sexual way. The energy from his side is connecting to your Pluto or something and he feels obsessed and confused. I don't mean confused sexually, I mean because the age difference is not appropriate in his eyes or the economic difference isn't appropriate in his eyes etc. It could be anything. Just confused by the strength of the connection in general and you are aware of the energy too, but not from his side. Your Pluto might feel his Mars being drawn to you... and sense the power you have over him.... while his Mars/sexuality is captivated by your Pluto.

That is my understanding at this point anyway.

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AqMoon
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posted October 08, 2013 04:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
update~

I've left a note on his desk telling him i need to talk to him,and i'm going to flat out ask him directly what he wants and see what the hell it is.

I've to see him in a good 2 hours...and i'm wondering now if he'll show up? or not?

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sugarflapjacks
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posted October 08, 2013 05:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don't mean to change the subject, but dammit Mystic, you throw in a whole different perspective LOL

Isn't sexual energy different from other energy? I mean, is it possible that a person can not distinguish a sexual vibe vs. a non-sexual vibe?

AqMoon, can you?

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AqMoon
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posted October 08, 2013 10:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know how to distinguish one...besides the point i quit so i don't have to worry about any of it anymore.

thank you all for the replies and for your responses it was nice of you.

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Mystic Melody
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posted October 08, 2013 10:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sugar, I was guessing that the Gemini was indeed attracted to Aqua moon and when I said I didn't mean he was confused sexually, I meant that I wasn't referring to the man wondering about whether he was or should be attracted to another man (because someone else mentioned that earlier). I was clarifying that he could have just been wondering why he liked Aqua when Aqua was "too young for him anyway" or because he was (wild guesses for example purpose only) someone who valued money and financial status so he was confused as to why he was attracted to someone who was working a lower socio-economic class job. Stuff like that... confused that he was attracted so strongly to someone he didn't even know that well... or maybe he wasn't single... etc.

Aqua, did he respond to the note? Is that why you quit? Are you upset and don't want to discuss it?

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AqMoon
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posted October 09, 2013 02:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He never did...left it there i disposed of it tonight.

Being honest i quit because of him but also because i dislike the job i had anyways so it was 50/50.

Complained as well and although it wasn't about the letter the entire floor got complained about lack of hoovering and dusting and every inch was needed to be cleaned.So i quit.

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Mystic Melody
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posted October 09, 2013 08:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When stuff like that happens, I like to think that we are meant to be somewhere else and that we'll be led there in time. It's a tough "in between" time, but I guess it's tough when we are there and "in it" too.

Good luck, Aqua. Welcome to Lindaland and Soul Unions.

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AqMoon
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posted October 09, 2013 02:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AqMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks MM

I've always been able to land on my feet i'm a Leo asc i've tons of lives left.

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AriesLilith
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posted October 09, 2013 05:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
At first I've thought that the OP was a woman, but whether you are a man or a woman, the idea I've got from your post was that you seem a bit cold/distant and he seemed friendly (whether he was interested in you or not), so that it's normal that after a few friendly attempts, if the other person seemed cold or uninterested, then he or anyone would start to be distant as well. I mean, when someone seems friendly and asks a few questions like "how are you" or "do you drink coffee", if the other person just replies with single words and didn't bother to continue the conversation, it could be a bit awkward or uncomfortable for the person who initiates the conversations. But this is just my opinion of course, since I can only get information from what you wrote.

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Mystic Melody
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posted October 10, 2013 12:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
lol Aqua moon purrrrr! I mean ROAR!!

Aries Lilith. I think that's an excellent point!

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