posted August 09, 2013 11:12 PM            

I stumbled upon this forum a couple of weeks ago and I've been reading and learning about Astrology in general, and about Taurus men in particular.

I started dating a Taurus man back in February. I felt the connection right away and I guess he felt it too because as I was leaving and wishing good night, he said: "Listen, I've never done this, ask a girl on a second date right away, but I don't want to wait. I really like you and I want to ask you now, would you like to do something on Saturday?" It caught me really off guard, he was so direct! I said I would get back to him the following day after knowing my weekend plans.

Anyway, after the second date came a third, and so forth... and we were dating. I noticed though that as much as we enjoyed our company and doing things together, he kept to himself. He was so direct that first time and then, he wouldn't open up. He only opened up about his divorce after I figured it out through some of the things he had said and I asked him directly.

During the time we were dating he was going through child support and though at times he seemed colder, he trusted me enough to share how he felt and how things were going.

I thought, I will just listen and give him support by being there when he needs me. So, I'd cook and try to keep him distracted to not think about his drama.

He relocated a little over a month ago and now lives an hour and a half away, and started a new job three weeks ago. I haven't heard from him in three weeks... and I'm starting to believe it's over.

I'm disappointed because we were once having a conversation about how the guy I was dating before him just vanished off and he said he'd never do that, that he didn't want to waste my time or his, and that if he ever felt he wanted things to be over he would tell me directly.

But the truth is I still haven't heard from him, and I don't know what to think anymore. Is he gone for good? Does he just need time and space to sort things out and adjust to his new life? Out of sight, out of mind? Did I do or say something for him to just disappear?

I would really appreciate some advice. I'm a Capricorn by the way. Don't know if that will help.

posted August 10, 2013 01:16 AM            

I also don't know if most Taurus men, or the individuals who love Taurean males, would agree with me on some of the stuff I have to say about them.

I've noticed that when Taurua Sun Sign men are uncomfortable with someone getting too close to them, they pull back. I used to have really strong feelings for a classmate when we were 15. We reconnected a few years ago and it felt like heaven with the connection being intense. In the thick of this, he started pulling back from me. At times when I would question this, he would get grouchy with me and when I would be hurt by his reaction and pull away, he would come back and baby me until I couldn't be upset with him anymore. A lot of this went on until finally I accepted how I felt and realized I had to keep moving forward. If I left the decision up to him, we would probably be in a state of relationship purgatory right now.

I have two other sun sign Taurean males I'm close to, these guys with watery Moons and Gemini influences(both have Gemini Venus); they show they care by being tough to me, pulling back enough where I stand on my own, but making themselves available where if I have a question, they answer it.

They don't seem to like co-dependence particularly. If you are too clingy, they will pull away. I think if anything, it is important to show that you can handle your own, that you are your own person, but let your guy know that you are still around, hope he is well... kind of like leaving a trail of breadcrumbs, should he decide he wants to follow.

posted August 10, 2013 11:58 AM            

I've been giving him a lot of space, trying no to be clingy or anything like that So we'll see!

posted August 17, 2013 03:54 PM            

He was stressed before too,and would still stay in touch, but the moment he relocated, pufff, he just vanished.

posted August 17, 2013 04:24 PM            

Sun Taurus
Moon Taurus
Mercury Aries
Venus Gemini
Mars Leo
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Leo
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Libra
Lilith Cancer

Honestly, I don't know what this means... Like I said, I'm new with astrology... I just pulled the info after writing his birth date and place.

And here's mine:
Sun Capricorn
Moon Libra
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Scorpio
Mars Libra
Jupiter Sagittarius
Saturn Scorpio
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Pisces

posted August 17, 2013 04:54 PM            

I don't know if I would date another Taurus to be honest. The attraction is fantastic but our personalities couldn't be more different. I think you being more earthy, you have a better shot with him.

posted August 17, 2013 05:53 PM            

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I never felt like he let me in, though he said he opened up to me a good deal. I didn't feel us connecting on a deep level. Yes, he would share details about him, but never poured his heart out to me. I felt this disconnect from him

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That's how I feel. Though he's opened up enough to share about his past and I understand the pain he's gone through, he's keeping me at an arm's length, maybe afraid that I might do the same to him, and believe me I have no intention to. But yeah, he won't let me in...

And it's sad because we have a lot in common, and I guess me being a Capricorn helps me understand him, like you said, because we're both Earth signs, but he has really big trust issues and I don't know how to make him understand I don't want to hurt him... I was there trough his toughest day, not giving my opinion, but giving him support and he would turn to me... but I guess it wasn't enough for him to open up.

posted August 17, 2013 06:11 PM            

I'm wondering where his Sun/Moon are in Taurus - I have a yod in my Mercury Taurus that makes me a very complex individual (not that others aren't). If he has the same, it may explain his uncomfortableness about letting someone in.