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grayblue
Newflake

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From: Orlando, FL, USA
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posted October 27, 2013 01:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for grayblue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I went out with a Virgo. Since I haven't known him for too long, I don't know the other placements

Here is the story - we met online and talked on facebook and through texts for about 3 weeks until we finally met face to face. Our first date was at a food and wine festival. We walked around and talked for over 4 hours. When it started to get dark, he suggested we went to the movies. Everything was perfect but when it was time to say good bye... well, nothing.
But I heard Virgos take it slow, and it is nice to actually meet someone who is not trying to sleep with you right away.
We kept texting back and forth for the whole week. Then on Friday he came to see me play (right after work, sat there probably bored out of his mind for 2 hours until I was done) and then took me to get margaritas. Again, we talked until they kicked us out of the place. But again... nothing.
So I texted him and asked if he was not into me, that it was ok we could be friends. His reply was that this was unexpected and he didn't know what gave me that idea. Great right?
Ok so Saturday we text back and forth all day long and at night we meet to go to the theatre. I was getting tired of waiting so I kissed him. It was amazing! But then he goes on to telling me he just wanted to be friends.
He "didn't feel a spark" so it won't happen.


My Taurus self refuses to give up that easily. Especially because he is basically everything I've looked for in a man.

So, help! What do I do? Is there any hope?

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ash20
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posted October 27, 2013 08:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ash20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Maybe he felt like you were rushing things. I can't really give any advice since I'm having my own virgo guy trouble but i do know he told me once that i can't rush him into anything.

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Blackbird
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From: Texas
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posted October 28, 2013 03:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Blackbird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Venus and Mars in Virgo, and Capricorn Rising. Translation = uptight, slow to make a move or won't make one at all, shy / socially anxious, wallflower.

I warm up to people very slowly... weeks or months. And I don't really chase or pursue. I just stick around, like your acquaintance did by going to your play.

"Interest" is not an on/off switch. It's a spectrum. Some people need more time than others to feel interested, to let the feelings develop. So if he didn't seem interested at first, and you still like him, don't give up. Find more opportunities to spend time with him and see what he does.

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Everyone is unique. The chart is a template. Experiences matter too.
Sun signs don't tell the whole story. Every sign has good and bad traits.
Evolved, mature people will show more of the good traits of their signs.

My natal chart

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grayblue
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From: Orlando, FL, USA
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posted October 28, 2013 04:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for grayblue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you both! Maybe I shouldn't have jumped in and kissed him... hmmm... well, whatever at least I know he is a good kisser

So, I'll play his "friendship" game and see if he develops anything. I thought it was funny that he told me if he doesn't feel it by the third date he never will. Maybe I'll eventually prove him wrong. One thing we Tauruses have going for us is patience

(by the way, if someone has a different insight or anything to add please keep posting! I need help making him mine

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Odette
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posted October 29, 2013 08:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Does he have Capricorn in his chart? His behaviour sounds like something I would do.

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grayblue
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From: Orlando, FL, USA
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posted November 02, 2013 05:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for grayblue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't know much about his chart.

Well, "we" decided to be friends. I figured that way I can stay in his life and if it progresses to something, then great - but I have to assume, for heartache sake, that it won't.

The crazy thing is that this morning I wake up with him texting me and asking if I want to go out of town with him next weekend!

Am I wrong to think that he likes me? Or does he really just want a new friend?

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Mystic Melody
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posted November 04, 2013 09:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I mean, it sounds like he's not sure yet and figures if you are in that much of hurry you just want SOMEONE and not necessarily to get to know HIM. BUT, don't you want the person you spend the rest of your life with to be a friend? Why not let the relationship progress and keep telling him how much fun you are having and thank him for inviting you etc. and if it is meant to be, it will be. Enjoy the experience, your new friend who is obviously awesome, and just maybe... your love story you'll be telling your grandchildren one day. Deep breaths. You might as well get to know him before you put the shackles on and make sure he's is actually the one you want for life and not just someone who is close but REALLY meant to be with another... ya know?
Use that Taurus patience!

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