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ricanbeauty25
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From: miami, fl
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posted December 13, 2013 04:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've been seeing a Scorpio guy for a year now, I am Pisces. We hit it off great. We both wanted to take it slow, etc.

Recently we were talking and he said something about "friend". I asked, Is that what we are, friends?

He seemed flustered by my question but he did answer. He said that yes we are friends - very good friends. That he has not given me the girlfriend title yet. He said that its not that he wont, he just isnt ready for that commitment right now because he takes girlfriend/boyfriend very serious.

I appreciated that he was honest with me... but what am I to do next? I am head over heels for this guy, we are great together, and we vibe like we are in a relationship. We compromise, if I complain about something he adjusts and works on it... I mean, he shows his intentions... but his words say, no Im not ready.

Does this mean I move on?

HELP!

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Leolady82
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From: San Francisco, CA USA
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posted December 13, 2013 10:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh wow, that seems rough! A whole year? Are you demonstrative and affectionate with him, or reserved?

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Leolady82
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posted December 13, 2013 10:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leolady82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also, is there any possibility that he's seeing other women? Or do you not pry?

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Odette
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posted December 14, 2013 03:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do you have a lot of male friends?

My Pisces bff and other Pisces female friends - are surrounded by men. Any Scorpio would feel highly insecure about this.

He might be testing to make sure you're serious about him - and won't leave him for someone else.

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ricanbeauty25
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From: miami, fl
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posted December 16, 2013 04:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am affectionate and he knows clearly how I feel about him. I have been very clear from the start. I do have male friends - for some reason I always have, but I only have 2 close male friends that he has met both of them. I even cut back on hanging out with them alone because I wanted my Scorpio to know I was serious about him.

I have never asked if he is seeing other women, never pryed. I have just been forward of what I expect and keep my boundaries clear. I've been clear about how I feel of seeing other people at this point in time. I dont want to walk away because I feel a great connection with him... and even though the process has been extremely slow, we have had great progress with him opening up. Ive met his close friends, met his brother and sisters. Mom I dont get to meet until we are official. I just dont know --- is this just a nice way of saying he does want more OR are his words sincere that its just NOT RIGHT NOW.

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ricanbeauty25
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From: miami, fl
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posted December 16, 2013 04:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am affectionate and he knows clearly how I feel about him. I have been very clear from the start. I do have male friends - for some reason I always have, but I only have 2 close male friends that he has met both of them. I even cut back on hanging out with them alone because I wanted my Scorpio to know I was serious about him.

I have never asked if he is seeing other women, never pryed. I have just been forward of what I expect and keep my boundaries clear. I've been clear about how I feel of seeing other people at this point in time. I dont want to walk away because I feel a great connection with him... and even though the process has been extremely slow, we have had great progress with him opening up. Ive met his close friends, met his brother and sisters. Mom I dont get to meet until we are official. I just dont know --- is this just a nice way of saying he does want more OR are his words sincere that its just NOT RIGHT NOW.

Thank you all so much for replying - I REALLY NEED THE HELP!

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sugarflapjacks
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From: southeasternseaboard
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posted December 18, 2013 12:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@ricanbeauty25, I'm a piscean woman and I was in an exclusive relationship with a scorpion man for about four years. You guy doesn't sound ready for an exclusive relationship with you right now. It is your decision to continue "seeing" him under those terms.

In my experience, scorpio men are really quite kind and don't want to hurt people they care about, and he seems to care about you. I would just value what you have with him. Since you are "friends", then you are free to do as you please, date who you please. Don't build your world around him, don't be unthoughtful in how you treat/talk to him, keep the mutual respect but look at the facts (not the possibilities or potential) of his position in your life from his perspective.

He can make an excellent friend. I don't know if you two are intimate and that is something you will have to either put to a stop, or file it under FWB in order to detach.

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ricanbeauty25
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From: miami, fl
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posted December 18, 2013 12:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@sugarflapjacks

Thank you so much for the reply. Yes, we have been. But it has not been recently... a few months ago we both had 'I love you' moments. And actually from there we haven't been intimate. I figured it was because it made things more serious and he seemed not ready for that. So I guess this confirms it. He does care, I can tell its sincere.

Thank you very much!!!

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sugarflapjacks
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From: southeasternseaboard
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posted January 01, 2014 03:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@ricanbeauty25, you're welcome. Keep a cool head, stick to your decision and remain respectful of yourself, him and where you both stand in this relationship. Don't let anyone or anything pressure you or undermine your friendship with him. I believe things will happen naturally for the good when you truly accept what you both value in each other. It will be very powerful bond.

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