posted February 07, 2014 03:22 AM            

Im a taurus sun/cap moon/gem venus been friends with aqua sun/pisces moon/aqua venus for about 8 mths now.

We r both bi (he's still figuring himself out) yet he chased me at the beginning wanting to be my friend and hang out and was so clingy and interested and flirty. We became intimate and he backed off for a few weeks, and became moody, grumpy and would always pay me out and make fun of me.

He eventually went back to normal and again got hot and again became intimate and boom, distance again. Each time we become intimate we get a little closer and he becomes more relaxed and less of a robot when together.

This happened a few times but he would still send me mean msgs when in distant mode and get moody if i was hanging out with someone else. Also become possessive and jealous.

I started become less of a lap dog and started not taking his rubbish and he'd seemed to like that i stood up for myself, so he got hot and closer again. I told him i was sick of being treated like crap and to stop it. He went away for a 2 week holiday and came back and was soooo hot and wanted to hang and introduced me to his friends and was calling me every morning and texting me at work and saying goodnight, then wanted to stay over again.

I said to him, every time we get intimate you change and can't handle it. U go stupid and nasty and mean. He said he wouldn't be mean or nasty and he'd be ok.
I said that if you do turn into an a$$h0le then the friendships over cause i can't take ur crap. He said he wouldn't.

So we got intimate and he was much more lovey dove and we were closer than ever. next day he slowly gets cold, only one text, then progressively gets colder and no msgs. Its been nearly 2 weeks and he hasn't texted me at all. I sent I'm a msg asking how he was and he asked "who is tho" i told him me and he said "oh." He had deleted me from his phone lol He has done this in the sat then readied me every time he got hot again.

I saw him at work and he was in quiet mode, i casually talked to him ignoring his distance and he seemed like he was putting on a "idc" attitude so i said i leave you be now and he started asking questions and seemed interested.

That night i made a post on fb that I was out with some mates (they aren't gay) and he deleted me from fb. He has deleted me 4 times in the past and readded. Like he can't handle seeing what I'm up to when he's in cold mode.

Anyway - do i leave him be, text him, I'm not sure where to go from here...when he came back from his holidayntho he was soooo nice and not nasty. Its like he's changed. Also normally he would have sent a nasty or mean msg while he was in cold mode but he has not - do u think he listened to what i said about not turning into an a$$h0le and is trying to stay away not to be nasty and over his cold mode?

posted February 07, 2014 12:30 PM            

So the relevant question is, knowing this, is this what you really want to deal with?

posted February 08, 2014 09:21 AM            

i did see him at work and he was a little more friendly and making excuses to be around me, but I kept aloof. I did break once and acted like i card and asked him a few questions and he saw my weakness and starting getting nasty and mean. I ended up walking away and saying that i wouldn't talk to him if he was going to insult me.

He ended up following me and saying "I'm sorry i offended you" and was normal for a bit...

He obviously doesn't want me to leave him but he has so much of his own rubbish to sort out and I'm the punching bag cause he knows ill take it and still be there for him.

Why do I hang on to him? And you're right - hes def not ready for a relationship. I honestly just wanna be his friend cause he's amazing as a friend but sucky as a lover lol

posted February 15, 2014 08:56 AM            

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Originally posted by astrodood:
thanks for your advice

He obviously doesn't want me to leave him but he has so much of his own rubbish to sort out and I'm the punching bag cause he knows ill take it and still be there for him.

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