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Topic: The three stages of love
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Hera Moderator Posts: 8553 From: Jupiter Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 06, 2014 03:37 PM
"Love has three stages. First you have to learn to love yourself, because only if you love yourself can you love the other. You have to love yourself so much that love starts overflowing. Perhaps that is where you are; you need the other. That is the second stage of love.Loving the other is a difficult job. Loving oneself is simple. Because the other need not fit with you, need not fulfill your expectations; the other may start power trips, ego trips, all kinds of numbers. And you will need love enough not to be dominated, not to be destroyed by the other; otherwise, the other always destroys it. Jean-Paul Sartre is not absolutely wrong when he says the other is hell. Alone you can be silent, peaceful. With the other everything becomes difficult, everything becomes a conflict. The very presence of the other makes demands on you. You have to be very compassionate, very kind, not to get caught into an intimate enmity; otherwise the other is going to become a hell to you. You have to be so loving that your love transforms the other, to such an extent that you can say the other is not hell. You have to be very articulate, very understanding. It is one of the greatest experiments in life. There is no other experiment which is bigger. You have to love in such a way that slowly, slowly it changes the other person, and the other person starts dropping the effort to dominate, the effort to manipulate. It all depends on your love. In each case you should remember that you have taken the step. It is your experiment, and you have to be grateful to the other that he is participating in your experiment. If you want your experiment to be successful, then you have to go on loving in spite of the other, not bothering about small things. Only when you can love the other person to such an extent that it becomes a transformation in him or in her does the third stage of love arrive. Then it is not a question of two persons loving each other; then it is love which engulfs two persons and the two persons become, in a certain deeper sense, one whole." Osho ------------------ Knowflake and newflake birthday database! Join in! This girl is on FIRE Venus's playground Sandpaper kisses on a cheek or a chin That is the way for a day to begin. Sandpaper kisses, a cuddle and a purr I have an alarm clock that's covered in fur! IP: Logged |
SDragon Knowflake Posts: 204 From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Registered: Sep 2012
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posted February 08, 2014 05:38 PM
quote: Originally posted by Hera: "Love has three stages. First you have to learn to love yourself, because only if you love yourself can you love the other. You have to love yourself so much that love starts overflowing. Perhaps that is where you are; you need the other. That is the second stage of love.Loving the other is a difficult job. Loving oneself is simple. Because the other need not fit with you, need not fulfill your expectations; the other may start power trips, ego trips, all kinds of numbers. And you will need love enough not to be dominated, not to be destroyed by the other; otherwise, the other always destroys it. Jean-Paul Sartre is not absolutely wrong when he says the other is hell. Alone you can be silent, peaceful. With the other everything becomes difficult, everything becomes a conflict. The very presence of the other makes demands on you. You have to be very compassionate, very kind, not to get caught into an intimate enmity; otherwise the other is going to become a hell to you. You have to be so loving that your love transforms the other, to such an extent that you can say the other is not hell. You have to be very articulate, very understanding. It is one of the greatest experiments in life. There is no other experiment which is bigger. You have to love in such a way that slowly, slowly it changes the other person, and the other person starts dropping the effort to dominate, the effort to manipulate. It all depends on your love. In each case you should remember that you have taken the step. It is your experiment, and you have to be grateful to the other that he is participating in your experiment. If you want your experiment to be successful, then you have to go on loving in spite of the other, not bothering about small things. Only when you can love the other person to such an extent that it becomes a transformation in him or in her does the third stage of love arrive. Then it is not a question of two persons loving each other; then it is love which engulfs two persons and the two persons become, in a certain deeper sense, one whole." Osho
Thank you so much - synchronicity at it's finest. IP: Logged |
Hera Moderator Posts: 8553 From: Jupiter Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 08, 2014 08:03 PM
Always working its magic. Welcome back, SDragon, hope everything is going well on your side of the rainbow!------------------ Knowflake and newflake birthday database! Join in! This girl is on FIRE Venus's playground Sandpaper kisses on a cheek or a chin That is the way for a day to begin. Sandpaper kisses, a cuddle and a purr I have an alarm clock that's covered in fur! IP: Logged |
Karmic Soul Knowflake Posts: 134 From: Registered: Aug 2012
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posted February 08, 2014 09:11 PM
That is beautiful. I'm also a big fan of synchronicity. Very inspiring. ------------------ Virgo Sun/Aries Moon/Libra Mercury/Scorpio Venus/Taurus Mars/Virgo ASC IP: Logged |
SDragon Knowflake Posts: 204 From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Registered: Sep 2012
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posted February 09, 2014 09:31 AM
quote: Originally posted by Hera: Always working its magic. Welcome back, SDragon, hope everything is going well on your side of the rainbow!
Thank you Hera, everything is grand =) IP: Logged |
olgatheo Knowflake Posts: 316 From: Pluto Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 15, 2014 06:54 AM
Francis of Assisi Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon. Where there is doubt, faith. Where there is despair, hope. Where there is darkness, light. Where there is sadness, joy. O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console; to be understood, as to understand; to be loved, as to love. For it is in giving that we receive. It is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life. Amen. Love this !!!! Its true love can eliminate karma, thats what Linda Believed!
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