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Topic: Age-Gap Relationships
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Voix_de_la_Mer Moderator Posts: 3028 From: Sound Registered: Aug 2011
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posted November 27, 2020 06:24 AM
Hi everyone, I was hoping to get a discourse going on age-gap relationships, in particular how people work through concerns about the future. I am in one, there are 17 years between myself and my partner (I am the younger party). Recently I have been getting a bit morose about the thought that we will not grow old together. That when he retires, I will still be carving a career. And when I retire, he could be dead, close to dying or with health problems One good thing about it is that I will likely still be relatively fit and able to care for him when he is elderly, rather than us both becoming infirm at the same time and having to rely on family or services. But still, I want him with me when I am close to passing into the next form. I know I could look at this more metaphysically or spiritually, but despite the spiritual connection between us, there is a very solid bodily attachment (you should see the synastry) and it is a very tactile relationship, so the thought of not having his physical presence while I am still here in a body is quite destabilising. Have you had concerns like this? And how have you worked through them? IP: Logged |
Eternal Energy Knowflake Posts: 288 From: Registered: May 2020
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posted November 27, 2020 07:34 AM
My relationships, though few, always have an age difference (with some exceptions), as for some reason I am always attracted to men older than me. I know how you feel. I have felt it too, but...You can never know who leaves first. Thank him for being together every day. Love him with all your heart. Show him how much you care for him. And pray this love you two have together to last until the end. I really wish all the best for you. There is nothing greater than seeing people loving each other... IP: Logged |
Voix_de_la_Mer Moderator Posts: 3028 From: Sound Registered: Aug 2011
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posted November 27, 2020 07:48 AM
Thank you for your lovely post Eternal Energy (cool name btw). I'm similar. I haven't found men my own age attractive since my mid twenties (38 now). But I've never had a gap before that would likely cut the future short by such a margin. Uch, I know. I could go first. Could get hit by a bus tomorrow, or any manner of calamities I guess. So yes, I guess one way to deal with it is just to love him and appreciate him like crazy while I have him (business as usual then ) I think it's seeing my grandparents grow old together that's making me melancholy. They are together nearly 70 years and are so in tune and symbiotic, and take on the perils and fears of old age together. They will be one of those couples who die within a short time of each other, I'm sure of it. IP: Logged |
Eternal Energy Knowflake Posts: 288 From: Registered: May 2020
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posted November 27, 2020 08:30 AM
Don't worry dear...Everything's going to be alright...Love every moment you two spend together. Stand by him. I see no other way... And everything's going to be alright.
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Voix_de_la_Mer Moderator Posts: 3028 From: Sound Registered: Aug 2011
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posted November 27, 2020 08:51 AM
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 134647 From: Your Friendly Neighborhood Juris Doctorate. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 27, 2020 12:39 PM
Quit expecting him to be infirm, because 80 is the new 50. Young people die all the time. Accidents are one of the leading causes of death. So, forget about death, and enjoy living together. IP: Logged |
GalacticCoreExplosion Knowflake Posts: 1801 From: Somewhere Registered: Sep 2019
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posted November 27, 2020 03:56 PM
quote: Originally posted by Eternal Energy: Don't worry dear...Everything's going to be alright...Love every moment you two spend together. Stand by him. I see no other way... And everything's going to be alright.
Yeah Voix, take it from a fellow Aqua Sun: http://youtu.be/OD3F7J2PeYU IP: Logged |
MoonMystic Knowflake Posts: 2983 From: Oceanic Sands Registered: Nov 2016
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posted November 27, 2020 08:14 PM
Voix_de_la_Mer, Age is a state of mind. I've known people in their 80s and above that were so full of life. Sharp minds too. I did know a lady I befriended from work, we lost touch for a few months, she called to invite me to her wedding. She was 27 and he was 46. Actually, her mother had a second husband was about 39 when she married her then 67 year old husband. I knew this friend's family. They loved the stepdad. I think she, (my friend) modeled herself like her mother, as for the May/Dec romance. Voix_de_la_Mer, it will be okay. Enjoy your common grounds and just love love love strongly!
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Voix_de_la_Mer Moderator Posts: 3028 From: Sound Registered: Aug 2011
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posted November 28, 2020 04:35 AM
Thank you for your kind and encouraging thoughts everyone IP: Logged |