posted February 22, 2010 05:43 PM         

This is the synastry between myself and my boyfriend. Just to sketch the situation: I do love him, even though I can be rather indifferent about admitting it and at first I even fought against it. He is the type that attracts and repels, perhaps on purpose I don't know, but he tends to do it with me.

His alcoholism is the biggest issue between us. When he's sober he is accepting and understanding, but when he drank, he simply accuses me of cheating, lying, he becomes paranoid (one night he even barged in, stormed to the bedroom to see if there was someone in there) and has this vile tendency to aggrevate me.

Sadly enough, I have to say, it works.

We always end up fighting intensely, and because he aggrevates me (and note my Pluto square Mars - some people really should know better) sometimes it does get physical too. And I'm sure there's no need for me to explain just how physical it can get when you aggrevate a Pluto square Mars...

I end up either forcing him to bed or kicking him out, thinking to myself this would be the last time, but the next day, when he's sober and expresses honest regret, I always forgive him again.

To be honest, I am sick and tired of it. I know that our fights always result from his drinking and I already begged him a thousand times to stop drinking. He's an alcoholic so of course that isn't easy for him... He knows the fights are a result from his drinking and he claims - and I have no reason not to believe him - that he truly loves me, but he still won't simply give up the drink. And if I keep on bringing him back in (mostly because I know if I don't he'll be harassing me until I do, calling me, ringing the doorbell, not giving up... ) I know the fights are not going to end.

So... Synastry and Composite. Anyone see something I am missing?

posted March 01, 2010 01:08 PM         

There is love between you and him:
Both Venus are in trine - true love
His Venus trine your Neptune - blind and romantic love
Your Moon trine his Pluto - passionate love
Your Venus and Neptune trine his Chiron - he is some kind of medicine for you. He is your healer even if he drinks.
Both of you are some kind of karmic partners: his NN conjunction your Sun and Saturn; his NN in your 12th, house of past life - also karmic
Your NN in conjunction with his POF in his 7th house. All that shows that maybe he was some kind of healer for you in the past life: direction your 12th and 6th. Now you should be his healer.

I always look 1st and 7th house, most important houses in Synastry:
Your Saturn and Sun in his 1st: it shows that you want one stable relationship with him.
His Mars, Lillith and Vertex in your 7th: he loves you but this Mars is a bit wild and violent.
Your NN and Lillith in conjunction with his POF: he enjoys being with you.
His Mars opposition your Venus and
His Moon square your Mars: somebody told it is some kind of wild sex. In each case sexually you are very attractive to each other.
There is T-square from his Saturn and Uranus with your Pluto and Mars: he could be violent sometimes.
His DC (partnership) in your 5th (love) and his AC in your 11th: here are signs of love and friendship at the same time.

I am not sure that you will stay together for ever because of those very hard aspects but Venus in 11th (in Composite) shows: whatever happens, you will always think of each other.

Good luck,
B.

posted March 01, 2010 08:09 PM         

I have to admit though, that somebody who told those aspects signify a wild kind of sex might be wrong. The sex is pretty normal here. I do enjoy it, but it isn't wild

The bit about who's the healer: I think we're both kind of healers to each other. I do know he has a drinking problem, I'm not imagining it, and I try to help him deal with it as much as I can. Vice versa, he is there when I get a nervous breakdown and helps me through it.

It is the hard aspects I'm most worried about. From what I've seen, those can get very bad and to be honest, I really don't want to be around when they do. I'm actually terrified when we do fight. So if only I knew how to avoid instigating those hard aspects, I might be able to avoid them?

posted March 02, 2010 06:55 AM         

About sex, look: he is AC Scorpio (sex sign)
His Moon in Aries (I know that). I would better say: hot sex!

Here is your Natal Chart, first:

posted March 02, 2010 07:11 AM         

In your Natal Chart:
Ruler of your 7th (partner or husband), Mercury is in your 1st (ASC) and shows how important is he for you.
Your Mercury and the Moon (ruler of your 8th) are in opposition, means danger comes from the partner.
Now I see that you have Chiron in 7th (your partner is also your healer). The same Chiron has opposition with your Mercury and Uranus in the 1st. Chiron has also sextile with Amor (true love) and conjunction with the Moon.

In one Forum one member (she is half-Astrologer) wrote to me: she is going to die in the hands of her husband.
We all are going to die one day, but the question is when?
Enjoy your life, don't argue with him and try to be diplomatic as much as possible. He is not always drunk.
Funny here: you have Venus conjunction Neptune: somebody like him was your Destiny.

B.

posted March 02, 2010 11:41 PM         

I wouldn't say hot sex either. I suppose with my Mars in Capricorn I'm a bit sober about sex. Simple does it for me, but he wants more than that, even though he delivers exactly what I want. He has sex on his mind day in day out, I can't even touch him or he gets horny... and there I am, thinking to myself "there surely is more to life than sex, isn't there?"

posted March 04, 2010 04:08 AM         

B.