Lindaland
  Personal Readings
  Knowing how to parent your child according to their placements

Post New Topic  Post A Reply
profile | register | preferences | faq

UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! next newest topic | next oldest topic
Author Topic:   Knowing how to parent your child according to their placements
ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 01:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have two beautiful children, my daughter is 7 and she is a Leo sun and my son is 5 and he is a cancer sun. I am wondering what aspects would we look at in order to find out what they need from me as a mom. In addition, I feel a bit of a disconnect with my daughter but not so much with my son. I'm wondering if there is something in our placements that could cause opposition. I expect more from her and don't have nearly as much patience with her. There is def a difference between my reactions to each of them and I feel like I need to pinpoint the issue...or my issue...before it becomes a problem. What should I look for?

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 02:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here is the chart for me and my daughter. She is in the outside.

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 02:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here is the chart for me and my son. He is on the outside

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 02:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here is the chart for me and my son. He is on the outside

IP: Logged

starmoon
Knowflake

Posts: 943
From:
Registered: Sep 2011

posted November 26, 2013 09:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for starmoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your own placements are more fiery and assertive than either of your kids – they both have more sensitive placements than you, especially your son. And they both have quieter mercury signs, not prone to 'talking it out,' but rather holding back a bit. Perhaps you sense his sensitivity and that is why you are less hard on him? He has a really dreamy/sensitive moon, and coupled with his cancer placements he probably is more of a gentle sort. The first thing I saw in your daughters chart was her opposition of sun and moon – that leads to a ‘who am I’ dilemma that can last throughout life. It’s not a bad placement, just shows internal struggles for her that might be the cause of the inability to get close. Plus, her moon in Aqua is a moon not known for closeness and emotional bonding. I would start first by studying their individual natal charts before comparing them to yours. Get a better sense of who they are as individual through the natal(s) and then look at what they need. For example your son, being more sensitive, might not respond to harsh criticism, may want encouragement in the arts, etc. while your daughter may need more friendship building opportunities or outlets for expression, etc.

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 11:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by starmoon:
Your own placements are more fiery and assertive than either of your kids – they both have more sensitive placements than you, especially your son. And they both have quieter mercury signs, not prone to 'talking it out,' but rather holding back a bit. Perhaps you sense his sensitivity and that is why you are less hard on him? He has a really dreamy/sensitive moon, and coupled with his cancer placements he probably is more of a gentle sort. The first thing I saw in your daughters chart was her opposition of sun and moon – that leads to a ‘who am I’ dilemma that can last throughout life. It’s not a bad placement, just shows internal struggles for her that might be the cause of the inability to get close. Plus, her moon in Aqua is a moon not known for closeness and emotional bonding. I would start first by studying their individual natal charts before comparing them to yours. Get a better sense of who they are as individual through the natal(s) and then look at what they need. For example your son, being more sensitive, might not respond to harsh criticism, may want encouragement in the arts, etc. while your daughter may need more friendship building opportunities or outlets for expression, etc.

Nail.right.on.the.head! I DO realize that my son is sensitive...but he keeps a tough guy persona for others (leo asc mask?) oh but he shows me his true nature and I am the only one that can calm his mood swing. We have a very strong connection. It's been more rough with my daughter. I've assumed her sensitivity is just being dramatic, but I'm obviously very wrong. She does need a lot of social outlets and she's a chatty Kathy and I don't know why but it takes absolutely everything in me to keep from getting annoyed by her constant chatter. I've always been a strong individual, a leader, I never went with the crowd and from a young age I always had my own agenda and my own passions to pursue and I always met my responsibilities with strategy and fervor. My daughter has always seemed like she needed someone to prompt or lead her and I admit I have experienced some irritation over this because I expect her to be more assertive...or "stronger" in a sense. I guess in a sense I have been expecting her to be more like me...but the truth is she isn't and she needs me to understand who she is. I can't give her what she needs until I do understand her better. I certainly don't want to add to the sun opposition placement you mentioned. I don't want her to ever think I am disappointed in her. Any advice on what specifically I should look into to learn about her chart that might start me off in the right track?

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 11:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by starmoon:
Your own placements are more fiery and assertive than either of your kids – they both have more sensitive placements than you, especially your son. And they both have quieter mercury signs, not prone to 'talking it out,' but rather holding back a bit. Perhaps you sense his sensitivity and that is why you are less hard on him? He has a really dreamy/sensitive moon, and coupled with his cancer placements he probably is more of a gentle sort. The first thing I saw in your daughters chart was her opposition of sun and moon – that leads to a ‘who am I’ dilemma that can last throughout life. It’s not a bad placement, just shows internal struggles for her that might be the cause of the inability to get close. Plus, her moon in Aqua is a moon not known for closeness and emotional bonding. I would start first by studying their individual natal charts before comparing them to yours. Get a better sense of who they are as individual through the natal(s) and then look at what they need. For example your son, being more sensitive, might not respond to harsh criticism, may want encouragement in the arts, etc. while your daughter may need more friendship building opportunities or outlets for expression, etc.

Nail.right.on.the.head! I DO realize that my son is sensitive...but he keeps a tough guy persona for others (leo asc mask?) oh but he shows me his true nature and I am the only one that can calm his mood swing. We have a very strong connection. It's been more rough with my daughter. I've assumed her sensitivity is just being dramatic, but I'm obviously very wrong. She does need a lot of social outlets and she's a chatty Kathy and I don't know why but it takes absolutely everything in me to keep from getting annoyed by her constant chatter. I've always been a strong individual, a leader, I never went with the crowd and from a young age I always had my own agenda and my own passions to pursue and I always met my responsibilities with strategy and fervor. My daughter has always seemed like she needed someone to prompt or lead her and I admit I have experienced some irritation over this because I expect her to be more assertive...or "stronger" in a sense. I guess in a sense I have been expecting her to be more like me...but the truth is she isn't and she needs me to understand who she is. I can't give her what she needs until I do understand her better. I certainly don't want to add to the sun opposition placement you mentioned. I don't want her to ever think I am disappointed in her. Any advice on what specifically I should look into to learn about her chart that might start me off in the right track?

IP: Logged

littlecloud
Moderator

Posts: 2331
From:
Registered: Nov 2010

posted November 26, 2013 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for littlecloud     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You need to post their natals.

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 03:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
You need to post their natals.

Here is my daughter

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 03:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
You need to post their natals.

Here is my son

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 26, 2013 03:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
You need to post their natals.

Here is my son

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 27, 2013 11:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Any advice based on the natal charts?

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 27, 2013 11:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Any advice based on the natal charts?

IP: Logged

littlecloud
Moderator

Posts: 2331
From:
Registered: Nov 2010

posted November 27, 2013 06:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for littlecloud     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'll have to come back to this. Not feeling all that great today. But your daughter is a tough cookie, you will have more difficulties with her.

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 27, 2013 11:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
I'll have to come back to this. Not feeling all that great today. But your daughter is a tough cookie, you will have more difficulties with her.

Thank you. I look forward to hearing your insight. Hope you get to feeling better soon.

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted November 27, 2013 11:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
I'll have to come back to this. Not feeling all that great today. But your daughter is a tough cookie, you will have more difficulties with her.

Thank you. I look forward to hearing your insight. Hope you get to feeling better soon.

IP: Logged

littlecloud
Moderator

Posts: 2331
From:
Registered: Nov 2010

posted November 28, 2013 02:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for littlecloud     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok so I didn't read everything thoroughly so I may end up repeating something here.. Firstly I think you need to be less hard on your daughter. Try to consistently show her attention and love. She sees that you baby her brother more and will take that as you loving him more. Spend time with her and be careful not to be critical. Bite your tongue!!!

I say this because she has Sun conjunct Saturn both apposed by the moon. She's going to come off as a hard-ass her entire life, but she's really sensitive. Moon/Saturn opposition or square indicates a harsh mother, one that withheld affection, even if YOU don't feel this way, she will. She will be very sensitive to everything that goes on around her, her relationship with you, her relationship with her brother, father and the connection that you share with them as well. She will compare and contrast. This aspect is very Karmic, if you don't ease it she will replicate with her own children.

She is the oldest and therefore you endow her with responsibility, don't forget she is also a child and to allow her to be that child. To be carefree and babied in her own way as well. Try to spend one on one time with her with something that she wants to do. Make it a small tradition that, I don't know...for example you color together every tuesday night, or put make-up on each other and dress up on sunday mornings or something. This will help her create that strong bond with you and help reaffirm that you do love and care for her.

While you do all this try not to dictate action, or criticize. If you get bossy she will take it as an indication that you don't think she can do things properly. That's the other pitfall here; that you will direct her so much she'll feel like she can never be 'grown up'. I have this moon position so I'll give you an example, my mother constantly micromanages me. If I'm in the kitchen about to cook or clean she'll start telling me what and how to do what I am already doing. It's incredibly frustrating.

Saturn has this way of dampening the spirits, raining on the parade. You can argue that you are being realistic and while that may in fact be true, sometimes you just want to celebrate and worry about the 'what if's' tomorrow. I know this is hard, but try to just celebrate the small things.

I think I could go on about this aspect forever. I have such a love/hate relationship with it. It's the one I fear giving my children. Since she is 7 some of this is already embedded in her and you cannot change it, but you can continue to try and work with her. I'll wait for you to read this and come back to it.

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted December 03, 2013 02:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
Ok so I didn't read everything thoroughly so I may end up repeating something here.. Firstly I think you need to be less hard on your daughter. Try to consistently show her attention and love. She sees that you baby her brother more and will take that as you loving him more. Spend time with her and be careful not to be critical. Bite your tongue!!!

I say this because she has Sun conjunct Saturn both apposed by the moon. She's going to come off as a hard-ass her entire life, but she's really sensitive. Moon/Saturn opposition or square indicates a harsh mother, one that withheld affection, even if YOU don't feel this way, she will. She will be very sensitive to everything that goes on around her, her relationship with you, her relationship with her brother, father and the connection that you share with them as well. She will compare and contrast. This aspect is very Karmic, if you don't ease it she will replicate with her own children.

She is the oldest and therefore you endow her with responsibility, don't forget she is also a child and to allow her to be that child. To be carefree and babied in her own way as well. Try to spend one on one time with her with something that she wants to do. Make it a small tradition that, I don't know...for example you color together every tuesday night, or put make-up on each other and dress up on sunday mornings or something. This will help her create that strong bond with you and help reaffirm that you do love and care for her.

While you do all this try not to dictate action, or criticize. If you get bossy she will take it as an indication that you don't think she can do things properly. That's the other pitfall here; that you will direct her so much she'll feel like she can never be 'grown up'. I have this moon position so I'll give you an example, my mother constantly micromanages me. If I'm in the kitchen about to cook or clean she'll start telling me what and how to do what I am already doing. It's incredibly frustrating.

Saturn has this way of dampening the spirits, raining on the parade. You can argue that you are being realistic and while that may in fact be true, sometimes you just want to celebrate and worry about the 'what if's' tomorrow. I know this is hard, but try to just celebrate the small things.

I think I could go on about this aspect forever. I have such a love/hate relationship with it. It's the one I fear giving my children. Since she is 7 some of this is already embedded in her and you cannot change it, but you can continue to try and work with her. I'll wait for you to read this and come back to it.


Oh my...this is all so true. And my mother was/is this way with me. I already saw the pattern there...I just have to figure out how to change it. Thank you for this advice. It gives me an insight from her point of view. I have to work on changing myself and meeting her needs. I don't want her to question herself for 30 years like I did and make major life decisions based on getting her moms approval like I did. what about my boy....anything important I should know there?

IP: Logged

ProudLeo
Knowflake

Posts: 180
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013

posted December 03, 2013 02:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProudLeo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
Ok so I didn't read everything thoroughly so I may end up repeating something here.. Firstly I think you need to be less hard on your daughter. Try to consistently show her attention and love. She sees that you baby her brother more and will take that as you loving him more. Spend time with her and be careful not to be critical. Bite your tongue!!!

I say this because she has Sun conjunct Saturn both apposed by the moon. She's going to come off as a hard-ass her entire life, but she's really sensitive. Moon/Saturn opposition or square indicates a harsh mother, one that withheld affection, even if YOU don't feel this way, she will. She will be very sensitive to everything that goes on around her, her relationship with you, her relationship with her brother, father and the connection that you share with them as well. She will compare and contrast. This aspect is very Karmic, if you don't ease it she will replicate with her own children.

She is the oldest and therefore you endow her with responsibility, don't forget she is also a child and to allow her to be that child. To be carefree and babied in her own way as well. Try to spend one on one time with her with something that she wants to do. Make it a small tradition that, I don't know...for example you color together every tuesday night, or put make-up on each other and dress up on sunday mornings or something. This will help her create that strong bond with you and help reaffirm that you do love and care for her.

While you do all this try not to dictate action, or criticize. If you get bossy she will take it as an indication that you don't think she can do things properly. That's the other pitfall here; that you will direct her so much she'll feel like she can never be 'grown up'. I have this moon position so I'll give you an example, my mother constantly micromanages me. If I'm in the kitchen about to cook or clean she'll start telling me what and how to do what I am already doing. It's incredibly frustrating.

Saturn has this way of dampening the spirits, raining on the parade. You can argue that you are being realistic and while that may in fact be true, sometimes you just want to celebrate and worry about the 'what if's' tomorrow. I know this is hard, but try to just celebrate the small things.

I think I could go on about this aspect forever. I have such a love/hate relationship with it. It's the one I fear giving my children. Since she is 7 some of this is already embedded in her and you cannot change it, but you can continue to try and work with her. I'll wait for you to read this and come back to it.


Oh my...this is all so true. And my mother was/is this way with me. I already saw the pattern there...I just have to figure out how to change it. Thank you for this advice. It gives me an insight from her point of view. I have to work on changing myself and meeting her needs. I don't want her to question herself for 30 years like I did and make major life decisions based on getting her moms approval like I did. what about my boy....anything important I should know there?

IP: Logged

All times are Eastern Standard Time

next newest topic | next oldest topic

Administrative Options: Close Topic | Archive/Move | Delete Topic
Post New Topic  Post A Reply
Hop to:

Contact Us | Linda-Goodman.com

Copyright 2000-2013

Powered by Infopop www.infopop.com © 2000
Ultimate Bulletin Board 5.46a