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posted March 25, 2014 04:46 AM            

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My love life hurts at this moment. I never really met a man I truly feel connected to. I always have to convince myself they are good for me or I am attracted to them. I ran into a Cancer man I had not seen since high school and we ended up chatting. He was working and I was on a date (I was bored to death) so we couldn’t talk too much but the chemistry was amazing. He left without saying good bye, but later a mutual friend came and inquired if my date was my BF (I said “God No”) and he said my Cancer friend was interested in catching up and if I was down he wanted me to have his number. (Why he didn’t ask himself, I never figured out) I texted him that night and he texted right back and before the end of the night asked me to dinner for a few nights later. Within the next 48 hours we texted each other over 400 times and talked on the phone 7. He wanted to buy me mani/pedis, clothes, wash my car…. I politely declined them all. But I did finally agree to meet him up a night early with his friends. We had an absolutely wonderful time! He told me he had only felt a connection like this 1 other time about 10 years ago. (we are both 34) He wanted to know everything about me (of course I kept stuff back) the more he knew the more awesome he thought I was. He wanted me to come home and watch a movie with him…. Spend the entire next day with him. I had to decline. I had family obligations and I had to protect my heart. He seemed so bummed. I couldn’t help start to trust he really was into me. I met up with him the next night. At dinner he asked me to move with him in October? When is it too early to get married? And if we could get and apartment together no? (we had a few drinks for I just blew it off) But when he started to drop the L word … I told him I wouldn’t take him seriously until he was sober and he looked me straight in the eye and did it again and I laughed. After that we went to a party, where it was all his friends plus his family  He introduced me to everyone as his girlfriend and I just smiled. I was on some sort of crazy high. I would normally be running for the hills. There was something so charming about it. The next place we went he even told the bartender we had been married for 8 years, just to make me laugh….. and I did. But I did get to the point where I needed some space. So while he was talking to some friends I told him I was so to watch the last few minutes of the game at the other side of the bar and HE SAID NO!!! So of course I did. When I did he did text me to come give him a kiss and then two more times and called me three. With some alcohol in me and everything else that had happened, I felt the need to assert my independents, so I didn’t move and motioned for him to come over to me. And his ***** switch flipped! When I went back over he had gotten the check and said he had spent like $300, so asked if I could help. I said sure, I had not brought enough cash (anyway, he and kept saying I would never pay for anything when I was with him….blah blah blah, but from the beginning i told I don;t date guys for their money) I offered to go to the ATM, he told me to forget it and we left. Went back to his place to watch a movie and he was a snippy ***** and I remained sweet and pie. Then this morning I got a text saying he wanted to just be friends because he couldn’t handle that I didn’t have enough money to pay a small bar bill. I said “Totally Cool. I will get you that $40.” But honestly I am hurt and totally confused!
I know what you are think…. Run from the unstable douche…. But he made me start to fall and I am not sure what I should do. Our compatibility chart said we were pretty great. The chemistry was crazy and I have never had a connection like that! It sounds so crazy and I am completely embarrassed but I miss him and I feel like I never existed to him and I am having trouble wrapping my head around the fact he is gone.

His

Sun Cancer 11.08
Ascendant Virgo 17.26
Moon Libra 22.45
Mercury Leo 7.02
Venus Gemini 26.42
Mars Gemini 5.24
Jupiter Leo 11.20
Saturn Virgo 9.33
Uranus Scorpio 17.08 R
Neptune Sagittarius 18.31 R
Pluto Libra 16.28
Lilith Leo 29.18
Asc node Virgo 10.12

II Libra 12.11
III Scorpio 11.49
IV Sagittarius 15.17
V Capricorn 19.23
VI Aquarius 20.29
VII Pisces 17.26
VIII Aries 12.11
IX Taurus 11.49
Midheaven Gemini 15.17
XI Cancer 19.23
XII Leo 20.29

Mine

Sun Capricorn 6.41 Ascendant Leo 4.12
Moon Taurus 12.54 Mercury Sagittarius 23.27
Venus Aquarius 7.44
Mars Virgo 13.26
Jupiter Virgo 10.15 R
Saturn Virgo 26.57
Uranus Scorpio 23.54
Neptune Sagittarius 20.50
Pluto Libra 21.35
Lilith Virgo 19.10
Asc node Virgo 0.38 Cancer 3.11

II Leo 24.20
III Virgo 18.58
IV Libra 20.07
V Scorpio 26.54
VI Capricorn 3.11
VII Aquarius 4.12
VIII Aquarius 24.20
IX Pisces 18.58
Midheaven Aries 20.07
XI Taurus 26.54
XII Cancer 3.11

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posted March 25, 2014 05:04 AM            

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Originally posted by lilred:
I know what you are think…. Run from the unstable douche…. But he made me start to fall and I am not sure what I should do

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Take your own advice, plus realise that the intensity of his interest, the outrageous commitment and neediness shown throughout your very first encounter marks him as a yoyo. He'll be going up and down like that the entire time you know him.

We try to show the best of ourselves at the beginning of any sort of relationship, if that is his best and it's left you writing this post, then you're surely in for trouble if you continue.

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posted March 25, 2014 12:46 PM            

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This is coming from someone with a Cancer Sun, Virgo Asc and way too much Mercury in my veins: we are not stable!! (Uranus is at fault in my veins too...) Also, he is a douche.

You can and will do much better!!!

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posted March 25, 2014 12:58 PM            

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Thank you...

I knew him for about two minutes and now he is completely gone. i will send the money via snail mail because I don't believe in dramatic endings (Do I want to give him a piece of my mind, explain everything, and make him remember what fun we had -HELL YES! but I feel it will fall on deft ears) and I am only paying him back so don't feel I owe him anything. I will let him go on his way and me on mine. I will be fine. I just feel really stupid. And as far as him being a yoyo the entire time I know him...our entire fling was about 100 hours, that is manageable....unless you guys try to do fly byes ....but he ran hard and fast... trouble believing there was a real feeling there to begin with

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posted March 25, 2014 01:11 PM            

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Thank you...

I knew him for about two minutes and now he is completely gone. i will send the money via snail mail because I don't believe in dramatic endings (Do I want to give him a piece of my mind, explain everything, and make him remember what fun we had -HELL YES! but I feel it will fall on deft ears) and I am only paying him back so don't feel I owe him anything. I will let him go on his way and me on mine. I will be fine. I just feel really stupid. And as far as him being a yoyo the entire time I know him...our entire fling was about 100 hours, that is manageable....unless you guys try to do fly byes ....but he ran hard and fast... trouble believing there was a real feeling there to begin with

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posted March 25, 2014 01:15 PM            

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This belongs in Personal Readings. Post it there.

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posted March 25, 2014 01:24 PM            

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Charlie... you sound perfect for me lol!

I love a challenge and spontaneity, variety, get bored easy, always want something that is different than anyone else, write my own rules, proud to have turned down 5 proposals and to stand on my own.... but....

I crave stability, tradition, a partner, history, hate that I am single, I like to stand back and observe.... Your basic hot mess that can appear very calm cool and collected.

I blame this all on Venus in Aquarius, AC in Leo, Sun in Cappy, and Lilith in Virgo

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posted March 25, 2014 03:27 PM            

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Hello lilred! Welcome to LL

moving to Personal Readings

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"For all those who believe, expect a miracle.”
Linda Goodman 1925-1995

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posted March 25, 2014 06:58 PM            

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I think thing big red flag for me is the texting 400 times in a 48 hour period plus him wanting to move so fast.

It's too much and you sensed it so you should have snapped that one off right away.

I can't think of any good solid realtionship that has that much attention involved becuase it raises the question if you're spending that much time for someone/on someone that you're neglecting quite a bit.

It's hard to take the time to get know someone but your instincts seem to be there. The big mistake people make is ignoring red flags becuase they don't go away they only get worse.

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posted March 25, 2014 07:21 PM            

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Charlie, do you go back? I just want to make sure it is done and I am back on top. I had a dream sensing the problem but in the end I denfended him to everybody told them he was my boyfriend ... I word I just don't use, I would rather a friend, partner, roommate, lover.... And I turned to him told him I knew exactly what he did and he pulled me in, kissed me and said who is my girl. ... I am good with my dreams and sent my sensibilities out the window. I can't move to another country right now haha... I just need to be done

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posted March 25, 2014 10:05 PM            

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Dont ever go out with a man and help him bring the bill up to $300 dollars. Thats what gold diggers do. My mom taught me to help out with a bill even if they refuse u stuff it into their pockets.

I know many cappies and the women are cheap even though they claim they are independent.

Hes not rich.

People have bills to pay.
I would have been turned off.

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posted March 25, 2014 11:00 PM            

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Sorry... But he had been out all day with out me and I offered the ATM but he declined... I just didn't have cash. I would have been beyond happy to help. I obviously forgot to mention I left tip every other place we had been and go out of my way to buy him drinks

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posted March 26, 2014 11:17 AM            

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Originally posted by lilred:
Sorry... But he had been out all day with out me and I offered the ATM but he declined... I just didn't have cash. I would have been beyond happy to help. I obviously forgot to mention I left tip every other place we had been and go out of my way to buy him drinks

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Im pretty sure it didnt total $300 bucks. It normal for a man to decline because he wants to be a man. but sheesh. Im sure he has rent to pay and times are hard. If he was a millionare that would be a different story.

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