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Topic: Triangle situation dream
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Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 969
From: Hungary
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 06, 2017 03:03 AM
  
I've found myself in a triangle situation lately. I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks now and we seem to be interested in each other, we even feel that we're each other's soul mate, but he's still in a relationship of 8 years full of hardships. It was very strange, because last night I dreamed with his partner - I don't actually know how she looks like in waking life, but in my dreams she always appears as a black haired, negative, vengeful woman. This time my dream was very short.She is holding a maxi floral pattern dress which is closed and has no zipper or anything. The skirt part under the waistline is not wide at all, no-one can get under it. Suddenly, she looks at me in a very spiteful, jealous manner, grabs a pair of scissors, and cuts the back of the dress exactly at the line of buttocks to make it appear as 'open'. Then, she tries to make me jealous by stating "don't worry, honey, we still get into bed", but I don't get jealous, because I am aware of what she's done to the dress, and I know she's lying to make me feel really bad. I definitely feel she wants me to get lost, so she does everything to keep him.
Then, I am texting him about this, and he replies 'true', but I get confused, because I don't know what he refers to as being true. I find these dreams very strange, because I don't think she knows that I even exist, but at the same time she acts very nasty towards me in my dreams. It was not the first time. IP: Logged |
Ayelet
Moderator Posts: 2479
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 07, 2017 03:37 PM
Hello Emsie,
It seems like you picture yourself that unknown woman as the source of all the problems this couple is having, and also as an obstacle standing in the way of a union between you and that guy.
It could be that the dress the woman is holding is a symbol of your feminine role in the relationship. Perhaps you feel she is holding in her hands your prospects or future role. How did you feel about this dress? Why is it so narrow, if I understood correctly, so no one can come under it? Is it hard to wear this dress? What does this say to you (perhaps it is a clue about your feelings of suitability to your part in the relationship)?
The flowers may represent love and romance.
The woman is sabotaging the dress. So she is standing in the way of your interest, and perhaps blocking your progress altogether. What does it mean the she cuts the dress from behind? Could it hint some sort of betrayal, or feeling of betrayal? It could also signify sexuality, and she goes on speaking about that.
In any case, you don't believe her. You probably do feel uneasy at the thought that they may still share their bed, but you are sure she only tries to hurt you. It's a scenario where you see her as all bad and him as all good, while you are the heroine, and now he is the hero.
He is texting you "true" and you get confused. Perhaps it signifies you not knowing whether he is 'true' or not? Or your confusion regarding your state of affairs, from his point of view.IP: Logged |
Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 969
From: Hungary
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 07, 2017 04:46 PM
I think everything you wrote is true. At least you write true things  I do feel, indeed, that she stands between me and this guy. He wrote me about the possibilities with me, that if he got attracted to me, then could be able to leave everything behind and start anew. And he also wrote me that they are constantly having serious hardships, but their connection works. I think the "true" refers to this, because I really feel what he wrote sounds contradictory - like he's constantly been in an actually bad relationship for 8 years. I just can't understand in general how a 'bad' relationship can 'work'.IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 7748
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 12, 2017 12:00 AM
May be some old karmic situation, Emsie. Your mind is seeing into it.And it's normal to be upset. Like Ayelet said, he might not be a good suitor for you. You can see the redeeming qualities, and some 'fixer' part of you can see the potential with this person in spite of his faults? ... Shows consistency and loyalty on your part? -- but he's 'attached' to that woman in ways you can't understand.
Not fair to you if she IS that jealous type.
Then too... the dream is about energy that is inside you too, to look at in a kind and objective way. Discover new parts of yourself.
Should make you wonder more about him too?
(I believe that sometimes we can be psychically picking up on other people's energy... ((but sort through your own too}}.) Why would you still want to be with him? You still want him to notice you...
What would you do inside, if he totally did? Maybe write some fantasies in your journal pages. Hon in on what it is you're looking for in a future relationship-- not with him, but with someone else you'd attract and meet. He was just one bite of a 'sampler' ... Go for the WHOLE Box of Chocolates, ~Girl!!  -- Build your own palatte ... fill each little paper cup with a one-word paper, a special wish of qualities you'd want your Heart's mate to have?   Miracles can Happen???! Take yourself OUT of that Toxic situation. Start Fresh! You Deserve Better~~ IP: Logged |
Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 969
From: Hungary
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 19, 2017 06:49 AM
Hi there, mirage!Since then the situation has gotten a lot more clearer. I think I'm doing exactly what my first dream of them suggested (and which I did not post here) He was laying in a bed saying he needed me, and at the same time his partner was standing also on the other side of the bed looking completely clueless. At the end I decided to walk away all alone, because he'd have stayed in his bed totally fixed, I guess. I think in waking life this is also the case, it would only be an endless loop of attraction and hopelessness, which I definitely don't need. I've been thinking a lot, and yes, he looks very attractive to me, and I feel some kind of special bond, I'd definitely date him in other circumstances, but at the same time I feel I don't want to get tangled up in this at all. Attraction and/or love in itself is not enough to establish a committed relationship. The other reason why I think we're better off friends is that I've had some interesting events happening intuitively, and I've also gotten some guidance from others. I can also feel that someone is coming into my life soon who would be able to provide me a committed love relationship I deserve. I got reminders from others about this which really made me curious, so they definitely helped me to get over this situation fairly easy. So, I think you're right, this person was only a "sampler" from the whole chocolate box. For me, let's say, it was only one bite, but I did not feel the need to invest in it further. IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 7748
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 19, 2017 06:02 PM
That certainly IS a lot more clear, isn't it...You sound like you know your own mind-- You know what you are looking at and potentially getting into (bed) with... You're making a healthy choice for 'you.' You don't need someone who has someone else on the side. From your excellent description, I can sense the dynamic there... wow! You've got strength, and you're an inspiration for making that decision! What I didn't like about that situation was that he was actually 'using' you, Emsie... That's not right. It's not right or fair to YOU, nor the other person he held on his chain? *chain chain chain...  * No more gamers, not going to play! So many more pieces in the frame of that box called Relationship. What a complex and Beautiful puzzle that life and relationships present us. (music) Just Breathe (Pearl Jam, lyrics) [3:35] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHRuS6X3JpU IP: Logged |
Emsie
Knowflake Posts: 969
From: Hungary
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 20, 2017 06:50 AM
Fortunately, it only happened online. We were about to meet, or at least talking about it to become clear about the situation. At the beginning he wrote me that he could have left everything behind easily, which I found so vague. These days it seems that I was right, and he even acts very strange towards me like trying to avoid me and shield himself. He was so confusing, no wonder, he's confused as well... He good as a penfriend, I remain open talking to him, but regarding love I've already turned a page. c:IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 7748
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 20, 2017 09:33 AM
I'm so sorry, Emsie... that feels sad somehow.   IP: Logged | |
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