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Topic: No (few) friends?
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Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5484 From: saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:06 PM
What aspects/planetary placements would indicate it? An empty 11th house would explain it may be?IP: Logged |
curious girl Knowflake Posts: 123 From: Registered: Jul 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:08 PM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: What aspects/planetary placements would indicate it? An empty 11th house would explain it may be?
Planets in 4th or in 12th? Those would make introvers. IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 7609 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted March 07, 2013 02:20 PM
Saturn in the 11th or the 3th house, or Capricorn on the 11th house cusp ( i.e. -Saturn rules your 11th house) or Saturn aspecting the 11th house ruler with a hard aspectIP: Logged |
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posted March 07, 2013 02:26 PM
Saturn rules my 3rd. Transit saturn in h12 made me reclusive and i haven't seen many in quite awhile. I trust my social abilities and ability to make new ones so i didn't see it as much of a loss. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5484 From: saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 02:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by Orange: Saturn in the 11th or the 3th house, or Capricorn on the 11th house cusp ( i.e. -Saturn rules your 11th house) or Saturn aspecting the 11th house ruler with a hard aspect
Hmmmm, nope... my 11H is scorp,saturn trine pluto at 3 degree, neptune in 11H sag. My AC is cap. saturn in 7H IP: Logged |
starfairy Knowflake Posts: 814 From: Registered: Jul 2010
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posted March 07, 2013 02:45 PM
I agree with orange.I have Saturn in the 11th (placidus) and have very few friends ( by choice). The ruler of my 11th is in Capricorn. I'm very much about quality over quantity. My sun is in the 12th so I'm very much a loner. And my moon is in my 4th. IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 7609 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted March 07, 2013 02:45 PM
Then i have no idea.could be Saturn in the 7th ( other people) but not sure about that. what is the situation with your 3th house? IP: Logged |
ScorpioMoon Knowflake Posts: 255 From: the 4th house Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 07, 2013 03:20 PM
quote: Originally posted by Orange: Saturn in the 11th or the 3th house, or Capricorn on the 11th house cusp ( i.e. -Saturn rules your 11th house) or Saturn aspecting the 11th house ruler with a hard aspect
^ This
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ruledbyplutoandmars Knowflake Posts: 155 From: St. Paul, MN, USA Registered: Feb 2013
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posted March 07, 2013 03:38 PM
quote: Originally posted by curious girl: Planets in 4th or in 12th? Those would make introvers.
I'm so bad. :/ Hahaha. Sun: 4th House Moon: 1st House (Ascendant) Mercury: 3rd House Venus: 4th House Mars: 4th House Jupiter: 4th House Saturn: 7th House Uranus: 5th House Neptune: 5th House Pluto: 4th House ------------------ Rising: Virgo Sun: Scorpio Moon: Virgo IP: Logged |
11nahyt Knowflake Posts: 3431 From: Neptune. where the witches wear givenchy Registered: Feb 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 04:11 PM
I don't have anyone I consider a true friend. Just many acquaintances. The funny thing , is that many people consider me to be their close friend . They can confide in me, but not me with them though. I have no planets in the 11th. Capricorn neptune and Saturn are in my 10th, 6 degrees away from my 11th. My 11th house cusp is in Capricorn.i have Jupiter cancer in my 4th house. I have an empty Gemini 3rd house. I love being a loner. IP: Logged |
libraschoice77 Knowflake Posts: 1740 From: A Danielle Steele Novel Registered: Aug 2010
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posted March 07, 2013 04:56 PM
I have most of the placements mentioned, planets in 4th and in 12th, along with Saturn in 3rd and I am a loner. My husband has Saturn in 11th house and he is also a loner despite being fire heavy in his natal chart.IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy Knowflake Posts: 9778 From: Death Star Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 05:04 PM
Uranus and Mercury 4H quote: Saturn aspecting the 11th house ruler with a hard aspect
I have a square. There are 2 people I used to consider my friends but now I don't know what to think. One friendship has probably died already and the other one...I realized trusting him might not be a good idea and I distanced myself. He's the only person I feel like hanging out with which actually means I spend the majority of time on my own. I live with my family but I avoid them as much as possible so that doesn't count. I have a few acquaintances too but we're not in touch anymore. If we accidentaly meet, we say hi and talk for a few minutes if we're not in rush, that's it.
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Orange Knowflake Posts: 7609 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted March 07, 2013 05:28 PM
quote: Originally posted by starfairy: I agree with orange.I have Saturn in the 11th (placidus) and have very few friends ( by choice). The ruler of my 11th is in Capricorn. I'm very much about quality over quantity. My sun is in the 12th so I'm very much a loner. And my moon is in my 4th.
I have Cappy on my 11th and i also have a few friends by choice. The one i have are long term friends and i can trust them with my life. There are people who want to be my friends but i dismiss them because they are not a friendship material. FFriendship is a big deal to me.
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Mandy pie Knowflake Posts: 88 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 07:50 PM
I have had no or few real friends in my whole life. (I'm in my 30's now) In fact the major theme of my life has been so called "friends" stabbing me in the back or using me.This is actually the story behind how I ended up getting into astrology in the first place. I am not the type of person to blindly believe in things and I was in the camp of 'astrology is a scam'. An accidental visit with a Vedic astrologer changed all that. Vedic astrology is very literal and direct compared to western astrology. Anyway I was on a business trip with an aquaintance of mine and there was this sort of county fair thing. In one of the booths you could get a short 5-10 minute reading from a Vedic astrologer. I didn't want to spend my ticket on it, but my aquaintence insisted that the astrologer "blew his mind" and that the astrologer said things to him that no one else ever knew. yeah right- I thought... obviously this scam artist just noticed a few things about you or surmised certain things about you based on what you said about yourself in there or whatever. But to avoid a fight I went inside and paid my ticket. I expected the astrologer to ask me questions about myself which would in turn give him ideas about me that he could use in his "reading"... or that he would just spout out general readings that could apply to almost anyone. Like- you're looking for love etc... or some nonsence like that. Well, what happened next completely surprised me. The astrologer not only didn't ask me any questions- he barely even looked at me! All he said was not even facing my direction "fill out this card, please." The card had only 3 questions on it. 1) What is your date of birth, 2) time of birth and 3)place of birth. That's it. Didn't even ask for a first name. When I was done he took the card- still not looking at me and put the information into his laptop. a minute later he printed out my birthchart, placed the paper in front of him and looked at it. He then said the following: "I see in your chart that you are for the most part, a good and kind person- however despite this, you have never had any real friends and likely never will. Your problems in life you must usually face alone. Your friends are very likely to be secretly your enemies- for this reason you may actually be better off alone. For all your life you must be very wary of anyone claiming to be a friend because they will likely betray you despite you being good to them. They will have no reason to turn on you and yet still- they will. I am sorry to have to tell you this. It seems that in your past life you were not appreciative of your friends and now in this life, you must pay for that oversight." That was the end of the reading. My jaw dropped. There was NO WAY he could've known those things about me! NO ONE in my life knew those things about me. Not a single soul other than myself. It was not something I shared with anyone. Plus, that was not the sort of thing that could apply to just anyone. That was a very specific reading that would only apply to a few people in the world probably. Because almost everyone on the planet has friends... even murderers and thieves have them. It is not common to not have them and to have almost all of the one's you've had in 3 decades suddenly turn on you for no reason. And this guy got this from just my birth information! I mean I was floored! My mind was officially blown. I begged the astrologer to explain how he knew that and he said something that at the time was mostly jibberish to me that I had a stellium in the 11th house, but that the lord of the 11th was in a bad position. He said this indicated "bad/false friends" and a desire for true friendship but being denied it my whole life. That's how I met astrology... and began to respect it. IP: Logged |
rosedl Knowflake Posts: 70 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 07, 2013 08:16 PM
Friends are very important to me. I spend a lot of time cultivating my friendships. I spent years without other strong female supports and friendships, and it makes me treasure them all the more. I have a couple good male friend as well.I don't understand why people wouldn't want to have real friends. During my recent breakup, I had five people calling a day who really cared how I was doing. I had friends to sit with me, go out and dance with me, cry with me. (Of course, I have done it all for them, and would do it any day of the week). My ex who just broke up has no close friends. The only person he has close is his daughter, and I thought he was a bit nuts but he wants to be alone. So he will be. All alone. Yikes. I guess some people are just loners and they need the solace and space of their own mind. I like my space, but I am with me all the time! IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3996 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 08:20 PM
I have friends, but few of them.Chatted with a lot of people, but have few friends, and the conversations are not supportive in the classic sense. More, we share problems with our own take on them, then go to an metaphorical topic. My close friends are not likely to offer a hug, but they do offer a sort of support. IP: Logged |
charlie Knowflake Posts: 4718 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 08:23 PM
I have a stellium in 11H (5 planets) and Saturn is included. I have very few FRIENDS, by choice, and many acquaintances. I feel like I can't connect fully with someone if I have too many friends..IP: Logged |
Lazyscarecrow Knowflake Posts: 1385 From: Silent Hill Registered: Aug 2011
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posted March 07, 2013 08:57 PM
Wow. Saturn is in the 2nd but is practically on top of the 3rd house cusp in my natal chart. Saturn co-rules the 3rd house along with Uranus. The 11th house ruler is opposite Saturn. Also have an empty 11th house, but practically all the communication/relationship/air houses in my chart are empty. I only have maybe one friend and I can't even rely on her for most of my issues and such. I mean, not in a dependent baby way but if I wanted to vent I don't really feel better talking to her. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent Knowflake Posts: 4122 From: vodka fine, I'm so divine Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 09:24 PM
I have many acquaintances and I know quite a few people, but I only really do stuff with four people at the most.Things I think might contribute...hmmm...maybe simply Sun on the IC. IP: Logged |
Lunae Knowflake Posts: 2309 From: Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 09:29 PM
I have an empty 11th house with Aries and Taurus in it and a stellium in its opposing house, which is the 5th house Libra/Scorpio.I have many acquaintances but only a few close friends. For some reason, people don't always like me. I don't do anything to them in particular but they are just repelled by me. I come across as overconfident, even though I dob't do it on purpose. I was also bullied in my HS years. It's like I'm meant to be alone lol. IP: Logged |
magicspells Knowflake Posts: 247 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 09:31 PM
I have 3 planets in virgo in the 11th houseNot particularly social..I dont have that many friends, or rather I choose my close friends very wisely I am rather introverted though what with moon/saturn in the 4th, venus in the 12th and scorp rising IP: Logged |
peregrine unregistered
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posted March 07, 2013 10:29 PM
when i got a dog i was like omg who needs friends look at this chubbler he's so funny looking and cute eff friendship! IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5484 From: saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 11:49 PM
quote: Originally posted by Orange: Then i have no idea.could be Saturn in the 7th ( other people) but not sure about that. what is the situation with your 3th house?
I feel my chart is a mystery situation of my 3rd house: 3rd house is pisces, neptune in 11th.neptune makes no hard aspects in my chart except the squaring Mars and semi sq AC, otherwise it trines my sun,merc,venus, (exact for both venus and merc)and saturn. IP: Logged |
peregrine unregistered
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posted March 07, 2013 11:54 PM
Leo/Aquarius or Fifth/Eleventh House AxisIf your Leo/Aquarius or fifth/eleventh house axis is intercepted you will find that you develop some rather illusive friendships in an attempt to feel as if you belong. Because many of the persons you come into contact with are not quite compatible with you character, you may at times feel somewhat depressed as you seek a group of people who you feel comfortable with. This sequence of friendship building through trial and error is a valuable testing ground for you as you slowly gain confidence and begin to realize who your true friends are. Holidays will be very important to you as you have an innate desire to have fun and enjoy yourself in your free time. Even if you are unable to travel abroad, you will relish those day trips which help you to break free from day-to-day living which can be so confining to you. Much of your free time will be devoted to leisure activities such as sightseeing, walking the dog or lavishing affection on the one you adore. You are likely to have at least one rather torrid love affair in your life which will help you to clarify those attractive persons who you should get to know better and those who are better left alone. Pets are paramount figures in your life. Even if you personally don’t want the responsibility, your partner may convince you that he or she won’t be happy until these loving souls are able to enter the home. If your partner is unable to sway you into getting a family pet, then you may alternatively have an addition to the family in the form of a child. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Moderator Posts: 5484 From: saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted March 07, 2013 11:55 PM
quote: Originally posted by peregrine: when i got a dog i was like omg who needs friends look at this chubbler he's so funny looking and cute eff friendship!
I feel the same way, when I got mine Nah seriously, am a big loner. I love being a loner, not having friends have never bothered me. But recently am feeling a shift in my personality. Things are changing and I feel confused IP: Logged |